My husband had an affair one year ago...and now the "ex mistress" is bothering us again.?

[icesweetp]

My husband had an affair one year ago. He realized his mistake and asked me to forgive him and I took him back. He has been the picture perfect husband and father every since. When he is not at work (he doesn't drive so I take him to work and pick him up so I know he is there), he is with me. So he is never alone. He agreed to having a "net nanny" placed on the computer so there would be proof of everything he is doing online and everyone he is talking to. He even OFFERED to give up his cell phone in order to make me feel better. Everything has been quiet and there has been no contact between him and the woman he cheated on me with since I forgave him. Then 3 months ago I recieved 5 phone calls from this woman. My husband was in the hospital and the phone was turned off so they went straight to voicemail. She left some very LONG and very NASTY voicemails. I promptly took the phone to the police and had charges drawn against her. A total restraining and "no contact" order was issued.Since then she has started emailing both of us. We block her and she makes a new id (under a false name) and has even emailed us from her HUSBAND'S id. I have saved all the emails and I have noted all the times she has called (thank you for caller id). She has even went so far as to call my husband's father and brother and my parents telling them how my husband is with her every night. She has even went to far as to place pictures of my husband and our kids on her myspace page saying they are her family. I have tried to get myspace to take them off but they won't do anything about it. What can a person do to stop this stuff?

[getmymackon0014]

Good for you honey.

[0867]

what's the question???

[KidsAreBack]

You did the right thing but what is your question?

[your_dear_old_mother]

You did the right thing.

[dcchica711]

Good for you! As long as you have your husband's full support in nailing her to the wall with the cops, then you're good to go. It's nice to hear a success story like that.

[Fonz]

tell your concerned that he might have HIV and is in the hospital being tested.

[kelstar3147]

*calls a toast to you*

[SP]

Missed it, what is your question here.

[sheloves_dablues]

So what's your question?

[DiscoStu]

Well then what is the problem now?I wonder what made her suddenly start up again??? Unless she is insane (?) then your husband has probably had some contact with her.

[ndnqt19662038]

You did the right thing....glad to hear things are working out with your husband...but how did she get your phone number? Or did she call on your husband's cell? Either way....change those cell numbers....she is a nut case!

[leavingtraces2726]

Your husband needs to get rid of her. Why would she take it from you? If she won't take no for an answer, then he needs to file a harrassment report on her, or get an order of protection from her. Sue her for emotional duress!

[krichardson432000]

Take all of this information and your no contact order to your local police department. No contact means just that, no contact! She has violated this order and is in contempt of court. The police department will file the appropriate paperwork and haul her butt back into court. The judge will not take this lightly.

[laffytaffy8283]

that's very good. and the question....???never mind..i got my 2 ponts. lol

[closure]

Do you know what you're husband is doing when he's at work? Probably not. If a man wants to cheat there's always a way. You can't watch him 24 hours a day and you can't prevent him from cheating. How does this woman know your number when he supposedly got it turned off?Sounds to me like if he haven't seen or talked to this woman in a year she wouldn't be calling so he probably contacted her in some way. You need to let your husband know this will not be tolerated and then leave it alone until he slips up and does it again. But there is no need to watch his every move though you may want to. He needs to earn your trust back and he can't do that unless you let him go about his day freely.

[Omaha]

Sounds like a psycho. Good move on the restraining order. Not sure what else you can do.

[x2000]

I would change the email addresses, stop looking at her myspace, and get an unlisted number.

[bahjij6]

It's time to press charges vs. this lunatic for harassment.

[TRISHMATT]

Man I would be sooooo mad at my husband. He caused ALL of this. How can you stay married to him? I could never do that. Good luck.

[startwinkle05]

It sounds like the restraining order didn't work, so I would suggest going to a lawyer. You could file harassment charges. You could file charges against her for using your husband/children's likeness without permission. Have you tried calling the police about her violating the restraining order? They would have to pick her up for it, since you have proof. How does she still have a husband after all this crap? Is he totally blind to what she's doing?

[Friendship]

you ever watch the movie fatal attraction? its exactly the same situation... go rent it and you both should watch it together.

[CliffR]

So what's your question. Sounds to me like you did all the right things, and as you say since the incident he has been the perfect husband and father what more could you ask for? In all reality the bitch ex girlfriend is the one with the problems and you have taken the proper steps. She sounds like a great stalker so be very very careful.

[smileyone0569]

She sounds like a nutter, and stalking someone like this isnt funny, its serious stuff.You said you got a "no contact order" , but she has broken that order by emailing you, then i would contact the police and have her breached on the contact she made with you.DONT EVER respond to her.I would also as much as its a pain... change your mobile numbers, and email addresses.