what do you do if your in a bad marriage?

[mimi9719]

my husband is very distant,cheated,abused me in the past.he keeps to hiself.has an addiction to computer chat rooms

[gretchen]

LEAVE!

[JohnD]

get all the cash and dip out

[Willow]

Um...get a divorce.

[glamour04111]

get out as soon as you can

[EllisFan]

Try therapy, either couples or individually for both of you.

[Jamir]

I'd dump him. I would rather be on my own than have someone else bringing me down. It may be harder financially for awhile, but my quality of life would be better.

[jwburton3]

Try very hard to work it out.

[PepperF]

well up till the abused part i would say try to make it work but no one should be abused leave

[MrsWhorton6944]

cut your losses and move on before he causes even more pain than he already has ......

[jack6324]

wow. im suprised you havent filed for divorce yet.you should either divorce orrr divorce

[TheGrammarPolice]

News flash! You have an addiction to Yahoo! Answers!

[BellaReveuse]

What do you do if you are trapped in a box with one door and a bad smell?Get OUT.

[TargetMan]

Ever see the movie Amityville Horror? rememebr the scene where the house goes "GET OUT KNOW!" thats your answer

[lilrockstah]

Uhm.Talk to him. Tell him what you are truely feeling.If he doesn't listen... Well... I would leave.

[snow_baby10210]

Work it out or LEAVE!

[ElenaE]

Might want to get a marriage therapist/ counselor first. If 2 people want that relationship he will show up with you to every session, if not then it may be time to get your affairs in order and file for div.......

[snowlady]

Get out and get a divorce

[Blue3899]

You should leave him. Life is too short to waste it with someone who treats you in such a manner.

[jonjon]

doesn't sound like he's interested - time to move on!!! At least let him know thats what you will do.

[Grandmatoo]

make it work or get out

[Rufas123]

Devorce Leave his sorry ***

[deborahh]

Put up with it,until you've had enough,and then leave!

[amelia]

i would get a divorce hun.my nickname is mimi too! how amazing, but if you want something to cheer you up how about this..get some visqueen, a saw, duct tape, and meet me by the old bridge.

[kissamahbutt]

I'm gonna go with.....Counseling. If that fails maybe it's time to get out.

[SandeepS]

Make ur own world ..But first try to mend the things in best possible way ! Please take CARE !!!!

[Sands8938]

Is he a virgo?

[cd]

Well Mimi, if you have to ask, maybe you should just stay and put up with whatever he does. If you're smart, you'll put an end to the crappy treatment. I don't understand why people stay in bad relationships if it's truly all that bad. Hey, maybe it's not so bad.Honestly Mimi, how abusive could he be if you don't want out?

[TonieM]

Seek counsling for you and get out of the relationship, once a cheater and abuser always one.

[patti]

if he is interested in keeping the marriage he would be willing to get counseling. I believe if both people want their marriage to thrive they can overcome the largest obstacles.

[whogivesashit8237]

You should meet my husband - he says the same things about me. LOL! Of course they're not true. But in your case, you should leave girl. You deserve a better life than the one you're having right now.

[leoslady3900]

Why are you still with the LOSER!!!

[xandra1918]

It's normal. How did he cheated and abused you? You didn't mention.

[Katie1904]

Get out of this relationship. You deserve better than this. Don't become depend ant on his bad behavior.

[revdebibrady]

Well, it doesn't sound much like a marriage at all! If you want to make it work, you'll need his help. If you are fed up with putting up with this behavior, then you should take action. Sounds to me like you've already made up your mind. Unless there's kids involved, ask for a separation...or divorce. If he wants to keep you, he needs to change his ways of being in relationship with you. Good luck!

[odetteM]

if u really love him and u are sure that somewhat he loves u too.. then the both of you should go to a marriage counselor.. if nothing improves then divorce is the best thing to do

[Babygurl7551]

his addiction is cheating the chat room is where he meet his woman.....My brother cheats like thatand the girl just broke up with him about 3 months ago she put up with it for 6 yearsso if you have that kind of time stay around and play with him if not leave.....it's a dead marriage

[edprostar]

It time to be honest and prepare to move on. It take a lot of courage but it is worth the trouble. Do prepare & Take care

[colesuncoast]

I would have some couselling let him know that you are not happy try to work it out. Talk about his problems and yours try not to yello it wont get you anywhere. If all this fails you may have to consider seperation or divorse. I would like to think you were in love once, you need to try to get back to that place. I really hope you can work this out and be happy with this man. I am sure you love each other and if you both want to try you could work this out. I really hope all goes well for you guys.

[illyasgirl]

It all depends on what you want. Are you happy? You've stayed with him through quite a bit of issues. If he is willing to get marital counseling along with you, try that. If not, you may have to go at it alone to help you make a decision if you want to stay or let it go. Best wishes.

[cindy]

well the question here is what do you want to do??? do you still want that marriage or do you want out.. any children??? you are the only one who knows how bad your marriage is so really take time and really Annalise what you really feel and want and just do it // it is easier said than done... good luck ...

[z3irlyn]

He abused u in the past, how about now? If so, u can consider to divorce. If he did change and improve. you can try to have a gd talk with him on spending all his time on chat room rather then family.Good Luck!

[MubeenaRafiq]

The most wise thing, today, is to GET OUT of A BAD MARRIAGE, @ THE EARLIEST.In my day, girls were advised to be PATIENT, However, my own Child tried doing so, ONLY TO GET INTO DEEPER TROUBLE.

[Am7364]

complain & moan till someone comes along steals me from him

[JenniferR]

Oh dear I feel very bad for you, as I was in an abusive relationship, but not marriage, in the past. Have you and your husband tried counseling? I would suggest a seperation, until he gets some counseling and if he doesnt change, run as fast as you can to a lawyer for a divorce. If he is abusing you in the present ... run...LEAVE! I cant stress that enough. If he hasnt already he will ruin any self esteem or self worth that you have. Good luck and feel free to email me if you want:}

[conny]

Sweetie, Your marriage is over I am afraid.So sorry!!!

[stayn_aloat_44]

I'm VERY sorry to hear. The first thing that came to my mind was marriage counseling. Have you checked with him about seeking help?? Is his addiction to Internet chat rooms/porn interrupting your everyday life? My best advice to you is if he doesn't want to seek professional help, or at least talk to family and friends about it (you two together), then maybe you should be distant and give him a taste of his own medicine. Otherwise seek legal advise...Divorce is soon to follow. Best of luck to you.

[quantumview]

You gather up all your available resources, make careful plans and, with the help of an attorney, file for divorce. Seems it's been over for you for quite sometime now so there is nothing left for you to do.

[sometimeslifter]

first find therapy for both and most important let GOD control your life

[TTFN10000]

get out while your alive

[MonsieurRcik]

Realize you made a bad choice and leave yesterday,