I caught my man. so I wrote to an online "expert" about it, and she tells me not to worry? I feel cheated

[Kaycee]

I sent the messages from my boyfriend (of 7 yrs) to his ex... I sent them an "expert" online, and she came back with.. "you shouldnt worry, it sounds like they are just sorry for how it ended, but nothing more" and that I had no reason to worry??? I am going to give a link to the actual words exchanged between them...and someone tell me she is right!?! I was fine with what the ex was saying, it was HIM that made it sound like he wanted her back... please help.. thank youHere is the part of thier messages that concerned me >http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=60752326&blogID=320923242Also...in messaged before this one, she asked about his son, and family, and he never replied about us. Just about her, and if she was still happily married, and that she was beautiul, and too good looking for her husband.

[ashleyowen82]

The blog is set to private, I cant view it, Sorry

[JenniferS]

I can't read the message, it's a private blog.

[jennniferlea]

I can't see the message. You have it set to private.

[JD]

Sorry, your blog is password protected so can't help you there. I really think at this point you need to sit your guy down and have a heart-to-heart. You won't get any answers any other way.

[JessicaC]

Don't trusts some online expert. They are not responsible for their actions. Talk to your man, ask him flat out if he still want it to work with you. If he says yes then ask for him to stop talking to his ex. Communicate with your man, not the online expert.

[autoprt]

sounds like you already have your answer and your mind made up on what you are going to think anyway.

[ericl3755]

Let me guess, you know better then the experts you consulted. I would bet anything you are having a huge hissy fit as you do with all your men.It is time you think about things like not trying to bitch slap men in to submission and try to either make an effort to sustain a relationship with a man or stay away from men in general.

[tamarag]

No one can go on that my space address to see what you mean but, is this a boyfriend or a husband? It sounds like from what you have written that he thinks shes really nice looking, I am guessing she left him not him leaving her. I think maybe he always wanted her but the thing is, she may not feel the same, maybe they are good friends and not good as husband and wife. I would just tell him I think you need more time with your ex to work things out before you and I get too much closer, and after you have your feelings sorted out you let me know. In the meantime, go have a night out with the girls and forget about him for awhile, it's been 7 yrs since they were married? Maybe he has matured now and feels something again for her. ASK HIM! Without trust you two will NEVER have anything solid anyway.

[MWestbrook3134]

Your blog is set to private. If you want to get a true expert opinion on men, here's a site that will do just this for you. His name is Jeff Mac and he's a freaking genius. If he were single, I'd pounce on him, he's so smart! Check it out at www.manslations.com Good luck!!

[JuLe]

You and your boyfriend need to talk. You may ask him what he meant by what he said. And hope he answers truthfully. You can also choose to confront him and say he sounded like he wanted he's ex back. well what ever his answer will be.either way.Just remember it ain't your lost.

[lvny012243]

cant get into ths blog- itsset to private

[Romi]

It appears you dint like what you heard from an expert and you are here to HEAR what you really think.Learn to trust your relationship and stop playing these childish games. You have to be a little more secure about what you have than worry about his ex.If you are really very uncomfortable with the whole situation, sit across your boyfriend and TALK to him. Tell him how you feel and if he doesn'e respect enough on how you feel, you know what is coming.Stop aprehending and giving urself un-necessary anxieties. The fear of "what might be" makes your "what i have to cherish" really really bad. So, talk, talk, talk and you will feel better good luck !

[sugarBear]

The message is set to PRIVATE, i can't view it. Can you go to the message & mark it public so i can see the message.

[joellemoe]

If you don't like what the expert said then it sounds like you already know what you think about it but you were just hoping to get confirmation of what you already know...from someone qualified...But, you know what?? YOU are the one that is THE MOST qualified to say whether it is appropiate or not and it sounds like you are NOT ok with it...That being said, your blog is set to private, as everyone has said...but I didn't need to read the conversation to know that it is a huge problem that he is communicating with his ex...you know it and I know it...The question is, what are you going to do about it? How mad are you?There is just no reason for a married man with a child to be contacting an old flame, none...no excuse. I say that you confront him tell him that you know that he has been talking to her and that you read their conversations. Tell him this will not stand and that it needs to stop and he needs to tell you if he thinks that he can make that happen and NEVER let anything like this happen EVER again. I had a similar issue with my husband...it was relatively harmless but he had to know where the lines were...so I (semi-jokingly typed up what is now known as the infamous "MYSPACE MEMO")It is reproduced for you below:Memo: If she was a dating or sexual interest from your past, it is NOT OK to contact her without consent from me. If a dating or sexual interest from your past contacts YOU it is NOT OK to add, message, comment or OTHERWISE CONTACT said individual without CONSENT FROM ME. If a person who has caused drama in any WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM is located on myspace or ANY OTHER friend-networking modality it is NOT OK to contact them without CONSENT FROM ME. If a person, formerly drama inducing, contacts YOU on myspace or ANY OTHER friend-networking modality..it is NOT OK to contact them without my consent. The aforementioned individuals are not necessarily precluded from being accepted on the basis of previous sexual or dating involvement, nor are they necessarily excluded solely on the basis of their previous drama-laden association with you, however, both parties of this union should be allowed to discuss PRIOR to any "doors being opened". Please print and keep for your records. Thank you.WifeWell, that's all...I wouldn't divorce him over it but let him know what he probably already knows...and that is that his interaction with her without letting you know--NOT OK!GOOD LUCK!