So what if he is cheating? All the signs are there.What if I just dont care?

[TammyD]

My husband has all the signs of cheating.Honestly I feel too old to care and to tired to move.My opinion is karma is horrible so I am just gonna let it ride it's way out.Really dont feel like a divorce.I am a huge christian and the only reason I divorced before was my x did try to kill me.So this is like what ever to me.I would never put my soul in jeperody of the man upstairs as far as adultry.I kind of think all husbands will cheat.Givin time.He is sweet for the most part.It is not a horrible marrige and I am sick of worring myself.Do you blame me for just sticking it out?

[Lock]

Only you can decide whether to stick it out or not. You have to look at the advantages and disadvantages of moving out or staying. Unfortunately however if you stay then it will destoy your soul and your self worth. But for most women that is the price we are prepared to pay.

[HonestOpinioner]

so what if youre a christian, im a christian but that doesnt mean i'm gonna stay with a man that doesnt respect and be loyal to me, doesnt matter what religion you are. and its really bad that you dont care, that would be a big humiliation to me that my husband is out fooling around and i'm stuck at home dealing with it. who knows he might just divorce you sooner or later since you wont do it

[CrystalG3451]

if are making yourself even more sick by pretending that it will go away with time. sweetie He would not have you to be anyones fool. you are letting your husband think that its OK for him to treat you like this. He says he that finds a wife finds a good thing. you are so much better than this. if you dont want to get a divorce than fine but do stay there move out, stay with some friends. he needs to respect you and the marriage and if he no longer wants to be in the marriage than you need to realize it and accept it. you need to seek some professional counseling so that you can be shown that necessary steps needed to get you out of the emotional and mental abusive marriage. there is something about you that keep attracting this type of man and you need to get to the bottom of it so that you can enjoy the rest of your life. life is too short to be serving Him and be totally unhappy and putting up with some man mess. you are too beautiful for this to be sitting around and accepting. and you are right vengeance are not yours, and he will receive karma at some point in his life but you need to get yourself together so that you can truly serve Him with no distractions. GodBless

[laylajai74]

yes lock is right only you can decide this at least you know that if you know for a fact he is cheeting, you still wont get divorced so do what you think is best but something more importantly is how you feel about your self ok. You dont have to live with distructive people it becomes a pattern and life is short, you know my grandparets have been married 64 yrs and they take trips and live it up they are 83 yrs old and they enjoy life so you shouldnt feel old maybe you do cause you been through so much but dnt let a man take your health your health is all you have ok. you do not need a man to be happy thats being co dependent ok take a cruise enjoy life really. dont allow men to walk over you cause in the end your going alone and GOD doesnt want you to allow others to take advantage of you and you shouldnt get punished from our creator because he commited adultery. you did your best you are not the cause of his infedility. you dont have to cheat that doesnt solve anything either so really take a good look in the mirror and get your confidence back your life is worth it! take care ok best of wishes to you

[TM25]

sorry but it sounds as if you have no self respect for yourself or your marriage. People who love people don't cheat on them. You wouldn't put your soul in jeopardy but you will your life? what if he brings you home a disease?What are you teaching your children if you have any?what kind of marriage is that to have?

[sophielyn]

i dont blame you at all. in fact, generations before us stuck it out all the time... you do what is best for you ! and make no excuses to anyone else - they are not walking in your shoes. good luck and believe me, you are NOT alone !

[Queenie2074]

I would say yes if you didn't have kids .. if you do and you are a Christian, they need a godly man to look up to.

[missyj]

Honey you can stick it out as long as you want but he might decide to leave at any time...then how would you feel??? You have to do what is right for you<<<>>>

[hawk]

I don't blame you at all. I really don't think I would care either. I would actually prefer him to be honest with me and let me know what's going on and ride it out with him. I think all people maybe want a little change every now again - not that it is right and not that all people act upon it. You are a strong person... Hope all goes well for you

[MWestbrook4525]

My heart goes out to you, Tammy. No one can blame you for feeling the way you do. Not all husbands cheat. My father, my uncles, my grandfathers. My sister's husband. My current boyfriend. Listen. God closes one door and He opens three. You have bruised self esteem right now and are just plain damn tired of all the BS...I know. I've actually been there. But please tell me, what are the signs? Only you truly know your husband, however I've seen many cases in which the signs were actually something else. If you list them, I may offer different advice. However for now, I urge you to find a church elder or a friend or better yet, a counselor who can guide you through all of this. You stated that you are a Christian. If I were in your shoes, I'd seek a Christian counseling agency and get my husband involved. I wish you the very best!!

[teenie4339]

How old are you ? If you are in your 70's then i can understand but anything younger then there is no reason to put up with that. You didn't mention love if you don't love him then all he is is a room mate someone who pays all the bill and takes care of you. If you want to settle for that then who are we to tell you it's wrong. It's your life and you do what you feel comfortable doing.

[laffytaffy3781]

dont blame you. divorce is such a hassle. if things are still desent with your husband and you dont care that he cheats....then just stick it out. as long as his actions dont effect the relationship. is there any love between you guys? maybe you can work things out....where you dont have to settle like this.

[carinnah]

I don't blame you for feeling that way you are traumatized but looking the other way? I mean the worst blind is the one who don't want to see but you must have a very tolerant stomach I mean I are you guys still in love? it is very difficult but it is a good thing to leave it to the man upstairs keep praying best wishes honestly you have a lot to swallow