separate checkbooks

[savannah]

we had separate checkbooks for years, because it was easier with his business that way. But when I started to wonder what he was up to, I took his checkbook one night when he was gone, and looked through it. Sure enough, there was little notes in the register, just saying "gifts", and listing where it was written.

So with just that, I was able to call the jewelry store and the lingerie store and pretend I wasn't satisfied with my merchandise. I found out all I needed to know just by being a private eye in training!

[idiotwife]

Nice investigative work. Have you confronted him about it?

[Jewel]

I agree. You did a nice little investigation. I'm also curious about your situation - how did you confront him (if you have) and how did he respond to it?

[SerenBaker]

Nicely done. That would never have worked with us because we were both crap at keeping records that detailed.

[savannah]

Jewell, I did confront him with it all once I had the evidence even I couldn't deny. And you know the first thing he said? He told me he bought those things for his brother to give to his brother's girlfriend!!!!

That's when I told him to get out. Later he admitted the truth, but only because there wasn't any other out for him. I don't think he would have ever admitted it had I not found the evidence to confront him with.

There was a heck of a fight, and we still do, but at least we fight about the truth now. And we're still separated, even though he says the affair is over. I just can't trust that right now.

[jessi_rubin]

Its always better to have evidence in hand while confronting him. These men are so bloddy liars that they just think that they will easily get away with it. But truth always comes out one day or the another.
It was very intelligent of you to do that investigation all by yourself.

[lie_lee]

great, from the start till now, you have done, what many of us, don't find the courage to do, and they make such simple things complicated and depressive, and than men take advantage. No you are at the advantage.

[KillHim]

Caught him red handed, your boy is a sugah daddy lol