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HAVEHADPROBABLYWILL
01-29-2007, 04:11 AM
and our sexual relationship does not compare to what I have had in the past , but I do love my husband reguardlessof how i long for and remember [ the sex , not the man ]is this wrong ? am I being unfaithful ? unfair ?
MarcM
01-31-2007, 09:47 AM
It's not wrong, and you aren't being either unfaithful or unfair.Just do what you can to improve your sex life with your current husband. Communicate, and let him know what you want... and you will both be happier. I'm sure if it's not spectacular for you, he's not delighted with it either. Work on it together, like you both would for any other problem.
Jac
02-02-2007, 03:23 PM
No, you are not.
AC
02-04-2007, 08:59 PM
No probably not. I think everyone has that one person who was just their wildest fock, and they think about them from time to time. I know I do anyway. Doesn't mean I love my man any less, or would ever go back to the other guy, even if it was just for a good time.
corn
02-07-2007, 02:35 AM
You can't help what you remember from the past. As long as you don't act on it, remembering if alright. Just see it as your ex as someone you can look back every once in a while and your husband to remind you how far you've come in life.
blackbane21
02-09-2007, 08:11 AM
In your question you used the words "always remember". If you are never "there" in your current experience this would indicate something you should seek professional help with, you can speak to marriage councelors or therapists to find answers and help direct you further.If that was a typo then no, infrequent visitations of previous experiences help ground us in reality. They give us something to help us appreciate what we have. Especially since memories are just flashes of a past we left behind.
DebbieAnnJ
02-11-2007, 01:47 PM
good memories are good.But you and your guy should be having better sex if it is not all that great.Ask him if he is really satisfied I'm sure he cant possible be.Tell him you would like to try some new positions My hubby and I do a few positions each time and he makes sure I have more than one orgasm each time..usually 4 to 6.Sometimes all it takes is that new position to hit the right spot...Most guys get really turned on when they know they are pleasing you......