if your fiance was seeing a married woman during your breakup would you tell her husband?

[christi8323]

my fiance and i separated a year ago. (we're not engaged anymore) during our break, we kept alot of communication and he half heartedly perseud me giving me mixed signals (continuously) so i blew him off and moved on with my life. recently he's been putting it on heavy, and it seems very sincere talking about marriage and working it out, which thrilled me. i went through his e-mails and found repeated ones, today, from a married co-worker discussing their past "relationship" it was very detailed. she was definitely cheating on her husband. i knew he had been seeing someone else but i didn't want to ask Q's. she was definetely persuing him today and trying to bait him but i couldn't see his responses. it seemed like he was maybe blowing her off. should i accept an explanation from him, or call the husband or let it go. i miss him dearly and never thought he was morally capable of interfering with a marriage. i'm noones backup plan, and i don't know if he's trying to persue both of usjust to make it clear, i left him. then i started seeing someone else later, and so did he (her). i think they stopped seeing each other a few months ago and he left his job on his own decision making. i didn't ask Q's cause i didn't know or want to know anything about the person he was seeing while we were broken up.

[Racer8730]

You obviously seperated for a reason, or many reasons. Have those "reasons" been resolved?? If not...I would not go near him again. And he's having or had a relationship with a married woman?? Yuk... no thanks... I'd pass on him and continue on with your life. As far as telling this womans husband???....nah.... it's really not any of your business....I would NOT get involved. Best of luck to you!!

[Rdunn06]

Look, you are the fish ready to take the bait, just let this heartbreak go because if you ruin his little game he will just turn all of his attention towards you and eventually suck you back in. Just forget about him and let him and her get caught with their pants down.

[BigNeems]

If yall are already over with, then it aint your business. Move on with your life and let him do what he wants to do. Dont hate the player, hate t he game

[luvmycoke29]

I would keep on with my life as you have been, without him in it! If he is that type of guy, I wouldn't and couldn't trust him. I don't think you should contact the husband! If someone got hurt because of this, it would make you feel bad. Actually it can backfire on you too. I wouldn't want an excuse from the ex because he won't admit the truth to you anyway.

[SweetPeachesAlways]

I always try to look at things from the other perspective, so I'm going to flip this coin on you. Don't be a rat! Nobody likes a rat but another rat! The husband will find out. Cheaters never prosper! Let her get herself caught. You wouldn't want to be busted, now would you? It's not that I am in favor of cheating as I have a cheater latched onto me at the moment and she is cheating with a married woman but, I'm not a tattletale! What goes around, comes around! And I know this to be very, very true! Rise above all that BS and just be you. The right man will come along who will appreciate the true and faithful woman you allow yourself to be. And you will sleep much better at night, by not being a rat! Good luck and best wishes!

[free_angel8381]

I would keep that information to myself and if I should happen to bump into him, I would bust up laughing.

[x20004880]

I would butt out if you do not know them. I had a couple of friends in the army that messed around on their wives. I never said a word because it wasn't my business, and I did not condone it.

[dksal]

You said you were separated, why do you care? I was told that guys mess with married women because there's no pressure for a relationship. It's just for sex.

[Cheripie]

I'd probably fish around a bit 1st and if you find any more out act and act quickly! I would make sure he's not a violent guy who might harm you and yes, I would tell the husband. Believe me, he may get hurt, but not by you & in the end his behavior will come to a head and you'll have saved the husband from her further straying. What's the worst that can happen? He may already suspect & let him know if you're even a little frightened and maybe the 2 of you can work together & get your loved ones back, but don't hold your breath. Just don't wait too long. The longer you wait, the more hurtful for everyone. You need to take care of this and let him know you don't appreciate being called his fiancee if he is going to continue to be a player. It's a very bad start to any marriage. You deserve better!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

[JodyW]

Wouldn't you want to know if it was your spouse? I do beleive that you should tell her husband. He has a right to know that his wife is cheating. Print the Email and show him. But you better has the email to prove your case before you go running and telling him. But I would let him know, if it was me. Cheating is cheating...

[MartiniShake3941]

its not your place to tell the other womans husband

[GracieBabeeee]

What the he!! are you doing going through ANYONE'S e-mails???It's not your place to tell the husband. That would make you not only a snoop but a snitch, too.