How Are YOU feeling today?

[lonelyhousewife35]

Today, I need to get out of the house with my baby. I have to force myself to do it. But I know I will feel better if we can get out just the two of us. So hopefully we will get to the petting zoo. She is only 11 months old, but I'll have my videocam to help her remember it.

Have a great day.
lonelyhousewife35

[Jewel]

I hope you have a good time, and I hope you have fun with your daughter. I don't know what I'm going to do today. I think I'm going to go out and do some shopping, wait for my husband to get home and maybe today I'll confront him.

[lonelyhousewife35]

Thank you... I did have a good time with my baby. It took the attention off of my pain.
How are you today?

[Jewel]

I'm alright today. My husband decided to take today to hang out with some "friends". I need to confront him, I really do. I just don't know how to bring up the subject. I feel weak, and I feel like I'm letting him walk all over me.

[Pantera]

Jewel, Before you do, gather ALL your facts together to help keep you on track. Even if you have to write them down. I'm sure the emotions are going to be going high, so you will need to have a way to stay on the issues that you want to confront him with.

[lonelyhousewife35]

Exatly what Jewel said.

[Pantera]

Comeon you two...reach deep within and do it for yourself and your children!! I PROMISE you it DOES get better!

[Jewel]

Well, I did it. I confronted him. I told him that I found his pictures and I also got a copy of his cell phone bill. There were numerous calls (between 11 PM and 4 AM every night) to another cell phone not far from here. There were also text messages from somebody named Caitlyn talking about how fun things will be "when they finally get to see eachother". He didn't say anything, he just left. That was late last night, when he got home. I haven't talked to him yet today, but he hasn't been back home. I got a phone call from a friend saying that he was staying at his house. I feel more empowered, but I still feel horrible, especially because I don't know what I'm going to do.

[lonelyhousewife35]

[QUOTE=Jewel;81]Well, I did it. I confronted him. I told him that I found his pictures and I also got a copy of his cell phone bill. There were numerous calls (between 11 PM and 4 AM every night) to another cell phone not far from here. There were also text messages from somebody named Caitlyn talking about how fun things will be "when they finally get to see eachother". He didn't say anything, he just left. QUOTE]


That's hard.
Hold on to that empowered feeling- your going to need it. I'm proud of you for confronting him. His leaving sounds typical. It just baffels my mind how some of these men will do anything to avoid coming clean. Even if it is disrespectful to the one person they vowed to and it compromises the marriage.

My heart goes out to you.

[Jewel]

He came back today.

And now he's decided that he's going to deny everything. He denies that he gets out of bed to take strange calls. He denies that he's been text messaging "Caitlyn", and he says that he took the pictures "just for fun". He acts as if nothing happened. The fact that he is dismissing all the evidence as if it's nothing is really starting to get to me.

[lonelyhousewife35]

He came back today.

And now he's decided that he's going to deny everything. He denies that he gets out of bed to take strange calls. He denies that he's been text messaging "Caitlyn", and he says that he took the pictures "just for fun". He acts as if nothing happened. The fact that he is dismissing all the evidence as if it's nothing is really starting to get to me.

Is'nt it funny how they would rather put more energy in denying than just admitting they are human and stupid and screwed up? Maybe it takes way more energy for them to acknowledge and confront the pain they cause the one they love and that is why it is easier for them to avoid it.

Are you seeing a counslor or anyone who can help support your feelings? Who knows maybe denile (sorry I can't spell) is the first step for them to recover the relationship.

[lonelyhousewife35]

Today...Whoopie is on The View...
I am going to take a shower... I stink and I'm crunchy... :eek:
Fight the depression... "Get it together girl!" I keep telling myself that.
I went to the grocery store last night with my baby and my dad who is dieing of cancer, I moved him in with me last month. Just before we left for the store my husband and I had a breakthrough ... he expressed to me he wanted a marriage without emotions.
(sigh...sad grin).... I sobbed infront of my dad... didn't want to... he dosn't need to see this.
As I pushed the cart through the isles I wished for a stranger to come and rescue me, take me away, take me in under their wings and protect me from an emotionless marriage. I looked around as I shopped, but no one noticed me. But I had my daughter and my dad. I'm glad I have them. I just wish I didn't have to put them through this.

That is how I am feeling right now.... thanks for your ear.

[Jewel]

I feel alright today, I guess. It's just hard seeing my relationship deteriorate so quickly. We've been together since high school! It's so weird to see him and think of him as this horrible person when we were once so in love. How does this happen? I wish somebody could explain this to me. But I know it's no use, even if I knew how, that wouldn't stop it from happening, now would it?

We haven't been talking at all. He's been home, but we don't talk. We haven't said one word to each other since my last post.