Should women be put to death for cheating on a husband who is serving in iraq?

[protossrush]

if you commit to marriage, and to be faithfuland then you're husband has to go to a desert in the middle east be busy 24/7 an fighting for their life and never have time to have any fun at allis it fair for a woman who is committed to a relationship an gettin finacial benefits from a young man to cheat on him and be able to still live in the usa without goin to prison or sentence to death?what should happen to her?will she have to pay cash back to him or rent that he payed for while she was living in his home while he was gone or food etc that was payed to her while she was cheating and being unfaithful??? what are the consquences??please only smart people talk in herewow people are telling me to move on?you fools she was SLEEPING AROUND WITH OTHER GUY WHILE I WAS SENDING HER MONEY TO LIVE IN MY HOUSE AT THE SAME TIME, SHE NEVER FILED FOR DIVORCE TILL AFTER I MONTHS AFTER SHE HAD BEEN DOING IT AND MILKED ME DRY USING UP ALL MY CASH TO LIVE WHILE DOING NOTHING HERSELF BUT BEING UNFAITHFULits theft is what it is and i want to be payed back in full for the theftwould you give free money/shelter to someone who is betraying you and ruins your life AT THE SAME TIME?some of you are so stupid you don't realize that if YOU ARE UNHAPPY AND WANT TO GO OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE, first step TELL YOUR PARTNER AND ASK FOR A DIVORCEat that point i can kick you out of my house and stop giving you my money before you start cheating aroundIF YOU WAIT YOU DESERVE SOME JAIL TIME THERES NO EXCUSE FOR WAITING DO YOU REALIZE THIS U IDIOTSthere is no excuse cheat while still gettin cash from your partner its called an affair which is a crime in certain statesand should be punishable by a huge fine or death sentence

[dragonfire]

i got no problem with thatalibantalibanit's all good

[sazzyfrazz]

no, this lady commited adultry not murder! jesus mate sounds to me that all that time in iraq has screwed you up! for someone to cheat there must be reason behind it and by the sounds of your idiotic ideas she has escaped just in time!

[TomS]

what are you exactly protecting us from in Iraq?? lol, relax I'm kidding... Listen, women have needs too, it's a risk you took. That's why I am ever so grateful there are men like you protecting me and mine..... Women cheat reguardless if you are in the military or not.... Ask yourself why exactly you had to enter the military and thought it was a good idea to leave your wife and family for 2 years?

[tallerfella]

This is a question of morality, not legality. No one is put to death in the US for committing adultery.

[Amy]

There are no consequences. They can decide to get a divorce or stay together, simple as that.Cheating is wrong under any circumstances but the idea of going to prison or sentenced to death for such is simply absurd.Then again, different cultures, different rules...... But as an American, it's absurd.

[LisaD]

She'll get hers eventually...Karma. But you sound scorned best advice??? Chalk it up to a learning experience, don't let your "other head" do the thinking for you, and move on with your life. Be thankful that you got out now before you had a child with her...then you'd really be paying the price whether you want to or not. My husband married early in the Marine Corps and was divorced with a child within two years of his first marriage. For the EXACT same thing, (cheating wife)Best of luck.

[Armyguy26]

well i think death is alittle much, but yea i agree there should be some kind of major consequence. but you have to realize also that most husbands are cheating on their wives while the husbands are over here too.

[nicksmom]

May I ask do you reside in what country?? Oh and may I ask...WHAT PLANET DO YOU LIVE ON!!!!Okay with that already said....even though it may seem very unmoral or a horrible thing for her to do...you cant put people to death for that reason. If she is the type of person to do that type of thing then having to live with herself is punishment enough...I can't believe I am answering this question...sorry. I think we should though...be putting all the pedifiles out there to death...I am with you there.

[ericl]

Just divorced and have to pay alimony and possibly child support. We have gone too far in our divorce laws. There is big financial rewards for women to cheat on their husbands and then get alimony and child support that more often than not they spend on themselves. If the man gets a better paying job she can get more money and not have to do much work herself. This is in spite of the fact she was the one that threw away the marriage.

[InfernalDisaster]

protossrush: <<"please only smart people talk in here">>You make this statement and yet when I read your post, I don't see it as being written by someone who possesses even a small degree of intelligence - it seems you lack the qualifications to determine what is "smart."I mean, what fool would actually believe such a heinous law would ever be implemented, let alone condone such a law?Look on the bright-side, you may have sunk to a new low with your irrationality on this forum, but at least you have nowhere to go but up given your unhealthy grasp on reality.

[StAnger]

I don't believe in the death penalty UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. If you're just expressing out rage and the question was a tongue in cheek one then I understand and i'd give you a longer and more detailed answer. However, if you're serious then ask an intelligent question and I'll give you an intelligent answer.

[cgspitfire]

I grew up Navy, married Navy (a SEAL no less) and divorced Navy. Never once did I cheat. But before you start going off on the women, what about the sayings that all branches of the military have about what happens when you're away stays away? It's a two way street and I know very few military couples where one or both aren't cheating.

[I_tell_it_like_it_is]

You know, some years back, in a port town here in Canada , there was a saying among people in the military. It went like this " The tide is in , the tide is out". Married ladies , when their husband was home from a tour , would place a box of laundry detergent , Tide, in the window. This would alert their lover(s) that their husband had returned home. When the husband would leave, they would remove the box of Tide. Serving is a very difficult life in that not only are you risking your life every day, but you are also gone, ALOT. I don`t condone what has happened to you , and all women are not like that. You ask what should happen to her, as if it is something where she should be held accountable by a judge and jury; when in fact; you are the only judge and jury as to your relationship woes. Her living as a kept woman while you were away has no bearing on whether she is responsible for her own expenses and food, or money spent. What she is responsible for was her decision to cheat on you. Ultimately it is up for you to decide whether or not you can forgive her, and whether or not a divorce is in order. The decision is yours and yours alone.

[bebo]

why don't we just shove her down your throat? that work for you?

[bearlace]

That's a silly question to begin with, and I assume it's because you're young. First off, it sounds like you were both too immature to get married in the first place. Second, you should marry someone you know well enough to know she will be loyal to her vows no matter where you are. Lonliness is NO excuse for infidelity!! Forget the money and anything else.. divorce her and wait for someone special to share life with. And thank you for being there to keep us safe. We appreciate you!

[BruceM]

Of course. The adulteress should be stoned in the town square.That will show 'em why we're fighting in Iraq.

[tammy]

ARE YOU KIDDING??AND HOW IRONIC THAT YOU STATE AT THE END OF YOUR QUESTION THAT ONLY SMART PEOPLE CAN TALK HERE?!?!!

[AR]

ummmmmm....no. Women should not be put to death. I admire though how you suggest all the cheating is done by the females. Nice work! Phhhffftttt...men are just as capable as women of cheating.I do agree with some laws of "alienation of affection" that are present in some states (I wish they were in Canada too). I think they need to be expanded though. When you are in a marriage, I believe that the partner who cheats holds primary responsibility for the affair and therefore should have to financially compensate their spouse for their infidelity as they have now trashed and ruined that person's life. I also think the person who they have the affair WITH should be held a little bit responsibility and should have to compensate the spouse of their partner, although not to the same extent.

[Stedway]

Whenever I read a post like this, my confidence in human intelligence is shaken.

[ColleenO1810]

Should the man serving in Iraq be put to death for cheating on his wife while over there?

[BobD]

Get over the anger. You choose to serve in the military. Maybe you chose a spouse poorly. With the amount of anger and moronic writing shows you arent much of a catch yourself. If all she did was get some money and a place to live. You got off easy. My ex ran up the bills and took off when there was nothing more she could get. And left me with three kids. And Thank God she left. It was worth it. Maybe Karma but who cares about that and maybe you will grow up which is the important thing.

[sweet2998]

That rule should apply to my husband that cheated on me then. With that being the case I favor to say no to the death penalty because I forgave him and we are closer now than we were before. Good can come out of bad you know. Stop being angry and find a space in your heart to forgive. She is only human you know.

[sarab]

How is it any different if you are away for years on business or in the Peace Corps?? You are the one who agreed to a situation where you would be away for long periods of time. You took the job knowing that there was the liklihood of going to war and fighting for your life. What did you think the military was, a cruise? About providing for her while she is unfaithful, that happens to men all around the world while they are away. It also happens to women too, btw, cheaters will cheat when given the opportunity, whether it is that their partner is away for a few hours, a weekend, a month, or years, whatever. You just need to cut your losses, kick the sl*t out and let that be a lesson to you to be more selective and careful in the future. If you kill her...well...you ask what are the consequences. The consequences are you will end up in jail or in the electric chair. I do not think that is somewhere you want to be, however justified you may feel in killing her (believe me when I found out I got cheated on I wanted to kill him too, I also wanted to chop his balls off and shove them down his throat! ;) As for paying you the cash, rent and support that she got while she was cheating, unfortunately there is no court that will give you that. You will be lucky if she doesn't hit you up for alimony. The only thing I can think of here is if she has a car or property that is in your name, you should dispose of it quickly before the divorce proceedings begin. Then run up a lot of debt (in her name) and ruin her credit. That should teach her a lesson!

[VictoryIsMine]

No she shouldn't, but she deserves to be cut out of her husband's life permanently.

[talos321]

Eh no. It boils down to picking the wrong person. There are guys that I know that earned very much money not serving in a far away place and still the spouse will cheat. Learning experience and maybe direction on whom not to pick later on. Watch subtle attitudes.

[Jackie2847]

Personal experience talking here.....My brother went to Iraq and served for 8 months over there, seeing things that most people can't even imagine and that is worse than what is in nightmares. When he came home injured, his wife left him the very next day for another man. She was cheating on him the whole time. She took their three kids and left. I personally, feel that there is nothing cruel enough out there to torture her. She should be put to a very slow and VERY painful death.

[ME3906]

First...I know from experience that being deployed to Iraq sucks, but some people on here seriously over exaggerate about it all the time. Also...I know many wives that are currently cheating with they're husbands' gone, but I also know of many soldiers who are deployed that are cheating while overseas...it goes both ways.As for the cheating wife, I wouldn't put her to death, I'd find a way to make her live with feeling as horrible as she made her husband and/or children feel for the rest of her life.

[BreakingHeart5547]

You both need to part ways, you need to seek individual counselling to help you manage what she did to you, to get rid of this hostility and to cope with being overseas.She needs to get a restraining order on you. If I had been your wife and I read this I would fear for my life.When you are married things are ours not mine. You need to get over the my money, my house, my this and my that. You were still married so it was both of yours.Please seek help.

[darkening_hope]

It's horrible what she did to you...And yes, there should be some sortive law to punish men or women who do this, while their spouse is deployed.If we began killing women like her for being unfaithful, then we'd have to include everyone else, too...lolJust let God judge her. It will come back to her in some way, shape, or form.The best thing you can do is let this bitterness go and move on. Don't allow her actions to muddle your views on women. I realize that you're one of the Military guys who got screwed over by his wife. (Like in Jarhead) but just know that she is a special breed of scum.There are decent women out there...and someday, you'll find a great one who will love you unconditionally.Keep your head up and stay positive.