idiotwife
05-24-2007, 05:53 AM
Hi, I'm new to this board and I suspect that my husband is having an affair. I'm really seeking some unbiased advice from those of you who have been in this situation. Here's all of the "clues" that I have so far...please tell me if this seems suspicious to you.
1. He and this woman are friends. He's also friends with her husband.
2. My husband goes out with his friends often...at least once a week. I don't drink and don't party, so I'm normally home with the kids.
3. Last week, after my husband stayed out late, I decided to see who he had called from his cell phone. He deleted his history. He's been deleting his history every day.
4. I tried to go online to check the cell phone bill (he canceled the paper bill, so we can only view it online). He changed the password. I called him to get the password and he gave it to me. I saved a copy of the bill, but told him that I couldn't access the account. 5 minutes later, he changed the password. They called each other over 91 times last month.
5. She's an alcoholic and so is her husband. Her husband is a severe alcoholic. My husband "feels sorry for her daughter" and all of our family functions have to include her daughter.
6. My husband acts like he can't stand to be around this woman, because when she's drinking, she's obnoxious...but then they talk on the phone over 91 times?
My husband and I have been having some marital problems. Probably because he's a cheater...but I digress...
We started counseling and he considered moving out. I really don't know why we've been having problems. I'm in school, I work, and I take care of our kids and the house. I really don't know what I did to contribute to our problems, but they're there, none-the-less. So far, all I have is a gut feeling, hidden cell phone bills, and 91 phone calls. Is this enough to end a 15 year marriage? Please help me...I'm just sick over all of this.
Thanks so much. Idiotwife
1. He and this woman are friends. He's also friends with her husband.
2. My husband goes out with his friends often...at least once a week. I don't drink and don't party, so I'm normally home with the kids.
3. Last week, after my husband stayed out late, I decided to see who he had called from his cell phone. He deleted his history. He's been deleting his history every day.
4. I tried to go online to check the cell phone bill (he canceled the paper bill, so we can only view it online). He changed the password. I called him to get the password and he gave it to me. I saved a copy of the bill, but told him that I couldn't access the account. 5 minutes later, he changed the password. They called each other over 91 times last month.
5. She's an alcoholic and so is her husband. Her husband is a severe alcoholic. My husband "feels sorry for her daughter" and all of our family functions have to include her daughter.
6. My husband acts like he can't stand to be around this woman, because when she's drinking, she's obnoxious...but then they talk on the phone over 91 times?
My husband and I have been having some marital problems. Probably because he's a cheater...but I digress...
We started counseling and he considered moving out. I really don't know why we've been having problems. I'm in school, I work, and I take care of our kids and the house. I really don't know what I did to contribute to our problems, but they're there, none-the-less. So far, all I have is a gut feeling, hidden cell phone bills, and 91 phone calls. Is this enough to end a 15 year marriage? Please help me...I'm just sick over all of this.
Thanks so much. Idiotwife