Is my husband about to cheat?

[flippinfruitcakes]

I logged into my husband's facebook account (he doesnt know I did and i worked out this password) I found an email from my husband to a lady saying "so when are you going to put more pics of yourself so I get to see more of you? :)" she then replied by saying that she really wants to meet up with him for an honest drink.. what is honest?? we must meet up YAY!"After reading this, I was very angry that he is chatting to other women that he found online. We have been married for almost 3 years and it has been very rocky. my husband has an extremely low sex drive but at the start he was very active. About 2 years ago (so only married under a year) he asked me to go to swingers, i didnt want anything to do with this. He is very secretive with his laptop and phone, to the point that he locks his laptop when he gets up to go to the bathroom and his mobile is always locked. Im not sure if they have each others number but so far on facebook i cant see a reply from him.

[TonyBlair]

I hate to say so but it seems that way. BUT before you go off accusing him hire a private detective or something.

[MsFabulus5255]

" Honest " means they will tell each others how they really feel about each others. They might go further , u know when they get drunk...be careful!

[chilly7472]

locked accounts.. you breaking passwords.. secrets... swingers clubs....mate. It's counselling time.

[JasonS8399]

He probably already has been cheating.

[gyro]

confront him about it. just be straight forward and ask who she is. if he doesn't tell you then you have something to worry about. he will prob be pist but its worth it to know before something happens

[GeorgeW]

Sounds like he's cheating sorry to say

[sfjadeia]

If he has something to hide, especially when it comes to things like having to LOCK the phone and laptop while he goes to the bathroom for 5 minutes, he is definitely doing something that he knows will upset you. However, don't go snooping in his personal things because that will just make things worst. Confront him with your fears and insecurities, but don't mention anything about what you found out. If he really cares about you, he will do everything in his power to make you feel more secured.

[punxsutawneyphil7655]

She wants to meet him. He just wants naked pics.

[ChaRiaLer]

I not saying that he is cheating or that he is about to cheat but his actions are VERY suspicious. As a couple there should be very little that you two keep from each other, especial concerning your relationship. I would confront him and ask him if he is happy with the relationship. Ask him why he feels that he needs to keep his electronic locked. Tell him you are concern and with things rocky as they are you want to make sure everything is still o.k. personnal note:Marriage is going to have some rocky times. I have found in my 13yrs that they occurs every 2-3 years and vary on the situation. Communication has been the key in my marriage. My wife and I talk often about life, kids, sex, etc.... Try talking with him, calmly. Good luck.

[stratostix]

Your husband's actions are leading him in the wrong direction. This is how things got started for my father. He started spending more and more time on "singles" websites, and eventually started to have affairs right and left. I don't mean just ONE affair. I mean plenty: high class call girls, regular women in our area... etc etc. Your husband may come around and realize that what he's doing is wrong, but most of the time things do happen. Anyways, your story sounds all too familiar to me. Be careful. Good luck.

[AlexDave]

from a guy prespective its normal to fool around in the tnternet as long as its just for fun i dont see any problem in that. the reason people keep their laptop or mobile locked becouse they dont want you to see mail/sms/address book etc, but the problem is that you dont want to hide it from your wife and if you do there is somthing cooking.I cant say for sure that you hubby i about to cheat but he is trying for sure , wheather he will do it or not totally up to the opportunity he gets and strenght of your relationship. I think you should talk to him cealrly and find the resolution.

[carcas_59]

Not the best Scenario. I just asked my husband his opinion. Sadly he said. Yep, something is up, why else would you have to lock your computer or phone when you are at home. However don't jump the gun, he may love you very much, but is having a bit of fun chatting. You know ego boost. You have to find a way to ask the! question. Quite honestly, If my husband was playing around on my computer and found something like this. He would not hesitate to ask, "What is this hon" Nor I of him. Your could be worrying over nothing. People say all sorts of things, when they are on a computer or over the phone. Doesn't mean he make act on it. :-)

[Katie_Abercrombie01]

To be honest, If he hasn't already cheated with her or with someone esle. Then he's definitely thinking about it. And there is a damn good chance he is planning too.I can't tell you how much drama and confusion with couples have started on Facebook. That site gets everyone busted. Not that it's a bad site. People just use it for the wrong things I guess.Anyways, If I were you I'd keep quiet about it for just a little while. Since you know his password. Continue to log in from time to time to read the messages he sends and receives from other women. This way you can bust him in the act if he sends a woman a message asking to meet up. Or if he talks about the sex he has had with another woman on the site, etc. You deserve to know the truth. And checking his facebook account will be the fastest way to find out the truth.I mean the man locks his phone and computer? Something is very wrong with this picture! What does he have to hide? Everything! Which is why you should pretend you don't know anything and continue to check his site. Right now you don't have full proof. You have a little. So if you confront him right now....He's going to deny it, and either stop using facebook (and use another site) and/or change his password. Which is why you want to wait till you have all your facts together and full proof that he is infact cheating on you! Do it that way because once you know everything, he can't deny anything!Trust me, everything he is doing wrong...he's doing through facebook. By using the site to meet other women. So just continue to check his account and you'll bust him sooner than you think!And once you catch him, confront him asap! But make sure you have all the right proof needed to put the blame on him. Make sure you have all your facts together. So you can confront him. You don't deserve this bullcrap. And he doesn't deserve a good woman like you. If he's cheating, god knows what kind od STD he could have contacted from another woman. And once you catch him you can figure whats the best thing to do with your marriage. Honestly, I'd leave him. But If you leave him or stay with him thats a tough decision you have to make! I don't know you personally. Or your financial history. So i'm not telling you to leave. I'm just telling you to do whats best for YOU! In this situation.p.s. keep in mind that if a man cheats once, there's a good chance he'll do it again. And if he did it twice or more already. Then you need to figure out is this the kind of unloyal and unfaithful person you want to be married too!

[ShawezS]

I THINK U ARE INTELLIGENT ENOUGH TO KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON"SOMETHING ROTTEN IN THE STATE OF DENMARK"SHAKESPEARE

[charm1936]

hate to say this but sounds like it. He could be cheating now, if he wants to swing, but has a low sex drive, he is getting it someplace else. No man is worth dying for, and if he is cheating he could very well give you something. Confront him asap, make him spill the beans so you can make an informed decision on how you want to handle this. Don't ignore it, 3 years is not that long, you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, if he can't do that and be faithful, cut your losses and move on, there are plenty of good men out there that will treat you the way you want to be treated!

[MHnurseC2272]

What you should have done was to change the password on his damn facebook account and lock him out. This is concerning behavior and I would take action.

[vijayas]

DON'T THINK ALWAYS NEGATIVE, YOU CAN SHARE THE FEELINGS OF YOUR WITH YOUR HUBBY ALSO YOU MAY ADVICE HIM NOT TO KEEP THESE TYPE OF RELATION SHIP ALL ARE IN YOUR HANDS ONLY.

[julz]

2 WORDS..LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!!! dont be the type of girl to say ' o i should have realized..ur story is F'D up. n so is he..

[rene1695]

I hate to say it but yes he could possibly be about to cheat. If his phone and laptop have been locked for a while then I would say that he might already be cheating. Especially if he ask you 2 years ago to go to a swingers club I would think that would have been about the time he started. He had a desire for something different which signifies that he was bored. No disrespect to you it happens in alot of relationships. I would suggest not saying anything for the time being and try not to accuse him of anything that will make him chill out and as long as he thinks he is getting away with it he will become more comfortable and make more mistakes. If you want to be sure you can check his cell phone bill to see if there are any strange numbers. Don't let him know that you have his password to his face book account and keep check on it. Good luck to you

[rpetch007]

once a rat .. now a pri k

[Ontheotherhand]

You already know the answer. Why ask strangers to tell you the obvious? If you want to stay with a guy that IS cheating, it's your business. But, be honest with yourself, and don't pretend the situation is other than what it is.

[Bearess]

Yes, these are all the major signs. I'm sorry.I have been there myself.You need to face him with this and demand that he open his accounts to you to view- right now, in front of you (so that he cannot delete anything) or tell him that it's over.It may sound horrible, but it is reasonable to require proof of his so called 'devotion' to you if you suspect something and have seen it yourself. If there is nothing, he will have nothing to hide and willingly show you. If he becomes angry, that's a sure fire yes to your answer! Because you now do not trust him, so demand it! Otherwise, if he is unwilling to rest your worried heart and cease your pain, then tell him that you will leave.I am very serious about this! Many men will NEVER come clean, even when the dirty truth is staring them in the face! I have delt with this before- and I used this same demand, only then did I see SO MUCH that was hidden from me! Don't let yourself be fooled by nice words and empty promises. See it in black and white- litterally!Good luck.

[Lisa3479]

Divorce or incredibly indepth therapy for HIM is in order here, woman. He asks you upfront and personal to commit adultery on him and give him permission to commit adultery on him and you ask is he about to cheat???? He makes arrangements to have drinks with some woman ( what happens after alcohol is imbibed? ) and you ask if he is ABOUT to cheat??????????????????????????????????? When a man locks his phone he is cheating. Confront him with your evidence and then see what he says. If he will go for counseling.. go for it ..if not. ... well ..you cannot change him and it may be that his only turn on is cheating and watching someone cheat on him. Cheating is bad for marriage. One must ask oneself.. how well did I really KNOW this person before I married him and so on at this point. Go for counseling even if you have to go on alone so you can find out how to escape the kind of permission you have been giving him all this time to do such terrible things to you so you will NEVER give another man permission to cheat you of honesty and respect again. It looks to me ( opinion only ) that he does not have a low sex drive.. just that he doesn't waste much sex drive on you. Kapish? I hope the two of you have ZERO children because for them to have parenting like this they will end up wanting to die.

[Chelsea0760]

I read this question to my boyfriend and he said= you know the answer and to go with your gut.

[RebeccaE]

he is already cheating you! u have the right to know why needs to lock his laptop and cp, and am very sure, he has secrets. confront him

[classic]

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