My husband got a girl pregnant ?

[Nora]

He said that hes not sure if its his but the girl told him when she found out that he was marreid and had 2 kids that he could go back to his family and that he would never hear from her again what can i do its the 2nd time he cheated on me i need lots of advice please help?

[Jessica1151]

You need to call a lawyer. He will not stop cheating because he knows you'll stay. It's time to prove him wrong and make him pay for his bad judgements. Good Luck.

[fallenfox2]

divorce is ass, he betrayed your trust, he obviously doesn't love you anymore, or enough, to not cheat on you

[interpol]

Leave him. This kid is not your responsibility, and he shouldn't be either.

[LATINAG]

the best thing for you to do is leave him once a cheater always a cheater. cause he knows your gonna for givee him you can forgive him but trust me you will never forget

[lekeshias8162]

Girl, it is time for you to start loving and respecting yourself. The hard part is over. You know! That should have been his biggest fear. Because the two of you have kids together does not mean he can just walk away from his responsibility, (if it is his kid) as a mother, you should encourage him to take care of the child if it is his, but you need to decide if this is something you can deal with. He is going to continue to cheat on you if you allow it. Don't be so afraid of losing him your lose yourself.

[chicata253194]

Nora,Your husband cheated on you, and not only direspected you in the worst of ways but also conceived a child with another women! It's time to kick his butt to the curb.

[biasednotoriety]

She will come out of the woodwork someday and demand child support more than likely...that affects YOU directly. I would tell him fool you once shame on you, fool you twice you get half his assets and say bye.

[plaplant8]

I think you need a lawyer. He won't change. He is jeopardizing your safetey by being like this. Get out now, it will only get worse. Before he brings you some std or something like that for Christmas, just show him to the door.And don't let it hit him in the ass.

[MrsDuncan5090]

Well I really like this saying: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

[Shaniqua]

i would leave him.

[SarahD]

ask yourselfdo you deserve such treatment?of course not!a marrige is built upon love and trust and if you can not have that than you should leave him and find some one who can give you that

[curiouscanadian]

Your husband is an habitual cheater and I am wondering about the times he hasn't told you about!

[BigAl]

Forgive him! and wait for the third time!

[AlB2550]

If he did it once and said he was sorry and tried to change, then perhaps give him a second chance but he had that and blew it. You can try counseling to see why he needs somone else when he has you but otherwise I would dump him and find someone who is there for you and not any girl who has no morals and will sleep with him. You can look at the comments about marriage at the site I will give you but if you can't trust him to keep his tool in his pants, you are better off without him.

[Nae0483]

You need to leave him. You have proof that he has cheated and if you take himto court he will be in trouble for cheating. He will loose everything. What a jerk!!

[NurseinOhio]

Seeing as how this is his 2nd time cheating...Definately get a lawyer and leave(or you can make him leave, the courts are on your side). He cheated once, he's only human, and you forgave him. But he did it to you again, and look. There's now a baby in the picture. If you choose to stay with him, there will always be the doubt in your mind that he will do it to you again.Also, may I suggest getting checked for STD's and HIV? 1/3 of people who have HIV/AIDS got it without knowing it from their partners. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

[MasterPsychicRachel]

Well, since this is the second time he has cheated on you, this means there will probably be a third time if you give him the chance. The fact, as well, there is a child now involved, means not only is he cheating, but he is not using protection. These types of actions give him a justifiable kick to the curb and have no regrets.This sort of man will not change and he obviously has no respect for you or himself. Do you really want to continue putting your heart, body and soul at risk?Think about it???

[glassesguru3590]

Speaking of the two children that you have...If nothing else, even if not for the love of yourself, what type of message do you think this sends to your children? God forbid you have a daughter that witnesses you letting your husband run over you like a dump truck. It is your responsibility to provide the safest and most healthy environment for them, not stay with there father for the "safety" of it. Send a clear message to them by letting them see their father, but separating yourself from this insanity. It will back up many of the lessons that you strive to teach them throughout their lives.Good luck, and I am so sorry you are having to go through this.

[Mac5178]

first you don't know for sure this woman will go away.she may be hard up and any time can go for support.that's the financial end of it then there is also there is a problem him doing it . it won;t be the last unless things change in your marriage that he is lacking.the only a guys going to cheat is because sex isn't working at home for whatever reason.he has to be honest and tell you whats wrong and you need to be open for change.if those things don't happen then time to find new mates.good luck.hope it works for you

[Konstantin7666]

if he is not sure, he should get tested. if the child is his, he must provide some support to the girl. don't be greedy, and God will love you.

[lynnn300931]

QUACK QUACK!!! Your husband is a dog! a cheating dog that does not use protection when he does it. She may not have know about you and your children, but he did!Next, if you stay with him, and allow him to possibly have a child out there and not support it so you can keep believing the pipe dream that he is not a CHEATER! then you are not a very nice person.Look get a lawyer, this will not end. there is a good chance the kid is his, b/c he told you. think about what he may gotten away with.If you do not you may end up with something you cannot get rid of.

[replexgirl2536]

My ex-husband cheated on me too, and I always said if he got another girl pregnant that I would leave. He never did and I continued to accept his cheating. One day I just got tired of it and couldn't get out of there quick enough. Hopefully that will happen for you one day soon. I have never looked back. I only wonder why I took it for so long?

[Heather1093]

and you took him back after he cheated the FIRST time? no one to blame but yourself. kick him out. that kid is HIS responsibility, NOT yours.

[kattz]

he obviously has no respect for himself, you, the pregnant girl or the unborn baby. hes a very selfish man and i think you need to pick up the pieces and get a better life and let him deal with his own messes

[Katie3744]

Dump him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This same thing happened to my parents and it ruined their lives. Please take out the trash and move on and be happy.

[kitkat5188]

That is not a good situation. He must be really dumb or else if he was gonna cheat he would have taken precautions!!. But, don't worry about him - he will be paying child support for 3 kids!! And when he does it again, maybe more. You need to plan to get away from him. Be strong, take the kids and kick him out. Tell him that he is not wanted in your life any more. You do not need someone who insists on cheating on you. Get legal aid or a lawyer, and believe that there is a better life for you and your kids with someone who will treat you well and not cheat on you.

[kiwifressa]

Let him go live with her. See how long that lasts.You need to move on. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.

[terribrooke]

It's actually very simple. Step 1: Call a divorce attorney.Step 2: Toss husband's clothes out onto front lawn.Step 3: Toss lit match into pile of clothes on front lawn.Step 4: Change locks on all doors in house.Step 5: Open champagne bottle and take big drink.Step 6: Be thankful that you are getting rid of that cheating SOB!

[everyoneask0203]

sorry to hear that your man cheated on you and he will do it again and now that he got the girl pregnant ..forget it ! dump him !!! dump him let him pay child support it pay back b**** !

[SickofFreaks]

Dump the chump, you deserve better and he will never be capable of giving it to you. Oh, and get a good lawyer, they are not cheap but worth every penny.

[cjjc1975]

obviously he has cheated on you now twice that you are aware off. He will continue to cheat on you as he knows you eventually take him back so in his eyes his not losing anything and gaining a conquest of having an affair.This other female who will be having your husband child will continue to be in your life as your the mother to her child siblings, you are also the child step mother as long as you are married to her father.This female may say your husband want see or hear from her but things change and as the child gets older there will be alot of questions.The child maybe knocking on your door one day looking for its father.You really need to be a strong person to know your husband has a child to someone else and quite possibly end out having to pay child support.Which will be a reminder to you of the affair every time he has to pay.Dont live in denial he will continue to cheat on you and if not on you he will do it to someone else.I wish you the best of luck

[julie0687]

eventhough i know this is the worst thing he couldve ever done to you part of you still wants to be with him. you think however long it may take, you can get over it since the girl is willing to cut off contact. my advice is ask yourself how would you handle it if the girl wants him to be a part of the baby's life??? not only will you have baby mama drama but your thoughts of him betraying you will resurface again and again. only a very strong person can accept it and move on. hang in there. do whats best for you bc whats best for you is best for your kids.