Will this awful feeling of my Ex Husband leaving me ever go away?

[texas_redlips4493]

My ex husband (soon to be-divorce is 3 wks away) of 8 yrs. cheated on me and left me 2 months ago for some woman he met online for sex. I was a good, loyal, loving, caring wife to him. I am trying so hard to take care of myself & move on with my life. We had no children together (thank gawd) My friends and family keep telling me that one day I will wake up and all of these thoughts of the past will stop racing through my mind. I am hoping in time, the tables will turn. I really hate feeling like this. I would never wish this kind of pain on anyone (except the skank who ended up with him) I know I'm better off w/out him. Will Karma find him and her? I know alot of people don't believe in it.

[love_inc2000]

Just hang in there, sweetie.Know that- YOU ARE SPECIAL !Things WILL get better...trust me.

[californiakush]

I definately think that Karma will get them both. Maybe not at the same time or regarding their relationship, but they will get theirs. Im so sorry that you have to go through that pain, how disgusting!

[lovebomb]

I recently broke up 4mos. ago after 8 years. As po'd as I am at her, I still can't stop thing of her. We just gotta keep trying.

[sarahW4459]

You feel awful because you at least subconcouisly feel as if your not up to snuff. But being cheated on has nothing to do with you its about your husband's lack of things. Its a black mark on his soul. Just think that you had good times with him and are going to grow as a person from the bad times. Life is a journey that was just part of your trip

[heatherw]

It will go away it may take time but you will move on. You are better off without him you don't deserve to be cheated on. Chin up things will start getting better soon. Good luck and just remeber you deserve the best. He will get his one day don't worry.

[BobD3377]

Who cares about Karma? Occasionally for the rest of your life it will bother you. Like the weak moments. Havent seen ex in over six years, never want to see her again. At times what she did hurts...she slept around. The good news is that by living well, you will have a happier life and if by accident it annoys him. Well there is always that.What I am really trying to say is go on and live your own life. No children will make it much easier. Just remember if he cheated an dshe by extention cheated..who says they wont cheat on each other.....Just remember the vast majority of the time..you just dont care...

[sillerious6921]

i had a hard time believing in karma, but i now do. i wasnt always the nicest girlfriend and wife. a selfish bastard (did never cheat) to be honest, didnt care much about anyones feelings. now i fell deeply in love and got hurt for the first time, yes it all came back to me and i never ever want anyone to feel this kind of pain that has some feelings.

[CrazeE]

You are better off without him! I know a few people in similar situations. I can't lie and tell you that Karma has caught up with all of the cheaters. One guy I know has been married to his skank for longer than he was married to his first wife. The good news is you will get over it. The best revenge(and I am all about revenge) is to move on and forget about him. Even negative feelings will keep you connected to him. Start over, go out with friends, and try to forget all about him.

[michims]

First of all, he broke the commitment, not her. You only assume she even knew about you. I came from a similar situation and when I left he flipped out and promised the moon and stars...too little too late. I find the best revenge is living well. It took me about 2 years to "get over it" and to get myself composed. After that, I found my perfect husband..the one I was meant to be with for the long haul...meanwhile, he's still a waste of oxygen who can't get right. I don't think it's horrible to wish ill feelings on someone who's earned it, an eye for an eye. My guess is he will spend the rest of his life trying to find someone like you and while settling for any bottom feeder who will say yes. For a long time I blamed myself, and you'll have to go through the motions...but when I came to my senses I was better than ever.

[Happy-27158]

The thoughts will go away more quickly if you stop with the "I was a good, loyal, loving, caring wife" stuff. Men don't cheat because their wife wasn't good enough. They cheat out of lust, dissatisfaction, lack of emotional maturity, fear of emotional intimacy, worries about aging, and a gazillion other reasons, almost all of which have more to do with what's wrong with them than what's wrong with their wives. You're trying to rationally compare yourself to the other woman and thereby remaining totally confused. Well, the sooner you accept that your husband did not make his decision rationally, the sooner you can stop with the comparisons and get on with your life.Finally, it's interesting to me that you believe in karma with a capital K, but God gets a small g and a misspelling.

[MyNewLife]

I know exactly how you're feeling. You will feel better, but it takes time. I'm divorced for 3 years and I still get those feelings. And you're right, Thank God you didn't have kids with him...it makes it that much harder to get over it!I read a great book (it's an easy read, not tooooo deep) called "Crazy Time" by Abagail Trafford. It made me realize that it was normal to feel the way I was feeling.Good Luck...I know it's hard.

[blueeyd_princess]

Everything will get better in time just hang on there.As for Karma I believe in it.. My father in law cheated on his wife (mother in law) he remarried and just a few years ago karma caught up with him. His new wife cheated and ran off with another man before she left (six months before) stopped paying all their bills so when she left he had no money and repoers knocking at the door.. I 100% want to believe that was karma bitting his bottom.. Not to mention he was really in love with her just like I suppose my mother in law was with him when he cheated and left her (of course he didn't leave unpaid bills and take all the money).. It took 10 yrs for it to catch up, but I do believe it was what comes around goes around...Hope that makes you feel a little better...

[ChristinaC]

The thoughts will not go away until you are ready to truly let go. Sex is not all a relationship is made of,and when and if he sees this to be, he may come back to rekindle what he had. But you need to work on you. Time will pass,but wounds will not heal unless you take care of them. Keep your mind clear with positive work, family,friends and religion (there is a higher being no matter what the faith) God bless & Good Luck from a sister of divorce.

[smileyone6339]

I know the pain you are speaking of, and I'm sure many others here as well do.My greatest pain was 4 years ago now.... i believe in the Karma thing.In time the feelings of the past will subside,the more you move forward with your life and the happier you become.So, yes.... i think Karma will find them both, maybe not today, or next week, or even next year..... but it will eventually.I also believe good things happen to good people,,,, so look after your self, move forward and have a happy life... that is also Karma, because im sure he wouldn't like to think you are quite happy with out him, and have moved on... goodluck!