Online affairs ?

[scouse09]

Do you think its fine to flirt and get personal online if you have a gf/bf , wife/husband etc or would you still class it as cheating ? I mean is it really an affair ,as its online and can they really evolve to something more serious ?Will just add it's not what I would do, but a bloke at work thinks its fine and wont matter as he says its not real

[Laura6347]

Yeah, that's cheating, flirting with another person if you're already in a relationship, you should know this!

[lu92649]

it's still cheating. I know from both sides of the coin - and an intimate emotional affair can be every bit as damaging (maybe more so) than a physical one

[3Misty3]

Well you have to think of how your partner will feel.Its just a laugh and it dosn't mean nything bacause you don't know them but will your partner feel th same way?

[SortaKindaMaybe]

its not cheating, inappropriate yes, but not cheating... as long as it doesn't go beyond online messaging.

[blackrose320]

i talk to guys on the comp...i talk to guys that gf's and a wife and kids......and they love me...they r awsome and so sweet.

[taterbabie_4u9398]

cheating is cheating..................and yes people have met offline and people have been married it does happen and it is still cheating .............it is totally wrong...............

[subhra]

its a cheap thing do ...its pure cheating

[briansands]

Yes, they can evolve into a more serious problem.It starts out innocent, but then it becomes an emotional affair. It is not a large step from there to a physical affair.

[mumtazmahal]

Yes, there are real feeling involved so yes I would say it is cheating.

[jatay]

My best friend's dad left her mom for a woman he met online, so yes it really does evolve sometimes. I think chatting online with someone else is okay, but you have to draw the line somewhere when it comes to the flirting. I always ask myself, how would I feel if my husband were doing this with another woman? That usually answers my question of whether or not I should be doing something.

[blackhawk22811111111]

in the words of axl rose u can anything u want but ya better not take it from me

[daljack4253]

It's cheating and just as harmful and hurtful as a physical affair.If this happened to me there would be some very serious talking.

[Becca1932]

Yeah it is.Just because it's not physical doesn't mean that it doesn't count!You're toying with emotions, and that's not a good thing.

[ZackAttack1992]

Its not cheating unless you start divulging personal info or decide to meet. Otherwise, it is harmless fun.

[o0okaylieo0o]

anything you wouldn't do infront of your spouse is cheating. If you're spouse is sitting right here watching you and is okay with it. then whatever do what ya gotta do, but until then stop chatting with what could be nasty old perverts and spend some time with your g/f/b/f wife/husband!!!

[MG]

It is cheating. Just because there is nothing physical involved, doesn't mean it is innocent. I would be very suspicious if my wife carried on like that. Even if a person has no intention of going through with anything, I think it is still wrong.

[pussycat0895]

No, I don't think it is okay. It is fine to chat with others and make friends from afar, but if you are talking about something you can't share with your partner, then you know it is wrong. Bet you wouldn't like your partner doing the same thing.

[SW]

thats tough. i wouldn't consider it an affair- however the more you talk to somebody the closer you become, even if you're ot able to see them, and that can be damaging to the other party involved. words are just as powerful as actions.

[TracyM1633]

Yes, the person is flirting so it is cheating....it can evolve into something more serious....they get to know each other online and of course you only hear the good stuff online so it will make them want to meet in person.

[morningglory]

This topic really steams me up! Yes it can evolve into something more serious. And yes it is cheating in a way. Who do you think they are flirting with on the other end of the connection? A person. I think people should be loyal to their mates. Off and online.

[remoserjr107]

Yes, it's terrible, if you have a partner or spouse! But, myself, being unattached, it is just Great!

[nightbutterfly69]

it is cheating, its like an emotional affair.

[RobertP]

No, I don't think it's fine.It appears indicative that you are not very happy with the relationship that you already have.These "affairs" can become very intense, but they are not real. The characters on line are esentially one dimensional, how can you possibly know if there is any chemistry between you?On whether it is cheating or not, how woud you feel if your partner was having an intense relationship with someone on-line?Does that answer your question?

[CherylP]

This is one of those questions in life that doesn't have a good answer.Rule of thumb regarding anything in a relationship: What will my significant other think? And that is your answer.Some people believe that flirting is cheating in your mind. Others think flirting is fun. I have be married for quite a while, and think flirting is fun. My husband on the other hand does not. I love my husband, I honor my vows, and no longer flirt. My choice.

[JayD]

think it is fine if you have no nasty motives behind the "affair"..We live in a world where one needs their own "space" from every one around them, and the on line affair will for once allow them to achieve that..and if it evolves into something more serious....then what the hell!..go for it..life's too short to live in misery!

[emilybronte2005]

I don't think it's fine at all.It means you are not living in reality.Not paying attention to what really matters.It means you are escaping, fantasising and giving your time and energy to ...well....an illusion.Stick to Yahoo answers for a bit of stress relief and escapism.Much safer. x

[Kmott]

I would say yes. If you are having an emotional relationship with someone other that your significant other it is still cheating. Personal connection always evolve into something more and if you really love your gf, bf, hubby, or wife you wouldn't want to flirt with some stranger on the internet.

[outofcontrol]

cheating to me is anything you keeping away from your spouse.like phone calls, text, email, chats or friendship on the net, etc, .bottom line yes its an affair.

[pissykrissyann5227]

That all depends on what you and your s.o. think actually

[black_andz_white]

Its called CHEATING

[pugger40]

no that's nothing but lust and could be hurt full to those on line as well as bf/gf

[Jackie7524]

Personally, it is one thing in my book to get online and look at porn. That is fine. Whatever. But to actually begin talking to someone and get to know someone else in an intimate (although not physically intimate, but emotionally and possibly get "intimate" by talking about sexual things) is completely different I would classify that as cheating. And actually, I think I would be more hurt if I found out they were looking somewhere else for EMOTIONAL satisfaction than if they were just out having a drunk one night stand. They are actually having a relationship with this person-involving feelings-and I do believe they can evolve into something more serious. So-no-it is not ok to flirt with someone else online or in person. The only person you are supposed to "flirt" with is your significant other-PERIOD. If you do go out of your way to flirt with someone else-that is just showing you have no respect for your partner in my book.

[JesusA]

An affair is an affair by what ever name you disguise it. It is still an affair. Today's morals are too loose and my comments may seem out dated but the question you should be asking is "what if my boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife are having a cyber affair, how would I feel". Remember you need to consider the feelings of the other person who up to this point thinks or feels they are fidel in their relationship with you only to find out (and find out they will) you have been flirting with so and so. Feelings are very fragile and can be broken quicker than you think and as Humpty Dumpty knows can not be put back together again. So ask first, is my present relationship worth risking over a cyber affair? If the answer is YES, go for it. Just remember how many people have ended up in jail, killed and otherwise hurt through cyber relationships. Just read the 6 o'clock or 10 o'clock news and one can find out about the one that traveled to Podunk City USA to meet their cyber throb only to find out they were lured off to somewhere and never heard of again. Don't play with fire 'les you are willing to get torched. Yes, cyber affairs can get very serious, out of hand and often do.

[lady_phoenix393599]

"Cheating" is ANYTHING you do that you would NOT do if your spouse was looking over your shoulder.Online sex, flirting, etc...is cheating.

[womble]

yeah it can.... and why the hell would anyone who was happy in a realtionship wanna flirt with someone else...wether it was online or in person

[ChristAlmighty]

Of course it's cheating! Not any difference from WANTING to hump someone else than actually DOING so. Have some people not heard of honesty & trust. Do unto others, etc.

[candolim_imp]

If an emotional relationship has developed, then it's cheating. The emotional commitment a partner makes to someone else is the most damaging part of an affair. A purely physical encounter with no emotional involvement is usually easier to cope with and move on from than the knowledge that a loved one has been emotionally intimate with someone else. That being the case, it doesn't matter whether it's in person or online, the betrayal is the same.

[ImFAMOUSBaby]

id say it shows how bored they r in their 'relationship'?