should i give up on my marriage?

[mary1024]

my husband flirts & gets really personal with other girls, & which bothers me very much, he tells me u dont need to worry abt anything as long as i dont sleep with anyone. I dont know how to react, bec there is a thin line between flirting & cheating, im very confused. everytime we go out i catch him looki at other women, & i get really upset & we end up fighting, this morning i gave him a hug & kissed him & told him that i love him. he said i love u to and all my h---.& then he started laughing & said i was joking.he doesnt understand how much it bothers me, bec then i think abt it all day that what is he up to now, who is he talki to. should i just give up and trust him or keep fighting until he realizes how much it bothers me & he needs to understand my feelings. PLEASE HELP.

[Heather]

this is a tough one. because i dont know your husband i dont know whether it is harmless flirting and you are just overreacting or if you are justified. he shouldnt be staring at other women in front of you ( a quick glance is fine though..we cant help but notice someone attractive of the opposite sex). however, he also shouldnt be flirting in front of you. if it continues then maybe you can try looking and flirting in front of him and see how he reacts.

[Lola]

I agree that it's hard to distinguish whether it's just harmless flirting, or if there is something to be worried about... maybe you could try marriage counseling - if he won't go, you could go by yourself and it might help you feel more secure.