husband cheated can he be trusted ( not mine)?

[southernprincessreese]

My sister paid to put her hubby thru a vocational program for truck driving, they had a shaky relationship mainly due to his immaturity, he had also been out of work for 8 months prior. they have a son who was 7 months old at the time. His training put him 6 hours away and he could only come home on weekends, then our mom died. they really needed him to finish school so he could work so he came home with the baby alone ( 1500 miles cross country) this was the 1st of aug,by the first of sept he was sneaking out to bars with the other guys lying to her popping exstacy laying phones off the hook. he met a 19 yr old girl ( he's 29)who he ended up sleeping with 4 times he tod my sis he wanted a divorce and broke her heart this girl btw new he was married with kids and didnt care even gave him a bj while he was talking to my sis! of course when school was over and he returned to thier house guilt set in and he told her everythingbegging 4 her forgiveness all the usual bs. should she take himhe called the woman with sis on the phone she cried went nuts wished him to die the whole teenage drama. he cuased my sister to miscarry thier baby she was carring btw. this girl told him she had a std and hoped she also had aids and he got it. told him she had slept with 6 men not counting him that month. he really seems remourseful and treats her like gold but i think he will do it again our moms funeral how low can a guy be? do u really think this is fixable?

[Ava]

No, she needs to get rid of him.

[davew1367]

once a cheater, always a cheater, especially this guy

[DaleT7145]

no it isnt fixable he has done too much, and i think u and sis both know that answer

[ladylady44705584]

If they want it to be then they can with a lot of forgiveness and, a lot of counseling. A lot of changing on his part....

[persha69]

KICK HIM TO THE CURB!!! The whole situation stinks but with everything that's been done your sis will never be able to fully trust him again. In the long run the mistrust will be known to the child which will cause a whole new set of problem's. If he can't even be a real man when she needed him (mother passing) then why would anyone think that he can be a real family man. Just boot him out and in time a true man will come along and treat her like gold because he wants to not because he did something wrong!!

[BeautyGirly2403]

First of all I am so sorry this happened. It kind of sounds like she has forgiven him since he still lives with her.MY MAIN CONCERN is that she should not be sleeping with him until they both had aids and all std test taken.There marriage can be solved but like you said he could do all of it again.He needs to get a job that does not give him the free access or promotes drug use.I normally would say kick him to the curb, lock the doors and do everything to protect the children from him.But since she has not done that then I question if she really intends or will kick him out.Now she will be much more able to tell if he is lying now that she knows the truth.Yes there marriage can be fixed but it will take time.I suggest they both read 1 Corinthians 13 out loud every day. The reason I say that is because God knows how to deal with unfaithfulness and all the other issues at hand. If they will take the time to read this every day at some point it will come alive to them and be able to start motivating them to love each other in the most healthy way.

[guardianangel1298]

Not all cheaters keep cheating. Some are truly sorry for what they have done. If you really love someone you will understand their mistake . But you said 4 times and the women knew that he was married . Was the other women also married and did he know it. Since he has been home has he given anyone any reason not to trust him . Things like comming home r after work taking a shower and he reg would waite untill he starts to bed . Or make excuse's that he is going to be late again . You know things that he usually wouldnt do . And if not then it s how well you can read a person. Did he seem like he ment it when he said it . If she belives that he want cheat then thats her and only her choise to make . Nobody can say for sure she has to be the one to read between the lines . And if she does take him back then she shouldn't ever bring it up again , If you forgive someone you forgive them .