My girlfriend of 12 years "cheated on me" she's very sorry but I think she's sorry that I found out about it.

[LuarH]

My girlfriend and I have been having problems ever since we bought our house.I'm 39 she's 43 and has 2 teenage kids, I don't have any. I started drinking heavily,by myself, and eventually I slept and spent most of my time in our basement. She eventually agreed to buy me out from the mortgage, I got $2000.00 but I didn't feel good about moving out. I got help with my drinking, got in shape but I was still sleeping with my ex girlfriend off and on since I moved out on 8/4/07.Well I found out that she was also sleeping with someone she met on 7/4/07. I found out on 9/27/07 and he moved to Texas on 9/24/07. I feel so stupid that I coudn't find out sooner.I gave her the time she needed to heal because I was such an ass but I didn't think she'd be " healing with another man". I feel now that he's gone she want's me back but I'm finding it hard to trust her. She cheated on her husband..(I was the other guy)... I know she's a very sexual women who likes big penises, I'm feeling inadequate.

[paul_007_d]

i say dude fuck her and leave her

[str8ballin4739]

shes a whore......move on, u shudda seen it coming too....she cheated on her last with u.......wow some dudes can be sooo stupid

[xx_princ3ss_tink_xx]

You should have known that she was not loyal in a relationship when she slept with you while she was married. Do not take her back, chances are she will do this again when someone else that is "better" comes along. Find someone who will appreciate you and be faithful to you.

[JanellT]

Did you ever think that she started sleeping with another man because you were in the basement in a drunken stupor all the time?she obviously figured things wouldn't work out for you two as long as you were drunk all the time.Why did it take you moving out to stop and get yourself back into shape.Both of you should take a step back and get together but only to talk and maybe you can work it out in time.But do not move right back in until you're sure you can trust her and she you again.

[originalquene]

man if you were having drinking problems Doesn't seem to you like you were cheating on her with alcohol?, it was something you needed to fell better as she was sleeping with another guy to feel better cause you were having drinking problems and wasn't paying the attention she deserved

[dena]

leave her..and move an please..she is not good to you..

[loanman]

dude, sounds like your in a fudpucker of a situation with that and one that you your self kinda helped develop... if you can't rekindle the trust you used to have then you might as well face it, its over. but then you knew what she was capable of since you were the other guy when she "cheated" the first time... if you didn't see that one coming, you should have, but i understand why you didn't, because it's hard to see through the bottom of a bottle. if you think it's worth going after, consider some couples counseling, if that doesn't start to bring you both back together, then you should probably consider going your own way

[radkashannon]

You are a clown. You cheated on her, so who cares if she needed a guy that could please her. You probably could not with all of your problems. Move on and start over. Less luggage.

[poet1b]

As long as no one has made any promises not to be with others, then it is not cheating. There are people who maintain open relationships. It just depends on whether or not you are willing to put up with it. If this is not something you are willing to accept, then get away from her and stay away from her. If you can live with the reality that she is going to sleep around now and then, keep things going. Remember, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Some people are comfortable with this kind of relationship. I never have been, but I know people who are.

[pesky2012]

Dude it sounds like you were depressed, that is why you started drinking too much and isolated yourself in the basement. You began your recovery after you moved out and "got into shape", that seems to indicate that maybe your relationship and living situation may have been the reason for your depression. You have no kids with her and your ties are severed clean, if you are not going to be able to trust her again then you've already answered your own question. Do you want to be sitting with her feeling like you are second choice to this slob in Texas and what if he comes back? Find you someone who makes you happy not someone who makes you want to drink in a basement by yourself.Good luck bro. Be strong and walk away.

[enthusiast]

My girlfriend and I have been having problems ever since we bought our house.I'm 39 she's 43 and has 2 teenage kids, I don't have any. I started drinking heavily,by myself, and eventually I slept and spent most of my time in our basement. She eventually agreed to buy me out from the mortgage, I got $2000.00 but I didn't feel good about moving out. I got help with my drinking, got in shape but I was still sleeping with my ex girlfriend off and on since I moved out on 8/4/07.Well I found out that she was also sleeping with someone she met on 7/4/07. I found out on 9/27/07 and he moved to Texas on 9/24/07. I feel so stupid that I coudn't find out sooner.I gave her the time she needed to heal because I was such an ass but I didn't think she'd be " healing with another man". I feel now that he's gone she want's me back but I'm finding it hard to trust her. She cheated on her husband..(I was the other guy)... I know she's a very sexual women who likes big penises, I'm feeling inadequate.





I tend to agree mostly but I'm still not sure I understand everything here.