Haven't talked to husband in a month?

[BossBaby1062606]

What would you think if you hadn't talked to your husband in a month? We got in an argument because I think he cheated on me. I made him leave and he hasn't really made an effort to talk to me. I still love him but I know I need to leave him alone.

[cms19773828]

I would think that he DID cheat, is unwilling to earn your trust back, doesn't really care, and is probably with the skank he cheated on you with...you DO need to leave him alone. And don't wait for him to come back...move on.

[justcurious8675]

You asked him to leave, he did. Why do you want to continue anything if he cheated on you? He is probably hanging out with her more now.

[ndnqt19667570]

That is a long time not to be talking....I can understand that if he was not cheating that he would be hurt and not want to talk to you for a few days or a couple of weeks...but for a month?? I don't know what I would think...other than perhaps he is with the person that he may have cheated with...

[AngeliqueS]

woa, a month? And neither one of you has attempted to reconcile. Red flag!! I know pride and all, but...c'mon. Find him and figure out what you're next move is. Can you two learn to move on from this together or do you need to end the marriage? You can't sit in limbo like this or things will never be resolved.

[KeeganL]

You're such an idiot.You asked him to leave, and now you're surprised that he isn't talking to you? You caused him to leave, you edged him to silence; and it's not as if you 'know' that he cheated, it's a suspicion. Here’s my advise: either grow up, or divorse him so he might be marry a woman who isn’t such a self-centred pig.

[bestadvicechick2968]

Not talking does nothing but let the problem fester and become worse than it was in the first place. You both have to be adults and face your problems head on. To me, I'd be pretty upset that this separation doesn't seem to be making him sad or upset at all.

[KittenHood]

If he isn't talking to you, then he's not interested in having a relationship any longer. If you're pretty sure he's been unfaithful and he's not trying to correct you, then there's a problem. It's hard to let go when you promised to love him for life.

[Thatdude4651]

I f he cheated, you need to not leave him alone, just leave him, Period end of story!

[TheUrbanizedHippie]

You would think that if this man really cared about you, he would have contacted you by now. Myself, being a woman, would be sitting there thinking he has found someone else. This may not be the case. I don't know your living situation or your age, but I'd say get out, make newfriends & embrace the old, spend time with your family and move on to something better. Definitely take time to mend- but you don't want a man who ignores his wife.

[TracyM9364]

You are both being stubborn by not talking....make the first move rather than wait...somebody has to otherwise nothing will be resolved. You have to talk to him about why you think he was cheating and get some answers.

[BoomBoom]

Is this the same husband that sits home all day and does not work? You had a major question about that a few days ago. Plus you mentioned something about you having a little baby. What's really going on?

[lady_phoenix391389]

Do you have proof? If so, divorce him. If not, decide what you are going to do and stop sitting on the fence. You're just making more drama than you need.

[DonnaI2933]

Gee, lets see... you kicked him out and are surprised that he hasn't made an effort to get back with you. Maybe you need to grow up and learn how to discuss problems that affect you both.P.S. Maybe he was tired of being bossed around by a baby.

[cooter7268738]

Enjoy the quiet, shi* will hit the fan soon enough.

[princess4588]

If I were you I would leave him alone because it seen that he doesn't care about you. He didn't explain to you what is going on and if he doesn't have anything to hide he should talk to you.

[Lifeisbeautiful0457]

Just leave him alone if he really loves you he'll call you. If not just leave hima lone. I know it's hard trust me on this, but sometimes we have to be strong even though it hurts

[DaveG]

Unless you have proof that he cheated on you, go talk to him. You asked him to leave. If he didn't cheat on you I am sure he is feeling that you don't love him anymore. Believe me...it's hard on a guy when he is accused of doing something he didn't do. Things were probably pretty bad in your marriage in the first place. If they were.....maybe he just got tired of trying to make things work. There was a time when I was married.....if my ex had accused me of cheating I would have left her and never looked back. You two should get marriage counseling at the very least. You say he hasn't made any effort to talk to you. Do you live alone? Or do you live with people that just won't tell you that he called?

[gp]

the mere fact that he hasn't made any move to resolve the problem, i would definitely think that he's with the girl. what u should do right now is compose yourself, be ready to accept the things that could happen and live life minus him without even hoping. it'll be much easier for you to move on if things really didn't turn out well -- at least you're ready.

[truthseeker]

you "think" he is cheated ? talk it out. Someone has to break the silence and I think the more mature one will do.

[Penny1695]

Let him go. He doesn't try to contact you, it means he doesn't want to reconcile this problem with you. Does he really cheat on you? Or you just thought he did. If he really cheated on you, move on with your life.

[pictureshygirl4024]

Important, make every effort to find out if he really did cheat because you need to have a clear picture of the truth without doubts or confusion so that you will know where you stand and then you will be in a better frame of mind to base your decision on how to proceed from there. If he is not willing to talk things over indicates he has no fear of losing you and the obvious thing is to reverse this way of thinking. .He NEEDS to feel he will lose you.. By him not calling you shows a manipulation on his part to see if you will cave in, and if you do, he will know he can cheat again. You must stand firm and strong. If you want a faithful husband he must see that you will not tolerate cheating. By him seeing that you are not a pushover will eventually provide him the incentive to face what he has done. Right now he feels his best option is to avoid you, he is relying on you giving in to him as he obviously is sure of your love for him. Stop making him so sure of you and begin to stand up for yourself. Do this and as time passes you will begin to see a new found respect from him. For now he is showing a total lack of respect for the marriage and for your feelings and just discarding them aside to deal with later. This must hurt. Don't get through this alone, it would be beneficail to you if you seeked counselling during this time. You need all the strength you can muster so look for this with the love and support of family and friends. I hope things work out for you.