need to know if this is bad or good about leaving a guy and came across another??

[kit]

i have been wanting to leave my husband for a long while he has always been abusive to me and cheated on me so about 4 weeks ago i kicked him out and im living with my parents with my little girl. i got a protective order against him also cause he wasnt taking this well with me leaving him and he keeps begging me back( before protective order) anyways a few days after i kicked him out, i was staying the weekend over at my friends house and her husband is in the army and deployed in iraq and he was a room mate there who is super nice and we all started to talk on her web cam. and him and me have been talking on myspace ever sence then and we have been getting along really good and i like him now. i already have a laywer now because my ex wouldnt sign the divorce papers, i always tell him i dont love him anymore and i have been wanting to leave. he wont listen to it though. now he knows that im talking to this other guy and everyone is calling me names and harrassing me..................is this wrong for me to be talking to this guy?? is it being like a slut? he isnt coming back until may either. what do you guys think?? my girl friends think its great but all these other people who is friends with him thinks im a bit** and is wrong. how far is too far?

[RichardC]

sue him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[aimstir31]

It's a little to soon. How about spend some time with your daughter cuz I believe she needs you more then ever right now. After the divorce gets going or a couple of months then start looking. I think it's a bit to soon. Good luck!

[prnz16]

i don't think its wrong to be talking to someone else. you have to follow your heart and you told your ex husband straight up how you felt. people need to respect that. its your life not theirs.

[Lost]

You needed to wait until your divorce got through becuase know he is going to get more mad men like those will never change and you are not going to take him back that is what is making him mad live your life be happy but watch yoUr steps becuase a man like this is very dangerous and can hurt you and your daugther try to be what you are doing with this other guy on a down low. And when everything is done and has gone through then continue your life.

[Lily]

Why don't you just stop telling everyone about your cyber boyfriend? Heck it isn't like you are really doing it with him and besides these internet relationships only have a 20% chance of working out.

[BonnieB]

Just remain friend with this guy and explain to him what is going on. You don't want to start dating him while your still married evn if you no longger live with your husband. He is not you X until the divorce is final. Have somebody serve him the papers. If you start dating thisother man before the divorce if finale your husband could start problems. And you really don;t need to or want to bring another man into your problems with the husband he could go after this man if he is that bad ..

[curious_boricua_soul]

If you are only talking to this guy there is nothing wrong with that, plus you were cheated on so what's it to anyone if you decide to do whatever you want with this guy?!? Tell everyone to let you live your life and leave you alone. They don't understand what you have been through, so who are they to judge anything?!? Ignore everyone and carry on talking to this guy. You never know he might be your Mr Right. Keep protecting yourself from your estranged husband. Good Luck!

[carriegreen139793]

You made a good move by moving in with your parents...If you are talking to his roomate and doing the right things to file for a divorce and getting your soon to be ex out of your life, then you are fine, you are seperated, which I would file for a legal seperation, to make it all legal, and he can't do anything to you for talking to this guy.I do not see anything wrong, you left an abusive relationship, you are taking control of your life, you are protecting your daughter, and meeting a wonderful man!!!Just file for a legal seperation, and they will hand deliver it to him, you will not have to do it or see him.

[zanthus]

Your actions come across as very trampy...like days after you left your husband..you are chatting up another guy????

[smile]

He isnt coming back until may so i think its great! You can really get to know to know him.you sound like you need a little happiness and excitment. You are doing nothing wrong just getting to know a person and if something comes from it when he gets back then great!.People shouldn't judge you. you go girl! x

[G]

i'm sorry, but talking to somebody on myspace does NOT make you a slut. seriously, you haven't even met the guy. you're not even seeing him, much less sleeping with him! that's just crazy talk.what's happening is this: when people break up, their friends take sides. so yes, some people are going to take your ex's side, and those people are going to rake you over the coals about anything they can. they're going to pick apart everything you do or say and make you into the bad guy. it's insane, but it's their way of supporting your ex while he's going through a difficult time.what you need to know is that it has nothing to do with you, your choices, or your character. your ex naturally wants to believe that you're a horrible person -- that way he doesn't feel so bad about himself. as hard as it is, ignore what people are saying. your real friends will stick by you and take your side in this (not just in your friendship with this new guy, but in all the fallout from your break-up).if you think this guy is sweet, keep talking to him! maybe he'll renew your faith in men :-)best of luck!

[mnlady2586]

You are rushing too soon. Get off the computer and out of the chat rooms and spendt time getting your child to understand why her dad is not around anymore. Wait till you actually have a divorce before you start talking to any other men either on the internet or in person. Don't give your husband ammunition in harming you.Good Luck

[kenn777]

jealous people call those they are jealous of names. hurtful names. because they are hurting and they think to themselves. How dare you find happiness when I'm hurting.Live your life. It's the only thing that will make you happy.

[LisaB3529]

When it is over nothing can be done. If another man makes you happier so be it. But I would advice some alone time first. To get to know yourself better so you can make better choices.Lisa married 1 yr lived in sin 4 yrs.