Distancing yourself from the craziness.

[savannah]

I was reading something the other day about how to protect yourself from getting pulled in so deep from his lies and antics and going from one extreme to the other.

The advice was to distance yourself from it all. Not only him, and not so much physically, but mentally as well. Try to pretend that you are some other person, a woman not involved with this man, and make your own observations and judgements about your reactions to him as you would someone you did not know well nor intimately.

I've been trying that, and it does seem to help me think a bit more clearly.

[jessi_rubin]

Mental distancing is very agonising. The times you spend with each other strike your mind again and again and you are thrown in the pool of pain with only way out being to drown inside it. Its very easy sayin this but very difficult doing it.