Is sexy online chat considered cheating?

[YOU1ONLYU]

I checked my husband's myspace and found him talking dirty with other woman and making plans to hook up. He sai he never followed though because it was just talk. When I spoke to the women they said the same thing. It was about 4 different women and two of them I know in real life. Is it more than online talk or is it cheating. Is he lying? Is it possible to just have talk like that and never follow through?

[sunbun]

to me---and opinions may vary....cheating is when my spouse has sexual intercourse with another or oral with another...that is considered cheating in my book.

[letsseeyourboobs]

Yes you can just chat.. Most are so far away it would never happen.

[TheWiard]

If he is doing something that is making you feel uncomfortable with other women, its cheating, whether its in person or online, it doesn't matter. Ask him if he would be ok if you did the same thing with other men online. As husband and wife, you are suppose to be his #1 priiority an no other women are suppose to be in his life in that way at all. Therefore,,to me,,its cheating. How can you be his #1 priority and he be totally committed to you, if hes having sexy chat with other women?

[gracefultantrum]

If you know two of these women in real life, I'd say you have some issues here. If you have to go online and talk "dirty" to some other woman, there's something wrong somewhere, or he's just a dog. I'd tell him to come clean or get out.

[MommaBear]

I consider it cheating because you are being intimate with someone other than your significant other.To me that is cheating :{

[DRDENNIE]

no it's not cheating, but why don't you start doing it online and see how your husband reacts.

[elvlayarvvi8749]

yes, to me, sexy online chatting is cheating... he should be chatting like that to you! not others! forsaking all others was the vow... and he's breaking it! whether he met them or not, it's still cheating! I'd dump him if he refused to stop... that's just me... I won't settle for anything less than what I need and deserve...

[backtohauntu]

Ok... so they claim they never followed through.... ask any convicted felon in prison if they are guilty and they will swear it wasn't them. Most of them will say that they got set up... so what does that tell you? If he has not done it yet, he will do it... dump him.

[Hillbilly]

It is still cheatin! If the impure thoughts are there reguardless of whether or not he is going to follow through, it's still the same as doing it! He should not be talking to any woman that way except for you! Once a cheater always a cheater!

[stoppdemadness2003]

I'm thinking it is a form of cheating. He sounds like if given the chance, he would be in bed with one of them in a heart beat.

[kc6772]

To me it sounds like he's having emotional affairs with these other women on line and if he does it on line will he do it at work or any where else? To be married is a true promise so why would you do that? He married you and only you so why isn't he talking dirty to you and spending that time with you any time wasted on that is time taken from your marriage let him know you really don't like it and it hurts then ask if he'd like for you to do that! I bet not! Good Luck!

[mnlady]

I think cyber cheating is just as bad as real cheating. It is a sign he is wanting to have a fling but at this point still too afraid to do it for real.It means it is still time to save your marriage by both of you going to a therapist. And I would turn off the internet service that he is chatting on.Good Luck

[NYYanksGirrl]

It;s totally cheating, propositioning other woman??? Hello??? Who cares if he didn't go through w/ it he still had the intent which is wrong. And believe me if u didn't cath him it wouldn't be long until he acted. And with woman you know in real life is 100 times worse. You need counseling or to leave him b/c he is a dogg!!!!!!

[Nicole6103]

If he is just chatting and its with people he doesnt know then it is most likely just for a thrill. No matter who tells you all men like a thrill. They all look at porn and like dirty talk. Now you must ask yourself would he act on it? I dont think dirty chat is cheating. I think cheating in my book is having an sexual relationship with someone else or going out on dates with other women. It is all based on your personal beliefs.

[itsme]

you know what, if it makes you feel betrayed it's cheating, but maybe he sees it differently maybe because he had no intent to act on these things it wasn't cheating to him. If it is hurtful to you then tell him that and that you don't want him to do this because it is hurtful to you. To me cheating is certainly not just sex. I mean people have sex every day and it may mean absolutelly nothing but building an emotional realtionship with others , talking, to them about intimate things can mean a whole lot more. Again, I think it has to do with the individual relationship, what's cheating to me may be fun for others, and completelly okay. If it's hurtful to you, and you don't accept this, tell him and expect him to do what's right for him and the woman he chose to be married to. Best wishes!!!

[Al]

Um did you feel bad after you found out? Did it hurt your feelings? Would he care if you were "talking dirty" with another man on myspace? I bet you answered yes to all my ?'s. From an outsider looking in I would say your husband is a liar and if he ever gets a chance , he'll go for it! I think myspace is a marriage wrecker anyways,his page would be the first thing to go,I would demand it!

[Toosense4]

Ask him if you can help do the things he wants and is trying to find with these other women. Tell him you will play sex games with him. Ask him about his sex fantasies and then ask him what you can do to turn him on like these other women do with him.

[20yearsandstillin-love0964]

He may not be physically cheating yet, but if you approve of this type of behavior chances are high he will end up physically cheating. What he is doing is wrong, morally. Do not tolerate such behavior, you deserve to be treated with respect, and by what he is doing, that is not respecting you.

[5801]

Yes, it is a form of emotional cheating. I will be honest and tell you that I am single and I have done this with a few married woman, but never with a wife of someone I knew outside the net. I think that should be considered a red flag in your case, thats to close to home and in my opinion would sooner or later lead to cheating.

[tiuliucci5882]

Cheating is anything that brings a man and woman together in the same way they would be with their spouse.Online chat would be cheating in my book. There is no reason for even flirting with someone other than your spouse.Take care,Troy

[terraisearth]

Personally, I find it cheating. Would he be alright with you talking dirty and making plans to hookup with other men online?I doubt it.There's just too many red flags with this guy... :(

[sweetpea5499]

My definition of cheating: If what your doing with another person you are not able to do in front of your spouse or significant other, then its cheating! If you can stand in the room and watch him have these conversations and neither one of you have a problem with it, then its not cheating. If you have a problem with it, then it is cheating. Cheating does not necessarily mean intercourse or oral sex with someone. Its the act of doing something with another person that your significant other would not appreciate. Start having sexy conversations with other guys, see how he feels! Will he find it cheating?

[JimBob]

Its cheating only when you get caught

[symbologie]

To me, even if there's no physical contact, that's still sharing something that should be only between spouses. Is "cheating" the right word? I don't know. I do know I wouldn't be happy if I found out my husband was doing that.