I think he's cheating on me!!

[shortcake]

I've suspected my boyfriend of 8 years to be cheating on me, I've read countless articles and definitely see signs in him. He works nights so for him to come home late is normal. The thing that has changed is that when he would come home he would kiss me, he stopped doing that for some time now and says its because he doesn't want to wake me, but hes done it for over 8 years.

Just in the past few months he started to go to a friends house on his weekends off, his reason was to go jam, his friend hadn't been in the picture for 7-8years,why now???

Friends have noticed that he doesn't sit near me when we' re home together watching a showor movie, or he ll even find something to do to keep busy away from me.

When he gets a phone call he disappears into a room and closes the door, he never did that before. He just doesn't seem to want to hold me or be intimate with me, he says its because he doesn't know how to be a boyfriend, blames it on his past relationships.

Am I reading the signs right, is he cheating on me???

[Becky]

Well in my opinion, it is either 1 of 2 things:

1. He is falling out of love with you.
2. He is cheating on you.

Start collecting evidence quietly without him knowing. If it is happening, you will one day confront him. There is nothing worse than those stupid lies, one after another!
This is where the evidence will come in. You will nip the denial right in the bud. There will be no room for lies.

Good Luck

P.S. If he has fallen out of love with you and NOT cheating. You have hope of reviving your relationship if that is what you want. But, you need to check all the evidence out first.

[savannah]

shortcake, have you tried reaching out to him and talking to him about these things? Maybe if you tell him about all this stuff you noticed about him, it will open a conversation and allow you both to clear the air.

I know there's a chance you may not want to hear what he has to say, but it's better than living with this fear inside. At any rate, you will have to make a choice about what to do at some point, and now is as good as any.

[jessi_rubin]

I totally agree with becky that there might be two reason for it. You folks maybe either falling out or he maybe cheating on you. Just try to analyse by talking to him about what he is feeling and also try to get some evidences for his such behaviour. If he is cheating then you have all reasons to call it quits else try to revive the lost love you had inbetween you and him.

[BRANDYN702]

Ms. Shortcake I Think Becky Is Right Because Sometimes A Relationship Gets Boring And Then Someone In The Relationship Starts Looking Else Where To Make Things Interesting . I Think Maybe You Should Try Something New Do Something Special For Him To Show Him He Still Floats Your Boat And After Ward Talk To Him And Tell Him How You Feel.

[titaniumhijau]

Maybe you did something or hide something him and he feel uneasy about that. Did you you done anything or keep secret from him?

If not, maybe he already cheat you and don't want you know about that. IUts ovious right?