is my husband abusive?Legally speaking,is this abuse?

[adasnameismalika]

He locked me in the house,closed my yahoo account(I think I forgot to sign out),took my cellphone etc, because I was honest enough to tell him I had cheated on him.

[getmymackon3388]

He locked you in the house? No it's not abuse unless he manhandled you, but it's not very mature on his behalf either. At least you were honest with him eventually. Where are your windows?

[Newtooocala]

It is against the law to lock anyone inside the house. I do not condone cheating but locking you in the house is against the law and he could go to jail for "imprisonment". Get out why you can in one piece.BTW: If he locked you out of Yahoo how'd you post this?

[MelW]

Yes, that is abuse!God bless!

[Anji]

Mental abuse hurts just as badly as physical abuse. Trust me get OUT! If you cheated on him then why continue to stay anyway?

[MeGaN1894]

it is abuse, psychological/emotional. obviously he didnt appreciate being cheated on but then he could of just put an end to the relationship. if he chose to stay with you then he needs to get over it, if not, he should leave. things like this can be very complicated though......

[BarbOuthere1084]

If he locked you in the house, and you were not willing and unable to get out, that's false imprisonment, and a crime. Taking the phone without your permission is theft.Closing your Yahoo account, is stupid.All in all, if you can prove this, you can get him arrested. And could certainly get a restraining order to protect yourself.But girl - DON'T CHEAT. It doesn't excuse his behavior at all, but you were not being fair.

[rajendrap]

he is. you have honestly confessed that you rave cheated.If he is really concern about that he should take cognizance of the situation under what circumstances this happened. He has no right to do all this with you though he is your husband. he can proceed legally if he thinks so.Be bold. Take help of your friends.

[kyleemckenzie]

Yes it is abuse, there are different types of abuse, mental and physical. But on a legal point I dont think you have a leg to stand on as he didnt lay a hand on you. The way I see it is live this way till you have earned back the trust or get the hell out.

[Araho]

i think he is confused and dont know what to do, thats why he locked you in, thats so wrong you cant protect your wife from seeing others that way. just let him know that you love him and that was a mistake if you still love him.

[CHRISTINAL]

You prob should get counseling cause that not the way to handle the situation you guys need help from a professional and yes that is abuse but i dont know what you did to make him get that way or maybe hes the crazy one i dont know

[who]

not really he is just reacti ng angry like any normal human would,,,... am guessing u would if he did that to u maybe mental .. but his intention isnt to harm or hurt u... its more like he is hurt and confused how to react... u are quite pathetic {}

[ValiantRebecca]

Well I think it's all more complicated than what you've revealed. You've got all the legal answers you need but I don't think that's what you're asking. What are your feelings for him - truthfully? Did you feel abused or just angry when locked in the house? What happened next? Did you think that being 'honest enough' to tell him would soften the blow? He's obviously very angry - who wouldn't be? I did the same to a good man and got smacked but didn't actually feel it was abuse - just his hurt feelings with no other way to express them. He loved me. How do you both propose to lead your relationship from now on? Are there children involved? Please for their sake, keep this out of their way. These crises are often there to make us question what we're doing and what we want to do. Think hard and long and be as brutally honest with yourself as you've been with your husband.

[elvlayarvvi1995]

He still wants to keep you around after you cheated? Actually, cheating on a significant other is abuse too, when you think about it... he is probably hurting... =(... he should have thrown you out, you are lucky to have a roof over your head... =(...

[peggy]

When you confessed, there was nothing that ran through your mind as to how he would react. Now that you've opened pandora's box, it's going to get worse. You should have been prepared to move out when you became so honest.

[ajal]

He could have thrown you outa the house but he should be glad you came clean.Legally speaking you both need a lawyer soon

[flagger_guy2937]

ABUSIVE? Surely you jest.When confronted with your "honesty " that you were banging someone else you were fortunate that he did not give you a sound beating. Now that's abuse.Locking you in your room and taking away your cell phone (which he likely pays for) were minor compared to the truly physical abuse that he was able to resist.BTW your honesty is not the virtue you want to think it is. there is nothing quite so despicable as infidelity and no amount of confession softens that.