Didn't know where else to go....

[twiceshy]

I am married to a serial cheater. We have been together 18 years, we got together when I was 15. For most of the years we were fine, however, over the past couple of years he keeps cheating. The first one I found out about was 2 years ago, and there were 3 of them, all of them he worked with, 2 of them I knew well. I nearly died, had to get on anti-depressants, the whole 9 yards. I felt like I was just getting past it all and found out a month ago he cheated again, this time with my best friend of 14 years. They say they didn't go "all the way," but they did do things intimately below the waists, if you get my meaning. Both are trying to salvage the relationships with me, both say they are sorry, but I feel like if I stay in these relationships I am enabling this behavior. We tried counceling, he lied so much we got nowhere. (He doesn't think he has a problem, he says he just made a mistake) I am lost and tired of being a victim, but we have four young children, financial resposibilities, and just for an extra kick, my best friend is also my business partner. I feel trapped....Is there anyone that can help me with what direction I should be looking in?
Amy

[lie_lee]

Hi !

well ,you have come to write place. I mean't this forum. As far as the situation, you mentioned, is concerned, it sound terrible.
I guess, you have go to far in love, and he is just trying some alternatives of yours.
As your friend is your business partner as well, so try to sort out the problem associated with business first, try to find some way to sepearate her from your business. She can't be trusted now. She is not your friend anymore.
As he has been with you, for quite long time, so you can try some professional consuelling, that would help you , to find the missing element in your relationship.
I hope that it would help you.
Be in touch with all of us.

[valerie03281986]

I know your pain. I haven't dealt with it for quite so long but none the less I understand. About a year before me and my husband got married he slept with my best friend of 17 years(my childhood friend). Over the past 6 years we have been together, has cheated on me over 10-12 times and those are the occasions I have found out about. One person can only take so much the last time, I actually went and picked up divorce papers and seen a lawyer, but somethin always draws you back and esspecially when you have small children we have 2 under 3 so I understand. And with me I am a stay a home mom so I am stuck too. Your friend on the other hands you have to cut her off somehow, You will never mend that friendship, we never did we tried but you will never feel the same about that person.

Good Luck with everything, You are not alone.
I hope things get better.

[its_lonelyhousewife35]

Valerie, although my join date is new, I am not new to this site... I have forgot my pass word so if you want to look up my previous post's just search for "lonelyhousewife35" ...... anyway, I wanted to tell you how much I appreciate your strength in sharing your story, and strength in trying to stay in the marriage. I can relate to .... your feeling stuck as a stay@home mom.... but, my life has changed dramatically since this past summer, after I left with only my baby, the clothes on my back, and a coffee can filled with coins. If you want to hear more about my story and possibly share a friendship I ensourage you to visit my youtube channel.... I made a video to help me heal, and it was the best theirpy for me. http://www.youtube.com/lonelyhousewife35 I also have a playlist and a group up of resources to help women like us.

Sincerely,
lonelyhousewife35

[cherg]

I am so sorry for your pain. I have to agree with the other posters though, if your business partner is cheating with your husband, what else is she cheating on? I don't think she should be trusted! As for your man, well I think it is time to show him the door!

[usarecred]

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