Does marriage counseling really work?

[savannah]

I have been investigating marriage counseling options, and it seems to me that all that does is get both of you in the same place so you can fight with a mediator in charge. Maybe that does help to have someone else there in the same room with you, but I can't see where the advantage is long term. Maybe this counselor teaches you how to argue in a more constructive way? Is that even possible at this point?

[Jewel]

I think that the counselor will help clear up a lot of confusion. It might help you decide if you really want to be with this person. I think that it just depends on how willing to open up you are, and how much confidence you have in the system. It varies person to person.

[SerenBaker]

A good counsellor can help you identify the core problems and then you can decide if you want to work on them or not. A bad counsellor will take sides and make things worse--had a mediator like that and she really didn't help at all because she couldn't see past her own mindset. But a good one will talk to you together and separately and help you find a solution one way or the other, that you can feel good about.

[BRANDYN702]

I Think U Have A Good Point Sometimes All U Need Is A Mediator To Say," Hey You Just Said That" So You Dont Keep Repeating The Same Things Over And Over Again The Problem When U Go To Counseling Is Usually Because You Have A Communication Problems.

[lie_lee]

Consultation is a good option,
i guess, most of the time, we just know it's result, we just know that it's going to work or not. But we should try every option before taking big decisions