How do i know husband is cheating ????

[pinkrazzle]

ok i might sound dumb but i have some gut feeling my husband is cheating on me we have a small family restaurant and it all started when i had this dream that i got to the restaurant when it was already closed and there was some clothes all over the floor and i found a black bra and some shirt there anyway ever sine then i have this terrible feeling something going on in my marriage my husband also works another job in the mornings beside the restaurant and lately i feel like hes been distant and i have asked him whats going on and i even asked him if he was cheating on me and he denied it .I want to beleive him so bad but i just have this gut feeling...during his break he called me when it was over and said he was asleep but i was like your lying and he tells me he needs the sleep because he has been working to much ...weve been married for ten years and i have never been so jealous with him and i never felt this...what can i do or what are some signs ? i want to know please help me

[LadyDomina]

you had a dream.Yes, this sounds dumb.LD

[Timeflo]

smell his penis - if it doesn't smell like "you" then he's cheating.

[monicanena3610]

The only "evidence" you have is your dream. I say tell him about it and see what his reaction is.

[DEREK5973]

Do you have a sister?

[CC1055]

You can't use a dream as an indication of him cheating.

[redpeach_mi9778]

ok, you are the one who is starting all the problems here. all this started because of a dream. i had a dream the other day that i was dating a model. that doesn't mean that i actually am. it was a dream, let it go. from what it sounds like, he has done nothing to make you think that he is cheating on you and he doesn't have time anyway. let it go before he lets you go.

[michaelw8271]

lighten up- you had a dream--does paranoid mean anything to you?

[me4tennessee]

He could be VERY TIRED without cheating!Just because you had a dream doesn't mean he is cheating.NOW if he is not going to work or to the restaurant and can't explain where he has been for the past 2 hours. OR he is going on business trips that you can't verify. THEN you can be suspicious!Don't treat your hubby like crap just because you had a dream! He might be acting normal but after your dream you are reading things into it?

[brandiebrownstein]

You have no evidence of him cheating except a dream! You are getting yourself all worked up over nothing. This is making every little thing your husband does seem wrong or shady. I bet if you put it out of your mind and he does get some sleep everything will go back to normal! Relax and live happily ever after!

[andie]

First you should review your question and statement. Remove the "ok i might sound dump but" part. Okay there you go. Read this again. Honey what you feel is what you feel don't feel dumb about it . If you asked him and he denied and you truly don't believe him then get out there and find out for yourself if you really want to know.

[Einstein]

Every time he comes home, go and smell his crotch. If he's cheating then you'll know. If he's not, then he'll appreciate the attention.

[IrishDad]

It sounds like he is tiredfrom working so much. I think you need to trust him

[Ashley9548]

Normally I would say trust your gut, but first u need to make sure it isn't the dream that's causing all this suspicion. Just watch his step the next little bit, and if u dont catch him into something or u find no evidence that he is cheating, let it go it was just the dream. Good luck!

[AshleyW]

Your dream could be a sign that your husband is cheating on you, but you need to get to a point where you may be jealous, but you don't display it as much. Don't spend every moment that you all are together accusing him of adultery. If he is cheating on you, and he won't come clean don't worry about it. Because if he sees that, oh yeah, she's believing everything that I tell her, then you may never get the truth. Just pray about it, and if you catch him, that's when you take real action.

[CorrineB4916]

Dreams can seem very real. But they are just dreams. In my dreams I can fly. hehe, don't pay any attention to dreams unless they are recurring or there is real life clues to back up the dream.

[Pequen]

You have a family restaurant which probably entails long hours. The guy is tired. Then you said you had a dream -- dreams are dreams not reality and not something that will turn into one. I think you are being paranoid. So, unless you have some concrete proof you best stop assuming things or you may just push him into an affair.

[ladyluck1058]

I don't understand! You are basing your feelings on a dream? Has he given you any other reason for you to believe that he was cheating?? Give your husband a break. Sounds like he is tired. You say that he is working two jobs now?!! There is nothing worse than accusing your S/O of cheating when he's not. Believe you me, all you are going to do is cause big problems in your relationship. Give him a break.

[Kush]

i had the same problem maybe he really is tired and just keep a close eye on him and dont blame him too much about stuff

[kisses]

your intuition is usually right.... i went through this also...it started with just a gut feeling, i started to ask and accuse.. then one day i stayed home from work, he was in a very excited mood, we had sex, he went off to work and i went to sleep. a few hours later i woke up with a huge impulse to check his voice mail.. out of a sound sleep i woke up and ran to the phone. when i called there was a woman on his voice mail saying if he ever decided to get out of his house they can go to a hotel, and then she left a very perverse message. i called him screamed at him, cried and almost left. the only thing that made me stay is it came from a private number and she never said his name. so he said it must have been a wrong number.. well a year later a woman calls me and tells me that she and my husband had an affair and that is had ended months before but she felt i needed to know.. so my intuition was correct