My husband died very recently, but for some reason I have been having strong feelings for his best friend.?

[cantrell619]

I was never unfaithful to my husband in our 13 year marriage. And I have never had these kind of feelings for his best friend before. Is this normal?

[superlawyerwoman]

Your feelings may be an extension of what you felt for your husband. Your husbands best friend may be the next closest thing to your husband, he may remind you a lot of your husband.

[KimmiBoBimmi]

well if he passed just recently, youre feelings are very normal! you just need to relax and have a best friend over and talk and go out keep ur mind off what happend. Give it time before you start thinking of sum1 else. Sorry for your loss

[lotsandlots7807]

I am truly sorry for your loss. but yes, I read about it somewhere, not sure where. It is common, & part of the greiving process.

[JDOG]

GET R DONE YOU SHOULD GO OUT WITH HIM IM SURE THAT YOUR DEAD HUSBAND WOULD NOT CARE.... IM SURE HE WAS A COOL GUY AND WOULD BE THERE IF HE COULD JUST TRY NOT TO THINK OF ALL THOSE GOOD TIME DONT FEEL LIKE HE IS WATCHING YOU.. BUT HE IS. YOU ARE A GOOD CHRISTIAN

[misbotta]

I think it is normal. You are lonely and looking for companionship and someone to lean on during your time of grief. This doesn't make you a bad person and I am sure you didn't have these feeling previously. Loosing your husband is a horrible thing to have to go through. You are so use to having him there when emotional things are going on in your life. Now you have this extremely emotional situation to deal with and who do you lean on? You and his best friend knew him better than anyone else. You comfort one another and the need to replace the physical and emotional loss you are going through is like a magnet connecting the two of you. Don't feel badly. Do what you need to do for yourself and don't worry about what others think. They have NO idea what you are going through.

[elizabeth_davis28]

who is to say what is or is not normal, maybe you just need a good friend right now,don't rush into nothing

[danil]

it's normal. it's easy to fall in love with ur hubby's best friend because he and ur hubby must have shared d same interest that makes him and ur hubby alike.