Is talking about sex online cheating?

[tp]

I knew my husband was looking up sex online when I found papers in the garbage. I didn't bring up the subject till a couple of years later when he was on the computer all the time even in front of me, i finally got up the nerve to ask what he was doing, he told me. He was talking about BDSM with other woman. I asked to see what he was writing but he hide the screen. Then he wanted me to talk to women about this ... Well I am not into this at all. He said thats the way he is and there is nothing wrong to talk about sex online.Maybe sex is not that great with me, we have had our problem. He won't move back to my country even though I am very unhappy, plus when he wanted sex there was never any cuddling up on the sofa before there is never any affection throughout the day, simple touching. I guess I don't get excited by him just saying you want to have sex tonight! I need affection. Plus him leaving sex magazine in the house is a turnoff for me.Any opions on this subject?

[Niel9963]

i think it is cheating actually. if he is not affectionate to u, what r u waiting for? There r lots of guys who will get attracted by u;just move on.

[_Katerrr5421]

Ya, tell him that he is being disrespectful, and hurting your feelings, not to mention treating you like crap. You guys are in a marriage and you need to be committed to each other, and comprimise. I would be equally mad, if not madder if my BF was doing this, because I would never do that to him. You guys really need to have a serious talk.

[JustinSane]

Talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. If he can't understand or compromise, then he shouldn't be with you. It seems like all he's looking for is sex and nothing more. If you don't like it and he can't change, then leave him.

[smiliechicka22]

Yes, I think it is cheating...

[steph5792]

If it bothers you then online chating about sex is cheating.

[ector1979]

i believe that is yes. the reason is that hi don't have to look to web sites if he is on a relation already he should be concentrate on what he have at home. and you should talk to him spice thing (remember communication is the key)

[HorseListener]

I can lead to cheating.

[anubisrising2002]

The Internet has made real mess of things. The problem is that now you can find, discuss and chat about anything with anybody without the face-to-face interaction. It makes things less real, and makes it seem okay. My you, just talking about sex is not particularly a bad thing - I ran a site about sexuality for years. It was kind of a self help/advice type environment, and I felt a lot of good came out of it. When it'd one on one...well there lies the problems.Years ago, i might have said it was no big deal. Now... I have to say that its an issue, and you should talk to your husband. Let him know how it makes you feel. The Internet can open the floodgates and sometime guys with fantasies or fetishes they've never dreamed of bring up to their wives if there for them to play with on line. Hell..i won't even get into how deeply in trouble i got into talking to an ex girlfriend on line... but someone who shares his fantasies? Its very seductive.You need to talk to him - and if he continues to be into the PC more than he is into YOU... you may want to consider getting him help - because sex on the Internet is an addiction like real sex can be. After that... you may want to consider leaving him to his cyber vixen's and find happiness elsewhere.

[Jack2513]

If YOU think it's cheating, then it is cheating. It's like when Bill Clinton said "Oral sex isn't sex." First of all it IS sex - duh - and I'm pretty sure Hillary considers it sex. Love Jack