How normal is it to feel tempted to cheat on your spouse?

[catlover30]

I'm a married woman, whom would never cheat on my husband ever.I love him more then life itself,we have a great relationship too.I mean we've been married now 12 yrs., so yeah certain aspects of the relationship have fizzed somewhat if you know what I mean, at times our sexlife is mindblowing at times it's not.Which is pretty normal for as long as we've been marriedbut there have been times when thoughts of cheating have crossed my mind.Why?And is this normal?Like I said I love my man and will NEVER cheat but I have fantasized about it.Once again is this normal or is this a sign of bad things to come?

[luv_doesnt_hurt_lies_do7727]

Its a sign.

[Quasimodo19575447]

Its normal. The key word is 'tempted'.So..fantasize all you want. We all do. Anyone who says they don't is either a liar or not human.

[notyochic0346]

i never feel that way!

[c_ann0522]

i think it is . As Long as you don't act on them i wouldn't worry .

[celticbuddha5852]

it's normal. it's what you do about it that counts.start acting out some fantasies with your husband. bring in some sort of new element into the mix, that may help ease the "cravings" of someone new.

[BabeHeart6141]

Sure, having the thought is normal...fantasizing about others is normal...seeing someone appealing and wondering what they are like sexually is normal.Nothing wrong with you at all...just hang in there and don't give in to temptation. Although cheating is "abnormal" it's VERY unkewl and bad karma (and is okaying yourself to be cheated upon).Happy fantasies! ☺☻

[cooter7260920]

It is normal, just don't act on it.

[Johanna]

Fantasies are OK. Be careful of fantasizing about real-life people you interact with on a regular basis.

[radicalman2035]

well it's normal to have 'thoughts'. You're married, not dead! The way me and my gf deal with them is to talk about it. Liek when I tell her all the things I would do to Katherine Heigl or her sister and she tells me about Patrick Dempsey or some other guy.... we would NEVER act on it but it actually enhances our intimacy on an emotional level.

[Loner]

It is BOTH normal and a sign of bad things to come. Perhaps not too bad though.Marriage isn't natural so it takes work to maintain it. The real question to ask yourself is this: are you the kind of person that can go through life with only one sexual partner and be fulfilled? If not, there may be trouble later. Some people can be in love, highly physically attracted to -- and even constantly sexually satisfied by someone and STILL want a new body to explore. Social taboo here, it's just the way it is.If you're not like that, then things will probably be better for you and yours in this issue.The key to answering your question is knowing yourself. Not an easy thing to do in life.

[oneluv]

act on it and spice things up get rid of the used slippers and try new things, u only live once.

[Tjarley]

Fantasies are normal, cheating on your partner is not normal, so I guest talk to him and express yourself on what you feelings are and what your missing in the relationship and make sure you let him know you still love him and you just want things to be better, I mean 12 yrs so do something about it and tell him your desires and fantasies (not the one from cheating;-).

[funkymonkey7378]

As long as u dont actually do it I think its ok.

[Scorpio]

No worries, all of us have our moments when we feel a but unloved or distant and allow our minds to drift to notions of life over on the other side of someone's fence. As long as your fantasies stay just that and you do not outwardly pursue action...I'd say you are totally normal.

[ainnocentloveseduction6684]

No

[bb]

I think this is normal. Especially for people in long term relationships. You state that you'd NEVER cheat, so don't let yourself feel guilty over something you aren't going to do.

[BillieH]

Any fantasy can be deemed as normal. Acting on these fantasies can be detrimental to your entire life.

[mominwabasha]

I think its normal. As long as you don't cross that line. Its more like fantasizing. Try some of those things you have thought about doing to the other guy to your husband. It might spice things up a bit.

[AgentScully]

The temptation to taste the forbidden fruit is more common than you think. Afterall it is human nature. However what separates us from the animal kingdom is love, respect and loyalty which is what you obviously have for your husband.You may feel tempted, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with fantasies, but remember that what you and your husband have is very special.

[BackW7115]

Its normal as long as your don't act on the fantasy... you will be fine

[princess9397]

having fantasized is normal is not like you are cheating.

[AinePriestess]

Fantasies are great. Anyone who says that haven't pretended their spouse is someone else during sex is LYING!! Fantasies and porn help keep us faithful. As long as you don't go out an act on them(cheat) there is no harm.

[2u]

the older you get,the wiser you are.soon youll -correctly-realize that hubby is not realyl mr.wonderful;others are better than him.

[StephenH2576]

Don't say NEVER. Everyone is capable of cheating. Everyone likes to think that they would never do it but we are all capable. Your thoughts are normal though. We are all sexual beings and it is normal to think of what sex would be like with other people. Those who say that they don't do it simply repress themselves. If you have genitalia, blood flowing through your veins and air in your lungs then you are a sexual person, and normal to think about it.

[mjmayer188]

There is always temptation, and you can't control your thoughts. It's perfectly normal.Just don't do it!

[clherrick]

It's pretty normal to occasionally wonder about what it would be like with someone else. Just be careful how far you let the curiosity go.

[pussycat5439]

In all honesty, I believe everyone feels at some point in their life attracted to someone else; you might meet someone and get an instant 'animal attraction'; that is normal, as temptation is always out there. It is loving and valuing your partner that sets those who cheat from those who remain faithful