My bf said to me that he wants to get married by the time he reaches his next b'day" does he mean to me?!!!!!!

[Nikita]

This is a year away. As he was saying it, he was condemning marriage saying that women cheat on their husbands, and I was telling him a good woman won't do such a thing. It's like he's torn in two, but concluded that he would'nt mind getting married by the time he reaches 40 in september 08'. I'm curious as to if he meant with me?! Because he's been acting distance since saying it i.e. not calling me all that much, he said it whilst I was there for the weekend, he texted me saying "hope ur day is good, I had fun, thanks for comin". Since then, that's the last I heard from him, but he's online on MSN most nights!!!!! Please help, and when he talks about marriage, do you think he wants it with me? he put a comedy DVD on about marriage when I was at his place and said this is how I see marriage!! He brings up the subject quite abit!

[kaiceec]

only way to know that is to ask

[GoldenGirl]

He's your boyfriend, why don't you feel comfortable asking him if it's you he's referring to? I would hope the answer is yes, I don't know why he would date you with the intention of marrying someone else in the next year. For 39 he seems a bit immatuare!! Maybe you two should work on communication..it's the most important element in a relationship!

[whoopsidaisy]

Just ask!!!

[Lynnae]

You need to ask him about it. Before I married my husband, we talked about EVERYTHING all the time and still do. DO you think he's the right one for you? Who cares if he wants to get married - either he is right for you or he's not. If you're not communicating openly and you're playing guessing games with him, I would advise caution. You shouldn't marry anyone unless you LOVE them, can be totally open and honest about everything and you WANT to BOTH spend the rest of your lives together. He doesn't sound to me like he knows what marriage is or what he wants. You can't put a goal down like "I'll be married by my birthday" - it kind of involves another person and he sounds like he's focusing on himself and himself only. My advice - get to know him better and start communicating. If you can't do this, run away. He's not the guy for you!

[jc]

Sweetie guys don't talk bout that in front of their gf's unless their talking bout marrying them which would be you... So Yea he's definitely talking bout you!so anyways just talk to him and make sure but I'm pretty sure he would not say that to his gf if it wasn't you so don't worry Hun! I'm 13 years old and trust me teens know all bout the girl and guy situations basically so don't worry everything will work out the way it should! Good luck and i truly hope everything works out between you two and all.... xoxo Love, Joy

[AustinG]

Do you have a sister he might have been talking about?????? Of course he meant you!