Is it possible to grow out of love with someone?

[precious_sango]

..not out of lack of sexual attraction but emotional connection. It seems I have talked to my husband several times about there being a lack of emotional connection but it does nothing. I am 25 and have been married for 6years. He's never cheated on me but we have been seperated many times for several months at a time due to the military. When we are seperated physically it actually forces him connect emotionally however for me it seems the opposite (like it's too late). because when we are together it's nonexistant. he blames it on me that i'm not looking hard enough but when he actually does make an effort i do acknowledge it. does someone stay out of obligation cause there's no justification of an excuse?i once heard obligation is doing the right thing when you don't want to. but what if it's only the right thing to do for the other person? do you still suck it up and oblige?

[coolbryce14]

For some, yes. But love never ends.

[salmonbellies16]

sad you do not grow out of love you fall out of love hard to explain

[xroxme1]

well of course you can love someone but not be IN LOVE with them...it usually happens but marriage is about ups and downs...your emotinally connected then your not...if talking doesnt help then try something different...i think marriage should be looked at as something you have to fight for no matter what...but thats why somany people divorce

[Dove4965]

yes

[auranna76]

u were married young and u both are individuals who are continually groing, changing... it's is very possible to grow out of love!

[RyanM]

I know exactly how you feel. I started dating a girl in highschool and we ended up together for almost four years. After highschool ended which was about the two year mark, we ended up moving to seperate schools and for the most part we made the long distance thing work. However, in the middle of second year University, she moved to Bangkok to do some modelling jobs while I stayed in Canada to pursue my schooling. When she came back, she had a cocaine habit and was not the same, sweet, beautiful girl I fell in love with in highschool...or for the next 3 years following for that matter. Point is, people change, and sometimes those changes do not run parallel to eachother, they veer off in different directions. In my story things ended poorly, but I am over it now, single, but still happy. I wish you the best of luck, and I appreciate you sharing your experience, I hope I could help in some small way. Cheers

[Michelle9191]

Sometimes people just fall apart.You could go to a marriage counselor if you want to see if you can salvage your emotional relationship, but if you aren't feeling that connection it's hard to get that back.You should never feel obligated to be with someone....you should be with them because you love them and can share a connection.You should take a vacation together...try to rekindle the spark, so to speak

[GV3609]

Life is short to be unhappy. Women tend to think too much about all the things that never cross a man's mind. If you are truly unhappy then go and do what you need to do to fulfill your needs. Remember you can't keep going back or that emotional connection your talking about will disintegrate. Sometimes we over think situations and make them into something they are not. Think about what you really want out of life... write it down. If you find he's not in the equation then start making the steps for a healthy break up.

[ms]

not good

[bruns24cm]

it is possible to FALL out of love....i was married 5 years the first marriage i realized i am not in love with him anymore....a few weeks prior to that i thought can i spend the rest of my life with him? if the answer is no...get out fast.. the thought of being married to him sickened me. i didnt love him anymore... the connection was gone.

[ChristineM]

try some marriage therapy its worth a try

[JR]

Very interesting question and one that's been asked since the beginning of time. The answer is yes, but in the same token your love for each other can start to grow at any time. From your brief history I can see that our families have a common start. Married at an early age, military with months away, and about the same point in our marriage we asked the same question you are asking now. To be in love is not easy and to be married is even harder. It really is two working as one to enjoy life, make a living, and raise a family. With that said, my belief is that you are not required to "stay out of obligation" and by no means should you. But I do believe in the commitment you made to each other. I believe in working together, being honest, and giving your love an opportunity to grow. It just might. Take a step back and evaluate yourself, evaluate your situation, listen to what others have to say and make your own decision. Wish you the best. FYI.. Married 25 years now.