what does this sound like to you?

[EmberHalo]

my husband works outside and gets muddy & wet & dirty everyday, and has a few hours after he gets off work before he picks me up from work, but doesn't bother changing or anything...yesterday morning he told me that we "need to talk" when i get home from work, that we needed to clear some things up...when he picked me up, he had not only changed his clothes, but he had also showered & shaved... and no longer wanted to talk... he said he had something to tell me, but "didn't feel like doing it tonight"... after i pressed him & we started fighting, he finally told me that he just wanted to talk about our relationship & get things "out in the open" but still wouldn't tell me what things... does this sound fishy to anyone else?or am i just starting to think like him (he's always accusing me of cheating or lying about something even though i've done nothing wrong)?i haven't said anything about it to him...what i really don't get though, is why he cleaned up? he never does that!! even if we're going somewhere he'll go with mud all over his jeans...oh, and we'll be married for a year in 2 wks...new occurrance...my husband just had flowers delivered to my work with a sweet little note!

[bailie28]

wow sounds odd...i would be kinda thinking he is gonna tell you he wants out

[JessicaC0162]

Sorry, sounds to me like he is going to end things.

[doobie725]

i think it sounds fishy. i personally would worry about it. but guys are weird. it could be nothing.

[momrfg2003]

He sounds like a man who has a really hard time communicating. I am married to one too. All you can do right now is try to catch him when he feels like talking and see if you can get it out of him. He will eventually talk.By the way, don't let him walk on you like that. If you don't speak up, it will only get worse and it will not keep him there. I know this because I did the same thing and my husband is leaving the day after Christmas.

[NiceLady8515]

Well SOMETHING is up. I don't know what. It might be very important. Be receptive. Even if it's bad news, you are going to get it sooner or later.

[curiousfeline99]

apparently, there is something serious that he needs to talk about..... i am sorry to say this, but i dont think it will be anything good, or else he wont be hesitant about talking to you.......whatever happrns, DONT SHOUT, SCREAM, GLARE OR THREATEN him in any way...... face the window if you need to, but keep your CALM......best of luck........have patience

[tballbabe9540]

It doesn't sound good,, prepare for the worst...

[Rein0977]

That sounds really scary to me. I have a big imagination though.

[Randy5263]

I would kick em to the curb...

[SkyWitch]

I think it's best to wait until the baby is born to hear his so-called delayed news.I think deep down inside you think he doesn't care about you, I mean why else are you posting questions in marriage and divorce all the time.Is having a man really that important to you?Do you actually think it's the end of the world if a guy didn't want you?I know it isn't the end of the world for me if a guy didn't want me because I simply just wouldn't want him back.Also, I wouldn't want ne'er do well loser so I could care less if he wanted me or not because I don't want him.I hope no ne'er do well loser even wants me, not being wanted by that creep is the best!

[Gretta4423]

You definitely need to set down ASAP and talk with your husband. It sounds as if he was gonna make a confession or try to end things, but had a change of heart at the last minute. Alot of times when someone is accusatory or blaming they have something to hide themselves and suspect their partners of unfaithfulness due to their own guilty conscience and paranoia.Just seems a little fishy as you said, so don't wait too long to have a heart to heart with him.Good luck and God bless!!

[unavailable]

that does sound a little worrisome and very childish on his part. why couldn't be talk to you? it's almost like he wants to torture you or something. it may be nothing though. men experience the same conflicting emotions we do while pregnant. my boyfriend never questioned our relationship, at least not to be me, but we did fight more and he did question his ability to be a father. maybe your guy is feeling a little insecure? either way, stay calm. i know that that is easier said than done, but don't freak yourself out too much. :)EDIT: why the thumbs down? because i didn't bash him and tell her to "leave 'em"? you people amaze me.

[immAGIRL]

men always do this always!!!!!!!!!!when they accuse you of cheating n stuff it really means that they r doin itjust say we need to talk now n dont take no for n answer n ask him if he is cheating or notn ask him wat things that needed to be out in the open--Dime

[RobertK]

The only thing I would add is that it's really pretty rude to let someone know that something is up, but then refuse to give details. I think some folks do this, maybe unconsciously, as a weapon of sorts. I don't know if your husband fits this category or not.But you should be able to get it all out in the open by pointing this out to him. You might just ask him if this is something that you should be worried about. You might be able to learn whether or not he's deliberately trying to keep you off-balance from his answer and subsequent behavior.Good luck to you.

[run_becky]

Doesn't sound good. Tell him you need the vehicle today so you can go shopping and maybe make a little surprise visit for lunch at his job. lol

[Areane]

hmn... showered and shaved...you wouldn't think he planned a surprised date, would you?but i can see plainly, that he wants to put an end to it.saying he wants it out in the open, even if he thinks you cheat or he does... he seemed to have planned everything already...he's leaving... for good....

[LoveMyAngel]

Maybe he wanted to take you out to dinner or something, i think he's trying to do a nice thing for you but then got scared of actually going through with his plan.. Who knows.. Men are strange creatures..*This girls are insane, i don't think he's leaving, why would he get all cleaned up to do that??