My " husband" is cheating at me but we are living apart for about 6 month?

[mimi726095]

First I would like to tell all of you that I'm from another Country, sorry if I do not write correct in English but I'm living in the US. My husband and I we are living apart for about 6 months . I got married in the US 3 years ago with a American man. We still legally married. He decided that we should see once every two weeks at any coffee house just to talk. And almost every time he sees me he tell me: I need time to think about us, I'm not sure what we are going to do, I need spaceWe have a cell-phone with "family share plan "and 1 month ago I was checking online his phone calls during this time we are living apart and I found out that he is talkig with a lady that lives about 1 1/2 far away from his home and the last month he started talking with a new different lady. He calls late at night after 9:00 pm and he talks between 60 minutes to 160 minutes almost every night.hmmm he is dating somebody anyway I saw a car sitting in his driveway three fridays nightWhat do you think is ok he to do that to me?? We still married !! and he told me he needs time...how much time he needs!!!! Crazy??!! right? And when we meet for coffee he said : please do not hurry me I need time to think about it because I told we can go to a marriage consuler...he did not answer he said he wants time and spaceWhy he meets ladies from so far away from his home??? He does not want me to know right? I never ask him anything about it. Advice and opinions, please.Thanks!!!Thanks for all your help!!. You know, I do not understand him. He should tell me: we should start with the divorce papers instead that meet me at the coffee while he is meeting ladies and lies to me . I think he is meeting many differents women because he come back to match.com ( was the site we met) but he is hidden now he is not public to all ( he maybe is scared if I see him there), and he can choose the lady he wants too in that way...He is a J_ _k !!!

[DrewBlood9221]

The next time he asks you to meet him for coffee, I would tell him "no thanks". When he asks why, tell him he should already know why. You are making this WAY too easy for him to "have his cake and to eat it too". Tell him he needs to make a decision NOW, or else you're going to make it for him. BE STRONG!

[shiv]

Sounds to me like he isn't ready to settle down with you and is trying to enjoy the freedom of a single life whilst still being married!I think you should talk to him, ask him if he wants to be single again...clearly there is something going on and its not fair of him to keep you hanging.good luck :)

[MindyS]

yeahsounds like he is seeing someone elsesorry

[TomS6148]

yeah, that happens....

[floridaman39us6481]

Divorce him so you can find a real man.

[ella0402]

It sounds like he is just stringing you along. I would confront him and tell him that you will not live like this another day to either let you come home and work things out or end things for good.

[carriegreen136248]

Honey, I would recommend you contact a divorce lawyer, he is not being fair to you at all.

[cutie420311]

are you stalking him or something? You aren't technically together, so he's not cheating, you should just ask if he's seeing other people, that way you can too

[getmymackon]

Looks like he has moved on with someone else and not bothered to tell you. When he wants to meet again for coffee ask him what's going on and why he won't be honest and tell you he has a lady friend.

[jimmyparker060410]

next time you see him at the coffee shop tell him you have made the decision for him, hand him the divorce papers.

[KristyT]

it sounds like it is time to call this relationship quits.your husband wants to keep you dangling around while he dates other woman, in hopes of waking up one day and deciding to be a happy, faithful husband. divorce is ugly, sometimes people prefer to dance around it. you are in more control than you think. simply tell him, your behavior is not acceptable. i'm filing for a divorce because i do not have the time to sit around and wait for you to decide to be with me.also he is disrespecting you by being with these women. your marriage. move on for your own sanity.

[Ginger]

Just make the decision on your own and have the papers ready. No one deserves this, and he is playing both sides of the field. Just tell him you decided to make the decision, have the papers ready and be sure to let the attorney know all the info. you told us here. He is thinking that you are ignorant because you are trusting.... not too wise of him is it?

[TheApathy]

Don't agree to see him for coffee anymore... Tell him that you know what he's doing, and if he starts defending himself and lying about it... Just hang up and don't talk to him ever again (unless it's about the divorce papers).Even if he admits to dating other women, set it clear that you are not his toy and that you won't keep meeting for coffee because you deserve better (and that's true).Stay on your own for a while, you'll see that a nice man will find you.

[Noomder6244]

If you are in another Country, I am not sure how that will work. but I can tell you that he is just stringing you along. meaning he is cheating on you. he wants to keep you their to get what he wants, if he needs it. but when he tells you he need space, that is the same thing as saying. I want to date others. if you are married. I cannot see this marriage working at all. face it he stays gone 6 months. that is a half a year. soon he will be gone for years at a time. he does not want to be married. so he does what he wants. you should move on, and for get him. you will never be able to trust a person that way.I can see no point in waiting for him, if he does not care. sorry', but do not waste your life waiting for him. you need to face the truth.