32 years of marriage

[Mary Anne]

Hi Everyone. How do you learn to to cope with the anger and depresion of being cheated on after 32 years of marriage? :(

[SerenBaker]

Find a support group or a counsellor to help you deal with the feelings you're experiencing. Sometimes it takes outside perspective to help make it manageable. Blessings to you.

[lonelyhousewife35]

I found this forum... this is a start. I totally agree that someone on your side not involved with your relationship personally like a theripist, I can't imagine after 32 years how I would feel, you need all the support you can get! I also write, and express my pain through my "hobby", for me it's through multimedia/videography. Check the "How to Heal Thread" here- others might have posted more ways they are healing. Most importantly, and this is my hardest part personally- try to put yourself first, take care of yourself, your heart is NOT a doormat and you need to protect your precious spirit any way you can during this time. Heartbreak and betrayal is for me the most painful, spiritually draining, emotionally bankrupt position I have ever been in.

Please put yourself first and keep coming back here. We need to stick together.

[starshimmer]

Mary Ann, do you have a strong family support circle in place? How about some trusted friends? Somebody you can really talk to and won't go running to tell it to everbody else?

After 32 years, you have every right to feel that you could trust and respect your husband, and now you have found that you could not. I know you feel that you never will again. But, there is always the chance that the two of you can make this work and put the past behind you. You have been through alot, together and on your own.

Don't give up on yourself. You do not say if you are separated, or divorcing. So I'm assuming that you haven't gotten that far, and that's a good thing. Don't make any rash decisions based on your hurt and anger. Let it be, and if you're not sure about a decison, don't make it until you are.

Take it one day at a time, Mary Ann. Hope you are feeling better.

[jessi_rubin]

OMG i dont think I would be able to stand it, I mean 32 years is a hell lot of time if two people knowing each other for 32 yrs fall apart for some adultry which would be less than say an year or two old then I think that relation shouldn't have been in the first place.

[alexis]

I can not speak for after 32 years of marriage, mine was a relationship that ended after three years. I was still angered for the longest time, even two years after we separated and he never attended my mothers funeral - yet his own mother did.

I had to take things one day at a time, for the longest time. It took even longer to get a decent relationship after this, since that time (98), I have had many relationships (not promiscuous, but actually 1-2-3yr relationships), I have trusted none of them completely, except the one I am in now, which oddly enough I have known this person since the one that broke my heart so long ago.

Things will get better, they just take time and (for me) a good bit of meditation. :)

[KillHim]

That really hurts mate. I suppose he probably was dishonest for a long period of time in the marriage, but you probably wouldnt want to believe it, and by now you would want bygons to be bygons, sorry to hear though.

[titaniumhijau]

I know its will be happen even a small lied. I think most people already did it. Maybe they cover it because don't want they angry each other and divorce or maybe that the best for them. But if its happen to me, i don't know how to said..