i want to cheat my husband, because...?

[switielicious1107]

so here it goes..he cheated on me, i forgive him.but not totally forgiven. i still waiting for him to prove to me that he really is a changed man.waiting to give me atleast extra effort of sweetness..but its not happening..but i believe his not having an affair anymore, but expecting him to be more sweet to me nver happend..its like im expecting to much sweet person just to you know.. gaining trust again and make me feel that hes really sorry for cheating me.. but what i feel is just disappointment...so there,.. til one night that i had this dream.i had this dream that i cheated him.then when i woke up i feel happy.that i even realize that il even feel happier in somebody else...do you think guys, that its a sign??sign for me to leave him..coz they always say that ones a cheater always a cheater.i already losing my feeling over my husband because of the disappointments that im getting...what you think???

[curlybird]

dont cheat on himit wont make you feel any betterif he found out he would act like you didmaybe the dream is resemboling the end of the relationshipbut dont cheat for the sake of cheating

[BobD1247]

Go get professional help...It is extremely hard to get over the pain of being cheated on. You will always have that in the back of your mind but if you want to stay married to this guy. Go get professional help now.

[baba]

Never do it. Try to be amicable Speak frankly.

[psychopiet]

Yeah way to go. Forgive but not really that is really mature. Making his mistake yourselve just to be happier seems also slightly immature. Maybe you both need help, maybe it is already beyond help. You have to work at a marriage to keep it going...

[tampico]

Dreams are our way of dealing with the every day stresses life hands us... my advise is: keep these fantasies in the form of dreams and let reality be your guide to happiness. good luck

[janjaley]

Forgiveness of the mind, is easier than the forgiveness in your heart. Cheating to get "even" won't make you feel any better. If you want to resolve some problems of your relationship, I would seek counseling. If he refuses or shows little interest, then I would say he has no interest in mending this unfortunate betrayal. He doesn't sound to apologetic to me, and will most likely repeat his action, if another oppurtunity arises. I hate to say it, but things will never be the same again. And it might be beneficial to both of you to take some time apart. Letting him go, and seeing if he comes back, might answer some serious questions. He HAS to earn your love and trust again....or he will take advantage of you. I'll pray for you, to help you through the pain, and please keep us updated. And never underestimate how powerful you are.

[jgwolf]

Cheating while being married is never a good option (doesnt matter the circumstances)If you dont like him anymore, get a divorceThinking of cheating your husband is a bad sign in a coupleDont be a b**** just for revenge (even if thats just an excuse to get laid with some other dude...)

[giselehere]

Your heart will tell you everything. If your heart is not in it for him anymore, then you will eventually leave. If you still have a heart for him but you're just angry from built up hurt then you will stay. But don't cheat, be the person you want in a relationship. Be the bigger person but let him think that you might be fine with leaving if he can't stay faithful. Just don't nag him about the incident because it only makes things worse. Show him how strong and mature you are and that you don't stoop to those levels.

[kazte]

Dreams they say brings out your innermost desires, desires that can't be realized when you're awake. Signs are just signs. You gotta make a conscious decisiion not based on your dreams. communicate with your husband your unsatisfaction or start doing things together again just like the good old days.

[gordie1]

Just leave him and find someone that will respect you.But don't lose your self respect by lowering your standards to that of a adultererJust remember that if you cheat on him to get even that will make you an adulterer and then if you do end up divorced what man would want you if you have cheated on your 1st husband. keep your self respect "you are better than cheater "

[markiemark]

your the one who is in the relationship your the one who has got to live with him follow your heart it will show you the way good luck

[CassandraC1730]

Well you said once a cheater always a cheater and you want to cheat? So does that mean that the next guy you are with you will cheat on him too?Don't cheat to get back at somebody. AND you can't force your husband to be sweet to you because maybe he wasn't that sweet to begin with. Sure it will take time for you to trust him again, and he needs to understand that but if you cheat your relationship will be over.

[surfcarolinagurl26]

it wont make you feel any better! youll still have the pain about what he did to you and its just going to cause more problems. if you are that upset maybe you should seperate for awhile and make him think about what he did. then maybe you two can come back together and start fresh

[lenzix5]

2 wrongs still don't make a right but if your falling out of love over this than get into counseling and face the hard questions head on.

[EddieB]

Sure Honey do it,!! keep it a secret and don't get caught like he did, do it with a cold heart and feel your best but no need to get attached or fall in love, do it with a married man though, a single guy has nothing to loose by telling or causing trouble, married men don't tell like married women don't tell, good luck baby and have fun !!

[shawnwainio]

leave his cheatin ass and dont look back hes using you and controling you you need someone in your life that loves you and wants to be with you if you cheat it makes you the same as him it will not make you feel better only worse if you want to cheat and he cotinues to suggest bringin one of his buddies in the bedroom for a three way go get a girlfreind have at it but if you want a commited relationship and a happy life get rid of the bastard hes hurting you mentaly and will continue to do so do you want to live your life like that ?

[LouL]

Divorce him...don't sink to his level...Find someone who deserves a good woman.

[handyman0731]

well my wife cheated on me and it was never the same always doubting it is better not to cheat just get out of the relationship in this case an eye for an eye isn't always the best answer good luck