is it possible that a man goes to a club and withdraws 104 dollars and isn't cheating?

[boooobi]

my husband is in the military he is 35 he has been there 4 months and now he is allowed overnight passes off the base the past two weekends he has went and rented rooms at marriott and this weekend he went to a club as i can see from our bank account online. I really want to believe he is not cheating. My first husband cheated on me alot so it's hard to deal with it happening all over again i would like to think my second husband is a better man. I only live 4 & one half hrs away from the base & he never invites me, he never answers his phone. It is very sad because we have a girl who is about to be 2 at christmas he never calls to see about her or my 7 yr old from a previous marriage. I don't understand why all this happened he didn't even invite me to graduation from basic training which he wouldn't have had if i hadn't helped legalize him in this country. He is coming home in 2 weeks i moved out of my apt & i'm planing on divorcing him anybody see hope in this or understand this

[Christinew]

Have you asked him about the hotel room rental? Perhaps he just wanted to get away from the base housing and not arrive drunk on base after the club??? Depending where he is located has alot to due with the amount of money hes withdrawing. Have you asked him about you seeing him? If he acts standoffish he's probably up to no good

[Julia6788]

I don't think so! Sounds like he enjoys the single life more than the marriage. He is more into himself and probably liking the attention the women are giving him because of the uniform. His behavior is indicating to you that he is up to no good. You know in your heart what you have to do.

[bogidu]

Sounds like you've already decided and taken a course of action. He has a 2 year-old and doesn't check on her?? Sounds like you not only need a new husband, but your children need a real father.

[pumper]

Hotel rentals and the club. Sounds shaky to me. I would say that he is chaeting. I used to be in the military and have seen this before. Guys think that she aint going to leave me. She needs me and the military benefits. Tell him that you are going to leave him See if he changes his tune. Or better yet, show up at his base or follow him. Either way, you will know.

[MWestbrook]

He may not be cheating, at all. The money could have been for drinks with the guys and everyone went in on the cost of a room so no one would have to drive home. I completely understand your position. This man is immature. IMMATURE!! If a man wants to be with his wife, he will drive the 4 1/2 hrs. to see her, it's as simple as that. I'd do this: Sit him down and have a LONG discussion. Listen without interrupting him and use short but direct communication. Men tend to tune women out after about 3 minutes. Tell him what you NEED from your marriage. If he isn't mature enough to comply, flee. At 35, men just don't change.