sex after separation

[starshimmer]

I knew at the time it was probably a bad idea. We had separated, but the bonds were still so close. He showed up at the house to "talk" or get stuff, and one thing led to another, and then there we were.

The funny thing is, it was even better than when we were living together. Maybe because it was some element of "I shouldn't be doing this" or something like that. I didn't even feel bad or guilty after he left. I was still his wife, after all.

But all in all, it's probably not a very good idea. It's so easy to read something more into it, and if it doesn't follow though, it's also easy to fall into a black pit.

Has anyone else ever faced this?

[Jewel]

I haven't been intimate with my husband in quite a while. I was suspicious of him, so I wasn't in the mood, and he obviously wasn't either, because he never made any advances. Before I started to get suspicious of him, we were trying to start a family. It's so depressing how it just ends, but now that I'm confronted him about the issues, it's been worse. We have no physical contact whatsoever.

[starshimmer]

well, I should say that our initial separation didn't last very long. We got back together because neither of us really wanted to divorce and we had agreed on counseling. But once back together, he chickened out on the counseling, saying we could do it on our own. I'm not sure we can, because it's so easy to fall back into those old patterns again.

I know of another couple who are still separated, though, and she told me that she and her separated husband have sex fairly often. It's her opinion that there is something of a bit of a thrill in feeling like you're doing something you shouldn't be doing.

I guess that could be part of it, but still...

[BRANDYN702]

I Myself Have Been Through This A Few Times Its Like U Break Up To Make Up Knowing That Its Not Going To Work, But For Some Reason It Feels So Good. Its Like A Case Of "you Want What U Cant Have", Now Is That Good Or Bad??? Who Is To Say? But Life Is Too Short To Go Around Second Guessing Yourself Hell If It Makes You Happy At The Moment And Your Not Hurting Anyone In The Process I Say Go For It!

[jessi_rubin]

Well it does seems a strange when you are having such an intimate moment with someone who you trusted a lot but he or she gave you an break up. I personally would never be able to have sex with my boyfriend again if he ever does something out of the relation with other some other girl.