Is jealousy a SIN?

[BetrayedandInsane8797]

My husband was unfaithful to me with a few different girls and long story short, I have seen them on my space and they are drop dead gorgeous, just the way he likes them thick and curvy (Like JLO) and big TNA, which is the complete opposite of me. They dress different and I am the complete opposite of them. And I just recently had a baby which I gained 75 lbs so I feel very unattractive, I just cant get over how he could be with these women after I was so good to him, and I cant stop look ing at these photos of these women. I feel so ugly and fat, and even if I wasnt fat I still wouldnt compare to these women because I am nothing like them. Any words of wisdom, I know many willl say "Stop looking at pics" which dont work cause even when i dont look I feel the same way. Why do men cheat I used to be beautiful prepregnancy so why did he need them. And also please dont say to Leave him because I want to work it out, but I know that I will never be enough for him and I can neve trunever trust him ever again

[heyyou]

try counseling hun~ but no i dont think jealousy is a sin

[devil]

yes it is a sin also called envy. It shouldnt matter he loves you enough that just superstars he'll probley never meet them

[LeighinG]

Yes, I think jealousy is definitely a sin no matter if your a bit jealous or a LOT jealous.

[Twiggy]

Place a high priority on how you feel INSIDE not outside. Those women are probably shallow to by having an affair with a married man. You should not envy that!

[Lunaeclipz3838]

Hit the gymn honey-get back in physical shape then work on your self esteem!

[Pam9746]

To answer your question - yes, it is one of the seven deadly sins.

[CorrineB3194]

some men are cheaters no matter how wonderful or beautiful their wives are, and some men never cheat even when their wives are mean and weigh 300 lbs. Its the personality of the man. Social men tend to be more of the cheating type. I married a very quiet shy man who adores me and even though he finds other women beautiful, would never touch another one other than me. If you want to work it out you will have to accept his character flaws and that he may or may not do it again in the future. I personally don't see why you would want to work it out with someone that doesn't treat you with an ounce of respect and doesn't love you very much either if he is capable of acting this way. If you had any self esteem you would have left. Good luck.

[ValerieX-ooops2929]

Envy is a sin, if you want to be technical about it however, you would'nt be feeling this way IF YOUR MAN WOULD OF KEPT HIS D I C K IN HIS PANTS!!!I feel bad for you- no man or woman should be forced to feel so badly about themsleves and I am sure you are quite adorable!

[JoshFenix]

You are asking a question that you won't allow an answer too, you deserve to feel the way you feel, "inadequate", because you failed to do what you should have done, which was to get divorced, live with the consequence of that decision or change it.

[DonJ6565]

"never trust him ever again"**You finish your question with a huge contradiction. How can u honestly thing you can work things out with this type of mentality?I was going to recommend a couple of things, but then I read this,,,I think there will be no hope for your marriage, unless you can learn to forgive and with an honest approach face the reapir of your relationship...good luck

[litlm]

Listen to Twiggy.Then work on your self esteem. You need to know you are beautiful inside and outside, and that has nothing at all to do with your husband cheating. He would be cheating on JLO.If you want to work on the relationship, although I don't know why you would, work on your self esteem, and give your man a wake-up kick in the pants. You are going to have to accept that he is a cheater, will cheat again, and live with that.

[tiuliucci2526]

You say that everyone says leave him, but you want to work it out. The problem with working it out is as follows:Cheaters cheat for one of two reasons. Either they do not respect their partner or they are running away from marital issues. In his case, he does not respect you and therefore cheated.I wonder if he is telling you the truth about the girls that he says he cheated with. He might have come up with these two girls in order to give you names, but the real girls are not as great looking as these two. You see, cheaters cannot be trusted and will continue to lie until every lie is caught.This is not just about men cheating. This is standard behavior by a person who cheats whether male or female. He has destroyed the trust in your relationship and that cannot be rebuilt. Without him respecting you and you trusting him, you are trying to salvage a dead relationship.Even if the pics of the girls are real, he is not worth it. You can be jealous of those girls, but they have nothing to do with the real issue. They are victims of his lies just as you are.Take care,Troy

[KittyKat6959]

Yes, jealous is a sin so instead of sitting back and feeling bad about yourself, go to Weight Watchers and start getting the weight off and start walking everyday and get more exercise so you will stay healthy for your children's sake.As far as your husband, I don't think your weight has anything to do with it. HE has a serious problem and needs to get counseling and quit being an adulterer. You need to quit letting him walk all over you. He took vows when he married you and he needs to stay faithful to you.He should be there encouraging you to get the weight off for health reasons, not because he wants someone who is all curvy and soft. You both have the wrong attitude about what makes a beautiful person and the outer package is NOT it !! It is what is inside that really counts and right now, your husband looks pretty empty because he has already lied to you, broken the trust you had and made a mockery of your marriage.The decision is yours. Get some counseling for yourself even if he won't go with you. You need to get a backbone and let him know this stops and it stops now or he can leave. Do you want your children to grow up with a man who doesn't love or respect you so they can learn that being faithful to your spouse is something they can totally ignore? Shame on you if you let that happen.Sit down and talk with him about these issues and tell him you want to work on this and get counseling. Start going to church as a family and make new friends. He should in no way being hanging out with single friends, in the bars or doing things without his family. If he wanted to do that, he should have stayed single. Now he is an adulterer and you are sitting back and condoning it :( I find that even sadder and hope you will get counseling and make a new life for you and your child if your husband won't grow up and be a man.You need to learn to love and respect the good person you are and quit letting him walk all over you.

[jstagirl19693959]

why would you want to stay with someone who cheats on you with multi women, one that doesnt really care about you, and one that you cant trust? you are only hurting yourself. i mean, how many times does he have to cheat on you and you know it for you to wake up? i cant feel sorry for someone who enables the situation and wont help themselves out of a hurtful situation either. i would let him go cause he may not be happy with you. i undestand that you may be a good person but that wont make someone faithful towards you. if you keep putting up with it you will keep getting the same rersults!

[VivianMaliaB]

Yes, jealousy is very much a sin..In fact it leads to actions thatcan harm, Word of advice try counseling. Still bottom line is it won't work if only one person wants it to. Only you hold the key to the answer, but now you also have to look for the well-being of the child..Good luck & God Bless