If you had the feeling your husband was cheating on you, but had no proof, how would you handle it?

[showstopper18]

i forgot to mention i am asking this for a friend. i just get so mad because I THINK THE PROOF IS THERE! but what can you do. she just keeps asking me what she should do and i'm like you know what to do.these are great answers! i had no clue about the feel the balls thing :-0keep em coming!

[nashabeauty93]

Get proof before you can confornt him. And then get real good proof, not a hug or a kiss on the cheek. Something that HE has to do.

[meenotue]

spy cameras and a gun

[Donny]

straight up front, no need for proof, unless you are usually paranoid, then it doesn't count

[Chrissy1]

Simple. I would ask him.

[alwaysbnatural]

I would be checking him out. Credit cards, internet, parking stubs, extra restaurant meals, get a PI if you are sure. With all the STD's out there, as well as the financial losses, you need to prepare yourself.

[ropar]

If you had handled it, he wouldn`t be stepping out.

[katherine_petrey27]

I am a firm believer in this.........You don't have to go looking for answers......the answers will come to you.....just keep your eyes open, your head up, and don't be naive......The truth will not light without a cause......Sit back and wait for the truth to come to you....

[MikeP]

u trust him unless u proof the reverse.

[Vanilla]

I would try to get proof... or keep hounding him until me told me the truth. Sooner or later you'll know for sure... but even if you don't know for sure, you know something is not right and that's enough to tell you something is wrong with your relationship. You shouldn't have doubts about his fidelity.

[casual_rider]

usually if you supect he's cheating , he IS... check his cell phone calls/records, get into his e-mail get the proof you need, It's possible you;re wrong then your mind will be at ease.

[deirdrezz]

Eavesdrop and keep track of what he says and does. Confront him about the discrepancies.

[goldfisheatingdandelions]

Reminds me of a summer camp story. This girl stole my batteries, so I sat there infront of her, talking to this other girl about how I wouldn't be mad, but I just wanted the person to confess, and I guilted her into telling me. Still, I've been through this. I just told him I loved him very very much, and I loved all over him for a few days, and they way he acted, I just knew he didn't cheat. It worked for my friend too. Her man, unfortunately, did cheat.

[RyanK]

I'd get a life of my own, with my own friends and hobbies, then I probably wouldn't obsess about his life anymore because I would have one of my own. I'm a faithful guy who had a good relationship ruined by that crap. Although, that led to me meeting my wife, it still was a shame.

[LattyD]

Do a little investigation yourself........press redial on the phone......to see what numbers come up,,,,,,,,check his wallet and pockets for numbers.......perfume smells on his clothes.....a change in sex with you is a good sign......feel his balls just before you have sex......if they are really tight that is a sign he is haven sex with some one else..........it shows he is nervous.........

[4Seasons]

Pull him clsoe to you, look deeply in his eyes, and tell him you had a nightmare that you caught him with another woman and killed both of them. Feel him tremble in your arms and watch his eyes.

[Brittian]

Talk to him...don't judge till you know 100% that he is...cause if you get on his case he will think that you don't trust him...Just kind of talk to him don't go all out and say hey are you cheating!?! Just ask a few small questions that you can tell if he is liying or not...Hope this helps

[LucaPacioli1492]

The most straightforward and honest thing is to ask. It would be useful to dispel your fears if based on irrational paranoia OR it might cause him to confess, offer to stop and atone OR it might cause him to compound the matter by lying OR he might confess and not promise to stop. In all of these cases, you will learn something of value to you.

[marheather]

If I could not afford a professional person to check it out. I would perhaps do it myself, which would be difficult, I know, but do not leave any stone unturned. Maybe an acquaintance unbeknown to your husband. Dont bother to ask him, he will deny it anyway. Remember If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck. It most likely is a duck....

[kris10il]

Lure him in to have sex and see if he disses you or has any new moves. If it doesn't feel the same, something's up. Do you use the same computer? Look at the history pages to see what he's up to. Also, check the bank accounts. Talk to his friends or the wives. Wives sometimes know. I know my husband tells me when one of his friends are cheating. In the end, stay strong and if he is, I'm sorry.

[windchamp]

If you feel this way there is in fact a problem. He could be cheating or you're a whack job.There is a problem you just don't know where to point the finger. Is it him or just you and your wackiness. If you care about him and don't want to leave, I would keep your feelings in check until there is some real proof.

[snow]

well you could always ask him but its not like he will probably tell you the truth. is he spending less time at home?, do you get hang up calls all the time? when someone calls does he go into another room or tell them he will call them back? has he not been in the mood for you?,does he have excuses as to why he has to go out somewhere and when he goes is he gone longer than normal(IE: his usual trip should take 30 minutes and its taking him several hours)? does he shower whenever he comes in from being somewhere even if you know hes not dirty or sweaty. if all of this is going on then id say he is all you can do is check incoming phone calls get caller ID, if he has a cell phone check that, smell his clothing for perfume(that isnt yours),check his wallet if you have to and see what you find thats the only proof I know of you can get unless you hire a private investigator and get proof or someone follows him and he doesnt know.I would just watch for the little signs and see and go with your gut usually your gut instinct is telling you the truth.

[SylviaC]

cheaters.com

[mishoney]

just wait it all will come out in the wash if it is true and you don't run him away by being paronoid

[wife2896]

Well everything I was going to say I think the member 'snow' said it all. Good answer, read this one again and think about everything that has been asked...and then sit and think if any of it applies to your husband.

[JBO]

Silence is the best treatment.....I promise, So called MEN hate to be ignored. i know it hurts but after the second day of silence it'll pass.