molly
08-14-2007, 10:05 PM
Would like your opinions on what i should do.
Firstly I am married 9 years. In 2000 we began to have problems, i suspected him of having an affair but could never prove it. We did split up briefly in 2001. We were out on a night out with friends which included the girl i suspected him of having the affair with. She approached me and starting mouthing off, i walked away and went outside, she followed and so did my husband. To make a long story short, she denied saying anything and my husband turned to me and said he was sick of this and he was leaving. We were split up for a few weeks however he asked me back. I have since found out he was having an affair with this girl from 2000 up until 20002 a full year after he had asked me to give him another chance. I gave him the chance as he denied everything at the time and i wondered if i was being silly giving up when i had no proof.
Recently in Dec 2006 a girl was emailing him and he denied being married or having 3 kids. He was telling her he would be back over to her soon as she lives in Canada, he met her on one of his business trips. He denied anything happened.
May 2007 i caught him emailing a girl from sweeden it started with to my beautiful ???. I asked to see the mail but he wouldn't let me, he said its not what i was thinking and he would not hurt me like that again. He turned to me and said you know i love you and i would never do anything to hurt you.
May 2007 I received a phone call from Poland looking for my husband. To make a long story short she told me she was in a relationship with him since the beginning of 2006. I was devastated. I had no idea. When he was going on his work trips he would take an extra day or two and fly to see her as well. He told her so many lies. He was telling me it was me he wanted to be with but he went behind my back and told her he was going to leave and was there anyway she could forgive him. I found this out as we kept in contact after i first found out. He explained this as he was trying to keep her sweet as he was afraid she would send some personal video he sent to her. I did get it on it he is declaring his undying love for her and how he couldn't wait to make her is wife.
What is wrong with him, what is wrong with me, he has done many other things but i kept separating each incident hoping next itme will be different. Now when i look back at all the things he has done to me as a whole why did i allow this to happen.
Right now i'm in limbo. Do i try and make it work for the children or do i walk away. Part of me wants to walk away and part wants to stay, but i'm gussing that part is for the kids sake. Any advice would be helpful
Firstly I am married 9 years. In 2000 we began to have problems, i suspected him of having an affair but could never prove it. We did split up briefly in 2001. We were out on a night out with friends which included the girl i suspected him of having the affair with. She approached me and starting mouthing off, i walked away and went outside, she followed and so did my husband. To make a long story short, she denied saying anything and my husband turned to me and said he was sick of this and he was leaving. We were split up for a few weeks however he asked me back. I have since found out he was having an affair with this girl from 2000 up until 20002 a full year after he had asked me to give him another chance. I gave him the chance as he denied everything at the time and i wondered if i was being silly giving up when i had no proof.
Recently in Dec 2006 a girl was emailing him and he denied being married or having 3 kids. He was telling her he would be back over to her soon as she lives in Canada, he met her on one of his business trips. He denied anything happened.
May 2007 i caught him emailing a girl from sweeden it started with to my beautiful ???. I asked to see the mail but he wouldn't let me, he said its not what i was thinking and he would not hurt me like that again. He turned to me and said you know i love you and i would never do anything to hurt you.
May 2007 I received a phone call from Poland looking for my husband. To make a long story short she told me she was in a relationship with him since the beginning of 2006. I was devastated. I had no idea. When he was going on his work trips he would take an extra day or two and fly to see her as well. He told her so many lies. He was telling me it was me he wanted to be with but he went behind my back and told her he was going to leave and was there anyway she could forgive him. I found this out as we kept in contact after i first found out. He explained this as he was trying to keep her sweet as he was afraid she would send some personal video he sent to her. I did get it on it he is declaring his undying love for her and how he couldn't wait to make her is wife.
What is wrong with him, what is wrong with me, he has done many other things but i kept separating each incident hoping next itme will be different. Now when i look back at all the things he has done to me as a whole why did i allow this to happen.
Right now i'm in limbo. Do i try and make it work for the children or do i walk away. Part of me wants to walk away and part wants to stay, but i'm gussing that part is for the kids sake. Any advice would be helpful