Am I being selfish?

[DEBRAG]

I have been married 3 times, 1st, 7 years, divorced because he was abusive and unfaithful, 2nd ,10 years divorced because fighting and problems with my child from 1st. Now my husband won`t work, trying to get on disability, drinks all the time, in bars everyday. Still asleep every morning when I go to work, doesn`t do much housework. I have voicemails after voicemail, him telling me how much he hates me and other things. When he wasn`t drawing any money, I paid all bills and months at a time lived with my parents because of how he treated me. He says I let him down because I didn`t support him emotionally when he was injured, but how could I when all he wanted to do was go to bars while I worked. He has since got a huge settlement and has already blown over 50,000.00 mostly on him. Everytime I try to tell him how I feel he turns everything on me, it`s all my fault. He has two vehicles and my car needs alot of work but I can`t afford to fix it. Am I being selfish because I want to leav

[Esther]

Wow, you sure know how to pick em...

[NiceLady]

I think you need to figure out why you make such bad choices with the men you marry. I think you should finish raising your daughter by yourself. I feel sorry for her most of all.

[justinb]

leave him just do it your not being selfish he is not you he just so stuck in his proud to see that you are trying to help him

[Sonadora]

your a loser magnet...........I would consider taking a shower with holy water to this hex off of you........

[Garrettsmom]

Wow. You must be drawn to dip sh*t's. No, your not being selfish. Leave his low down ass behind. He is just like your other 2 husbands, a loser.

[SarahK0831]

If anyone is being slefish it is him.It seems to be that the only reason he is with you is for a roof over his head.Please leave him as soon as possible and take some time for yourself without a husband!

[LaketaJ]

No it seems like you are falling for the wrong people! Who ever you are! You are better than that! trust me!

[lovebug123]

I think after two husbands, your self esteem must have dropped very low, for you to have married this man. By letting him treat you this way, you are showing that you still think very little of yourself. It's time you stand up for yourself. Either he straightens up, or you're out the door.

[wildone]

No your not being selfish your thinking of your child and your self as you should, just because your current husband had an injury doesn't give him the right to be such an a** maybe because of his injury ( the pain he is in) is the reason he drinks so much he's trying to drink away his pain and his emotional needs aren't being met by anyone or anything but the booze and that's his fault not yours... Talk with him about this and if he's unwilling to change his behavior then move on with out him there are plenty of other fish in the sea

[BowHunter]

Get out now while he still has money to take !

[xcmepx]

Sanity is worth more than money. Save yourself.!!! You deserve someone who'll love and give you what you need! Life is too short to waste.

[Perkymo]

I feel badly for you, because you obviously don't want to be alone and now on to your third marriage. I think you should get out of this relationship and before he blows anymore of that settlement, get your fair share. Is there any way you can get some of that money so you can fix your car and move out and start fresh without him knowing, I would. I think you have every right to your fair share. If he is telling you that he hates you, then leave. He is the selfish one. Once you leave, don't go looking for the next guy. Perhaps just concentrate on yourself and making yourself happy. Wouldn't you rather be alone with lots of great friends and doing what you want and not having to live in misery because of a husband and just enjoy life? I think it's time you think of yourself. Be strong. Hugs!

[tanyat]

hey c'mon make a move leave tht ****** n live ur life.....n i suggest u something u can live a very better life without ur husband...jst live alone n u vl a very good life thn u r living now..think abt it n move on

[krandazzo1986]

STAY SINGLE WOMAN!

[crystalg]

Girl, I will tell you exactly what I think... You can do bad all by yourself. You don't need a worthless man to drag you down. Leave him and better yourself without him. He is only dragging you down. He is not worth your time or effort. Get rid of his sorry butt!

[verrico98]

No way. Not only should you leave, you should run. What is past is past, you should focus on your current situation and he sounds like a self absorbed loser that does not deserve a wife. If you need support talk to a friend, clergy, etc. But this relationship is not going anywhere, you need to get out of it.

[Samara]

You don't need him in your life. He's a jerk! move-on and never turning back!

[ayoungwomanonearth]

Sounds to me as though your entire life is being spent on making bad decisions. But you probably already know that now you have read your question a few times over and over.

[wilmas6757]

By all means leave at all cost it's only going to get worse trust me..I know..Stay strong and God Bless get out while you still can....Don't get married again just the same song different words

[summer]

Leave him.I have been where you are now it only get worst.He don't deserve your love or care.Take your child and neverlook back.He is the one who is selfish.

[LarryM]

Nope Leave run as fast as you can.