Hi, My huband Sucks!

[Becky]

My husband sucks! I'm at home right now with our two kids, both sick, one is running a fever. I'm not feeling to great either. Where's my husband? Out drinking with his friends. He says he works hard and deserves a break. When do I get a break??! A couple years ago I found out he was cheating on me, I actually saw the woman, can't believe he was actually thinking of leaving me for that! Anyway, in their 3 month relationship she said she was pregnant and had to get an abortion. But for some reason we are still together, and as you can probably tell, I'm not quite over the ordeal he put me through. It really messed me up. I was and I think I still am --depressed. I'm just hoping that someday soon a bus will hit him as he crosses a street. For some reason I'd rather be a widower than a divorcee.

[Jewel]

I understand your distress. I often feel that same depression when I'm sitting at home alone and my husband text messages (not even calls!) me to say that he'll be out late with friends. We don't have children, but we were trying to get pregnant a few months ago. I'm just glad that I found out what has been going on now, before anything else happened.

[lonelyhousewife35]

My husband sucks! I'm at home right now with our two kids, both sick, one is running a fever. I'm not feeling to great either. Where's my husband? Out drinking with his friends. He says he works hard and deserves a break. When do I get a break??! A couple years ago I found out he was cheating on me, I actually saw the woman, can't believe he was actually thinking of leaving me for that! Anyway, in their 3 month relationship she said she was pregnant and had to get an abortion. But for some reason we are still together, and as you can probably tell, I'm not quite over the ordeal he put me through. It really messed me up. I was and I think I still am --depressed. I'm just hoping that someday soon a bus will hit him as he crosses a street. For some reason I'd rather be a widower than a divorcee.

Becky,
I'm sorry your going through this, as I am depressed myself and fighting my own emotionless marriage I don't know how much support I can be. But I want you to know your not alone at home, there are many of "us" alone at home. Three years is a long time, don't you think it's time you let go of the anger and started healing yourself? From my personal experience with the help of my best friend I discovered that my anger was rage turned inwards, when she gave me permission to express my rage outwards and to let go of my anger and direct it at the one who hurt me, I was finally able to let it go and now I am going through the sorrow and the healing process, as you saw in my video I made.

I'm thinking about you sweety.

[jessi_rubin]

You should have filed a divorcee then only when you got to know that he was having an affair with some woman. It doesnt make any sense when his family is sick and he is having a great time outside. How mean of him even if he is not seeing some other woman still he should be home and taking care of his children and wife after all they do have half his blood inside them.

[savannah]

You do sound depressed, Becky. Have you tried talking to anyone close to you about how you are feeling? Did you and your husband look for any kind of counseling when all that happened with the other woman?

Actually, I get the feeling you just didn't do anything but try to wait it out. That can be a very hard road to walk, cause then it seems to your husband as though you have simply "accepted" what he did, and he gets the impression he can pretty well do as he pleases with no consequences to answer to.

Do find somebody you can confide in, Becky. It seems to me you are simply biding time in a relationship you do not have the courage to want to change, and yet as it is, it's sapping all your strength and leaving you with little of what you need and want in your life.

Make some changes for you, and not for what you think he needs.