It's been 10 yrs since I've had sex w/my husband. If I find someone to fill that need, am I being unfaithful?

[yummydiva]

Hubby is not interested in me sexually, but is still playful and somewhat affectionate. Is it possible to have sex and not get involved emotionally? Sex for the sake of sex? I've lost weight and feel sexier than I have in years. Hubby hasn't even acknowledged the changes.I've made many attempts thru the years, but I get no response. He's perfectly content with things the way they are and would not consider counseling.

[Jay]

Wow 10 years!?? Yeah it's possible to have sex without emotion attached - but nothing beats having sex with someone you have real feelings for. Have you spoken to your husband about the lack of interest?

[AirborneRanger]

If you have sex with someone other than your husband.... Isnt that the definition of being unfaithful?

[shaundord]

honey i would have went out and got me some. but you on the other hand need to come to an agreement with your husband and find out were you stand. maybe he's already sleeping with some one else

[P]

It doesn't matter if it's just sex or love, as long as you are married you are cheating.

[megan_hawk]

Don't do that to yourself. It may sound good now but after you will feel really guilty. nothing will ever let you forget. I don;t know how you feel about Christianity and God but I know that he is always there for you. Pray to him and ask him for advice. He will send you an answer. You never know maybe he will set a spark in your hubby to notice the changes and get involved with you again. I hope everything works out for you!~God Bless~

[Ca]

I think you should speak to your husband. I think it's cheating if your husband is in the dark on the situation. Maybe you guys should go to marriage counseling, that;s an awfully long time to go without sex. Remember, you have needs too, its not just about him.

[singcountrybreeze]

Sex with anyone else, for whatever reason is being unfaithful. Would you want him to do that to you? While it may be a difficult situation, no one ever said life would be easy. I'm soory to hear that you're having to deal with that.

[ScottL]

The best thing about not having sex with him or anyone is that your not going to be getting any STD's! Don't go outside your marriage and bring that filth in. Woman usually have sex with an emotional connection to their partner - doing that too will destroy your marriage. Get him into some counseling or go on your own..self destructive behaviors are just that.

[reinformer]

If you've tried everything, everything, to get him to see you as a sex toy and he still won't take the bait., tell him that you have been 10 years without and think that it's about time you had it. See how he responds. After all, there are many ways to have an orgasm.We all have certain principles that we live by. Different situations can amend those principles. Other entities that can amend my principles are the devil and all bible thumpers.

[risahath]

Have you talked to him about it. 10 years is a long time. Maybe he has a problem that he is embarrassed to talk about. Some men are like that. You really should 'gently' confront him. You would feel badly if you blew your marriage and then found out it was something serious.

[mardix27]

If you have sex with someone other than your husband, then it's considered being unfaithful. It doesn't matter if you are emotionally involved with that person or not. Why don't you run this idea by your husband to see what his reaction is. Does he know how frustrated you are sexually? How much have the two of you discussed this issue over the years? Maybe there's something going on medically with him that can remedy the situation. Or, since your hubby is still playful, why don't you "jump his bones" one night by climbing on top. It might just "arouse" some interest that has been lost over the years. Best of luck to you.

[amazed1998]

It may be unfaithful, however 10 years is a long time. I would explain the situation and tell him if he does not have an interest that is fine, but you intend to fill your needs.We are all human and when a mate no longer shows an interest to our needs we sometimes have to take care of those needs.

[ColleenO0730]

Then divorce him before you decide to cheat on your marriage vows. Or did you forget about them? It was "for better for worse" Not 'for better OR for worse'

[mommy101]

you need to sit down with your husband and talk to him because it sounds as if he might have a sex partner on the side if he is so content. you need to explane to him your needs and if he is not willing to help and to what he needs to as a husband then why is he still your husband. there are more things to a marriage then sex yes i agree but at the same time. if you need something then he should try to help and the same goes for you toward him

[transvainia]

YOU ARE STILL MARRIED...BUT DAMN 10 YEARS?I SAY GO AHEAD AND HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE, ANY COURT WILL SEE WHY YOU DID.JUST KEEP A TIGHT LID ON IT [WINK]...TIGHT....LID....HEHEHE...10 YEARS...DAMN!!!!!!!!