Im about 2 seconds away from having an affair?

[Flawl3ss]

I ve been with my husband or well bf (we live together) for about 3 years there are alot of warning signs about him that tell me he is cheating well im positive that he has ive had so many proof, well a friend of mine wants to see me so that we could well you know ;) and i really considering it well ive spent all 3 years crying well even today becuase i know hes doing things to me behind my back. Well Im wondering what does everyone think about this i feel like i need revenge

[myself]

have an affair it wont hurt anyone.

[grateful]

Revenge??? No. You need to walk away.

[melindao]

Hell do it. You live only once.

[Jen4621]

Revenge isn't the answer. Leaving him is! Then you can do whatever you want without having the guilt of knowing you sank to the same level that he did! You're better than that! ♥j

[Jennie]

You need to confront him. If he is cheating on you then you need to get out of the relationship. But if he isn't cheating and you cheat on him, then you will end up being the "bad guy". Be honest with him, tell him your feelings.

[JimC8522]

Two wrongs don't make a right. If he's cheating and you are miserable then break it off. Life is too short.

[mikah_smiles0411]

Don't do it! Or rather, don't do it while you're still with the current guy. Move on first. If you cheat on your current man, you'll be just as bad as he is (if he is cheating). And if he's not cheating, well, then you're just hurting him more by cheating on him. Dump him first.

[StacyT]

So you cheating on him is going to make everything better and you a bigger person?Sounds like a bad idea to me. If he is cheating and you know he is why dont you just leave and get someone who wont cheat on you and that you love.

[nicksonfaction]

If you do that your no better than him.

[fernie327]

dump his ass. your better off with out him. dont do the same thing he has cause then your stooping to his low, dump him and then go see the guy. ; ]

[Goalie43]

If you cheat, you're no better than he is.If you know for sure, dump him and move on.Good Luck.

[BirdogsID]

The best revenge is moving on. Don't "give up yourself" for the sake of getting even with someone else. Only do that if you want to do it. You need to get out of that relationship if it is not longer good for you.

[Tyra]

No revenge please it will create more probs for you- jus walk away & dump him & never cume back to him

[lovesnowy]

If the marriage is really that bad, you might consider leaving altogether. Torturing each other is just silly.If you're both looking for more excitement, maybe you could venture into others bedrooms together. It might possibly help you bond.All in all, don't do it just to hurt him. In the end, it doesn't help anyone.

[MayMay]

"Revenge" isnt the best way to go. If you know hes cheating, then why dont you leave? Or ask him to leave? If you cheat, your just as low as he is. And what kind of revenge is that? Your supposed to come out on top when your trying to get back at someone, not drop down to their level. If your wanting some "strange", as I call it...Leave your 'hubby', so that your techinically single, and get some. Good luck!

[Edith]

First of all, if you're unhappy, then you need to do something about it-having an affair will only make you more unhappy and hurt people.Break up with him first. You can go back to a relative's house until you find a place on your own. There is no reason for you to have an affair if you've been so unhappy this long. Why would you stay with someone if you're so unhappy? I don't understand.Believe me, break it off with him first and then turn to the other guys. It's not worth the heartache and pain that will not only haunt you but the others' as well.

[Kaosmunki]

Be bigger than that. Seriously. It would sting a lot more if you took the high road, dumped him, and then played around openly and brazenly. Much more lasting effect. Honesty hurts more and leaves less scars for you. Stop crying and be the bigger, shinier person. If you're hesitating, there's a reason, don't forget that reason and do the right thing, not the easy thing. You're better than him if he's been cheating on you. Even if he has a million excuses for doing it, he could have taken the high road at any time. Show him what it looks like and be strong.

[sterlinglaw23]

If you are sure he is cheating, leave. Dont stoop to that level of being a cheater. What happens if you do mess around then find out you were wrong? Sit down with your bf and talk it out. Get to the bottom of it. If he is cheating, then be done and go have all the fun you want! IF not, figure out what is creating this insecurity in you.

[JuliaD]

What is the point of sitting there in misery for THREE YEARS? Don't you have something better to do with your life? Why are you putting yourself through that kind of brain damage?Get out of there and go start living your own life, the way YOU want to live it. Enough is enough already.Having an affair will only make things worse, it won't get you free and it won't fix your current relationship either.Why not leave the dysfunctional relationship you're in NOW, and go out and DATE as a single person who doesn't NEED to do it as an affair.Be in charge of your own life, and your own happiness, for once.

[BlackbeardsDelight]

That is a terrible idea. If you are so angry with him that you want to cheat on him to hurt him, why not just dump him? He obvisouly doesn't love you if he is cheating on you.

[TheChesireCat]

If you have such strong sexual feelings for another person..do yourself and your BOYFRIEND ( common law marriage no longer exists ) a favor, simply end the "relationship" and go your separate ways now..do not "cheat" first..if you are seeking revenge, you do not really love him..I have seen this happen many times and the best result is to split up then find your own life..

[Dana4884]

two wrongs don't make a right..if you know he's cheating and see the red flags then y don't you just leave. you are not married to him..so you can just leave him. i cant tell you what to do, but im pretty sure you know right from wrong. if you feel the need to go and do whatever with your friend and you are not going to regret it then go for it. just be careful. good luck

[f_blan]

revenge is not the best medicine, start by going out with your girlfriends a little bit more and go without him, show him that you are strong enough to do things without him, i would not go out and cheat on him because it is not good spiritually let the lord take charge or look at it like this, what comes around goes around. believe me within time it will smack him straight in the face. or just plain leave himbest of luck to you

[slodge29]

Ahh poor you, weel getting revenge is not the answer. You need to get him out of your life, move on and make your life a happier one. If your friend wants to see you then they will wait for you to sort out your problems first. then go for it and start living. i know getting revenge is a good feeling but it will end in tears, it will make you no better than your partner. Stop crying and start living, kick him out and move on...Good Luck..x

[bandsbff]

I wouldn't do it because then you're just as bad as your boyfriend. Get rid of him first and then you can do anything you want. In future relationships, if the cheating questions comes up, are you going to lie about it or tell the truth?

[zeon2b]

well no point in answering this well why don't u go ahead then

[attagirl]

If your marriage is over, than get out of it. If you can save it, go to counseling. Having an affair is just jerky. Why bother being married at all if you are going to see other people? Suck it up and invest in your husband, or just get out. Simple as that, but don't involve anyone else in your drama. Be the better person.

[BelindaJ]

dont do it!!!!! You will only end up hating yourself for cheating. If you have proof that your man is cheating then leave him before you make any kind of decision to be with another. Don't bring yourseld down to that level just because you want revenge on your bf. Talk to him, let him know your proof, if he don't make the efforts to prove that he loves you and you can't forgive him for the things he has done then you don't need to be together. For yourself don't be like one of those girls who do not have standards for themselves. Do the right thing so you can at least walk away with some pride knowing you at least tried.

[Huera]

If all he does is hurt you and make you cry, then you need to walk away. Just leave! 3 years is a long time to waste on just being hurt. Find yourself a guy who will treat you with the respect and love that you deserve.As for the friend....if he was really a friend, he would know that you have a man, and he would respect that. He sounds more like a booty call! Just someone who comes along when you have problems, so he can get laid. Like I said earlier...forget him too! You need a real man.But if you wanna be single, go ahead and have fun. Just don't get too attached, and always be safe!

[BigG]

I hate cheaters!!! Please, use me to get back at him. Yes, I will sleep with you so that YOU feel better! That will show him :)

[kiss_of_death_x]

if you do it, then i guess your just as bad as him....

[chikita]

If you know he is cheating on you then why are you still with him??? Leave him and move on! Revenge is not a good thing to do. That would not take you anywhere. Go out with others and respect yourself you'll find somebody that really cares about you and be happy but Revenge is not the answer!

[byasea]

I saw you sign on," all I have is me", not true, you have all of us, we're here for you. Don't degrade yourself by doing wrong, leave if you must with your head held high. Besides what would the other guy think of you after you did it with him? Maybe not much. Just think about it.

[tc]

well, to say something, you should just do what you need to...and then well, he may well be mad, but oh well right.!? You did cry for well over 2.5 years and, well thats a lot of crying.