Is it just me noticing this or are you guys seeing it too?

[Christ3946]

It seems like many women on here are very eager to catch their boyfriends or husbands cheating on them. They admit they do not know yet, but are looking for advice on how to find out. Should they snoop through his email, should they trace his internet history, should they follow him, should they hire someone else to follow him, should they call a strange number on his phone? And on and on and on. All the while they have no solid reason to believe he is cheating. Sure, some of the guys might very well be cheating. But I'm sure there is plenty who are not. And they will have to endure this seemingly endless quest their girlfriends or wives are on to catch them in the act.What is the deal with you women? Are there not enough soap operas on TV? Do you really need to make one out of your own life? Why must you constantly be anticipating the cheat? It's almost like you want it to happen. It's creepy.

[Rein]

I have noticed that there are plenty of men asking this question also. So my question to you is why are people so paranoid?

[Lunaeclipz8042]

I'm a woman and I agree-geez if the relationship is that bad why are they in it? DRAMA QUEENS

[csiders304531]

Dont stereotype girlsw. You might get the hen-club riled up.

[Whynotme]

When anyone does this. They are not happy with them salves.

[PhotoMama6413]

Some women are very insecure and believe all men want to cheat all the time.It's embarrassing to me as a woman to read this stuff.Don't get married or involved with someone else if you're that immature. 53 percent of the population is female. Chances are, whoever you're with will have to speak to another woman eventually. It doesn't mean he's thinking about bending her over the sofa.

[CB3671]

well said.

[YummyMummy]

I find that question pathetic as well. Has anyone ever thought to communicate with their partner first. I'd do that before I consult anyone on here. I also find the q "can I cheat if...." as if they're looking for permission in the same category. People are just plain freaks on here, you're talking thousands of users on here and that's a lot of walks of life. Same can be said about "am I pregnant'' how the hell do i know? take the test and find out alread!!

[DrewBlood2848]

I hear ya and I agree with you. What women need to realize that guys like "alone" time. Either to watch sports with friends, play cards, fart around on the computer, or just have a beer on the patio to collect their thoughts. It seems women can't stand the idea of their husbands enjoying themselves without them. So when confronted with the reality that their husbands actually prefer to do things without their wives sometimes, then they MUST be cheating! Yeah, whatever. Bottom line is that if you don't trust your husband, then tell him. Don't be sneaky about it by snooping through emails, browser history, text message outboxes, etc etc. As if THAT is the kind of wife a man wants to spend all his time with! WOMEN: If you are absolutely determined to discover the worst in your husband, I guarantee that eventually you'll find it.

[poppyw]

wat ever..................

[CrzyB_tch]

I will never accuse my man of cheating unless he gives me reason to. I will not snoop around his things thats his business. He must give me reason not to trust him otherwise I do 110%. The way I see it is women or myself anyways is very smart and if my man is cheating it will just come to me, I won't have to snoop.

[casperpitbull]

well we older women's knows if it don't come out in the wash surely its gone show up in rinse

[JustSomeGirl9906]

I think that's one of our biggest fears, so when we think there's even the slightest possibility of it happening, we sort of jump on it. Because no one wants to be made a fool of, right? So I think that once they get that little sliver of information that says he's NOT cheating, then they're going to be okay with it for awhile...until the next thing comes up where they have to suspect something. Part of posting on here might be to get the consideration of someone saying, "Oh, it doesn't sound like he's cheating to me."

[cms1977]

I've never read a post that says the woman has no reason to suspect cheating. Whether it be solid proof or just a gut...it's reason enough I guess.I have been cheated on 3 times and every time I gave the guy more than one opportunity to tell me the truth...guess what?? DIDN'T HAPPEN. So, instead of playing helpless victim girl I decided to go ahead and catch them.And for those that say "If you can't trust him, don't stay with him"...I am the type of person that gives everyone the benefit of the doubt because I want to see the best in people. For me to leave a guy...I'd have to know for sure and since they weren't being grown up men and TALKING about it, I nailed them to the wall. It comes down to how long you are comfortable being played for a fool. Some women can live like that, I can't.

[FullofQuestions]

Personally I think you are right however. Men are doing it to or asking how to get rid of there wife. Everyone needs to look at there relationship and decide for themselves if it is worth all the headache you are causing your self on deciding how to catch him OR her in a lie and out with someone else. I don't think it is going to get any better so good luck to all you people that need help deciding if you are doing the right thing in your own life.

[maleconfused]

This is the honest truth:They are looking for a reason to breakup or divorce so they can quickly move on to another lover all the while appearing proper.That simple.

[Lovelee]

I agree completely yet it is both sexes who participate in this kind of behavior. Here is another thing, if someone is so torn up about whether or not they are cheating they already subconsciously made the decision that they have been. No amount of proof is going to change their mind. So even if there is no solid proof someone is cheating the suspicious party will keep looking until something is found regardless of how small and ridiculous it may seem. Also by the time it gets to this point the accused party has had to deal with the suspicions and accusations so long that they begin to think "why not? they already think i do and nothing i say will change their mind." Relationships should be built on trust and understanding. Being sneaking and trying to aquire proof of your loved ones faults only ruin the relationship.

[stefo1112]

Yeah I noticed it too, but I really don't know what is wrong with them, and I noticed a few guy asking these questions too, weird isn't it. I think they like soap operas too much (some of them) and they want that those exciting things happen to them to, so they are wanting it, if I may say. But it may also be caused by paranoia, they worry too much, thinking every man is cheating.

[Optimist]

They have low self-esteem. What they don't realize is that other women rejoice in their condition and offer up advice that they would not take themselves. The women dishing out the advice take pleasure from the fact that their situation is not as bad as the asker's.

[Tina6048]

If you were to get into these women's history...I'll bet there is cheating in the past. Either they cheated or were cheated on causing major insecurities in themselves. Many women have the mindset that if one man cheats then all men must cheat. I was one of those women...it took a long time for me to trust my fiance as I was very insecure in myself and our relationship. Once I realized it was my issue and not his I was able to overcome the suspicions. Luckily, he's never shown any reason for me to be suspicious or question his intentions.I learned a long time ago that if you look enough you will always find something to make you question anyone's intentions. However, alot of them may have true reasons to be suspicious. Sometimes it's easier to ask complete strangers other than go to people who actualy know you...possibly from fear of judgment from those you are close to.

[Sands5302]

You can get excellent advice at www.survivinginfidelity. com including signs to watch for, how to listen in on telephone conversations, how to keylog his email conversations, how to obtain a divorce, how to make things work out if you still want to, what to say to your children/family/friends, and how to move on. Another great site is www.cheaternews. com.