did you try to fool yourself into believing him?

[savannah]

I did. Even though some part of me knew better. It just was so painful I couldn't bring myself to deal with it. So I guess I lied to myself for awhile. Wasn't enough he was lying to me, too.:rolleyes:

There came a time, though, when I couldn't do it anymore. That's when I confronted him. He denied it for awhile, although we both knew it was no use. I wasn't going to just be the little meek wife who kept her mouth shut, and he realized it.

There was one he** of a fight, but after I just took the plunge and got it all out in the open, and "made" him, too, it seemed like a big weight had been taken off my shoulder in that at least I was being honest with myself, and making him be honest, too.

Course, that didn't help the hurt any, but it's all I knew how to do.

[SerenBaker]

I tried believing him at first, too, but after a while you KNOW you're lying to yourself. That's when I went digging for proof, since all he did was lie about everything all the time.

[starshimmer]

exactly the same thing I did. I didn't want to believe it, so I chose not to. But as you say, there comes a time when you have no choice but to face up to it. And as hard as it is, there really is nothing you can do but hang on and get through it.

[jessi_rubin]

It happens when you are not able to face the hard facts and truth. When you are living with a person whome you love a lot, if he/she commits adultry then it becomes really impossible to imagine that person do it. But you have to face the truth.. Hire some agency to get the facts and till then time will make you understand that he/she wasnt clean as it seemed.

[titaniumhijau]

For my last experience. When its happen. I know only one answer. Leave him/her. No need to lie anymore. Its just make yourself hurt.