I think my husband is cheating. Do you think so too?

[AmazingR]

Let me ask you something. Can you be happy in your relationship and still be attractive to someone else? Okay here's the thing! The neigbor be watching my husband when he outside, but i be catching him looking too and he said she's ugly to him. So if I'm outside with my husband she at like she can't look at him any more, she turn her head fast if I'm around. Do you think that's one sign of cheating? Now! My husband leave for work in the morning and the neigbor leave too in the morning sometimes right behind him, but when my husband has already left and I get in my car to leave too, why do she wait until I leave my driveway first, but she don't wait when my husband get in his car and leave she drive right behind him sometimes. Okay! I was looking to take up private investgation studies, when my husband came home I told him the good news about school he said it's to much work to become an private investgator and I ask why? but he change the subject to something else. what do you think?

[ValerieX-ooops6275]

He be up to no good.

[tinycalliecharlie]

Hire a PI to tail him for a while. And pursue whatever career you want to!!!

[illinoismommy]

Sounds like flirting to me...but good lord woman your grammar and sentence structure is disastrous.

[DogRescuer]

Find a good marriage counselor/therapist to talk about these issues....Good luck

[EZYE]

FIRST...LEARN TO TYPE...SECOND...HE'S TAPPING THE BOTTOM OUT OF THE CHICK NEXT DOOR!

[preciouskity]

girl u don't have 2 go 2 school for private investigating shooo just hire one

[Jinxed]

I think your hubby is coveting his neighbor's wife. I don't think they're doing anything other than participating in a mild flirtation, but I sure as hell wouldn't put up with it if I were you!

[Rob7817]

It's very possible, i screwed my neghbors wife in the past. She gave me kind of like a welcome to the neighborhood thing.

[graphg]

suspect him and go ahead.

[CindyM]

Sorry dear, didn't read the paragraph. The headline is all I needed to see. Go with your first instinct! If you feel he is cheating, it's probably true...Move on!

[girlwiththebrokensmile]

Why don't you just follow your neighbor to see where she is going? I can't say for sure that she has the hots for your husband, but she does seem nosy and her leaving right after him is kind of weird.

[MilitaryMama]

Something is off...go with your gut...if you don't want to hire and investigator, ask a girlfriend to do the spying...have her follow your neighbor and see what happens.....Truthfully, talk with your husband and if he keeps changing the subject something isn't right. I know if I would accuse my husband he would be pissed off that I would believe something like that and didn't talk to him about my issues....you need better commnication with your husband so you do know what is going on...you wouldn't have to second guess yourself and become paraniod....Best Wishes and Happy Holidays

[__MztN__]

All I can say is, appearances can be deceiving, but if your suspect he is being unfaithful, you're probably right... Trust your instincts, they'll never fail you.Blessed be...~ Nessa ~

[RAINBOW]

Sounds suspect hire a private investigator and take it from there ,also its your life so choose your own career

[sillerious2803]

people that are happy in their marriage are not attracted to others, simply because they arent looking for something else. thats just that!

[babydolly]

follow your mind as per the career issue, on the subject of your neigbhor you can confront your husband

[splashdesign2386614]

Honestly, you are losing yourself, your marriage and focus into a CSI cat and mouse chase.What ever happened to your relationship that you cannot simply talk and ask him? Why are you relying on puzzle pieces and suspicion??That's the focus. The fact that you and him no longer have a relationship that you can honestly and openly communicate is more of a problem. In fact, if you two have lost touch with the closeness in your marriage, then that itself is a cause for partners to lead to infidelity.Forget the Inspector Gadget stuff, and sit down and tell him how much you love him and need him. You want to work on being the best wife you can be, and ask him if he is unfaithfull or not. Also mention that you do not know what he is needing and you want to meet his needs, so have him "tell" you those needs.Make your marriage work.

[billg]

Sounds like something is up but why don't you just ask him straight out. It could be that he is just attracted to her but wont tell you for fear of hurting your feelings, Also and not to be mean but before going to school for anything you need to brush up on your English.

[jmc24]

Ask him, then go back to grammar school!!

[music_lovin_miss]

if you talk the way you type, i don't blame him

[ally]

well i would follow them to see what is going on when they both leave at the same time... what you need to do is have a friend follow them one that your husband does not know about... good luck...

[Rein2106]

See which way she drives....stop your car and follow her at a distance where she can't see you. I had a hard time understanding your question however, why don't you hire a PI??

[PETERH]

For goodness sake woman,GET A LIFE!!Stop obsessing about your neighbour and go and get some help for those confidence issues!!If this woman fancies your husband then good for you,you should be proud that he's so good looking and hes married to YOU,Take a course in something,get a job or a hobby to take your mind off it meet new people.

[wife1269]

Is he dressing different, taking better care of himself, ignoring you in bed? Besides the few looks is he gone for any long time that you don't know where he is? He can't be carrying on with the neighbor if he is around you or at work all the time. Does he make excuses to go to her house, or fix things for her? Do you know where she is going when she leaves after he does? I'm sure you must have friends. Tell someone what you think and have them follow her when she leaves and have someone else tail your husband. See if they go to the same place. Or wait until you think he is at work and make a good excuse to call him there or better yet just drive by where he works and check that his car is there. You are implying that he is meeting this woman before work? Can he be late without getting in trouble? And what is it you think he is doing...screwing her in a few mintues and then running to work on time? I think really with the few things you mentioned that you really need to get some help in trusting your husband, or if anything you need to wonder why you are even married to this guy if just looking at someone makes you feel so insecure. Sounds like a separation for sure in the future for the two of you. sorry.

[PinkFloyd19622760]

you should look for other things too if you suspect your relationship is in crisis.do you have good communication? does he participate in family matters? how is your sex life? when one of the partners cheat, the sex life either increases or disappears so look for changes in habits.how is your self esteem? do you tend to be jealous or insecure? and above all, how much would you do to save your marriage in case it is true? would you try counseling and working on it or would you kick him out.good luck and a I hope your suspicions are not fundamented.

[rodriguezm3465]

it sounds like it. watch him very closely.. when you catch them in the act. bam !!!!

[VincentA]

I don't know if he is cheating, neither do you, neither does anyone else who is answering these questions. You however, do not trust your husband...YOU DO NOT TRUST YOUR HUSBAND...that is the real problem, because if he isn't cheating, you still spent time, energy and love, not trusting him. If he does not deserve trust, you should not be married to him, if he deserves trust, do it.

[Tam8109]

i think you need to find something a little more incriminating. if you want to hire a PI, go ahead, but when you confront your husband with your findings and he's innocent, he won't trust you because you didn't talk about it first.and to answer your first question, yes. just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean your radar has turned off, you can still be, and are, attracted to other people.

[KellyP5658]

he is cheating

[EddieH]

He might not be cheating but he is not being honest with you either. If you can't have open communication with him hire someone to follow him.