Lies, lies and more lies

[SerenBaker]

My ex could never seem to understand that the lying got to me more than the cheating itself. He would lie about everything under the sun and then when I caught him and he couldn't lie, he would just go quiet and stupid. We went through his cheating online twice in two years (twice in major relationships--not counting the other weird crap) and finally I told him to get out.

[lonelyhousewife35]

Yes, I can relate to the lies on top of lies. Mine also includes: definsive, anger, avoidence, evasion, and blaming me, turning it around on me, and excuses. But not yet a true, heartfelt, serious reason as to why...and that apoligy- that one apoligy that my heart can hear. Right now he is still lieing to himself, he is in denile and would rather pretend it never happended instead of doing the work it takes to help us heal from this.

[lonelyhousewife35]

I'm scared that if there is no true coming clean and acknowleding the perminant scar he has left behind- and only mending my heart with truth, love, compassion, honesty, and respect is the only way for our marriage to grow stong. Otherwise it is going to fall apart eventually.

[savannah]

The lies are the hardest thing to fight, really. My husband got so defensive when I would catch him in one, it always resulted in a big fight, whether it started out that way or not.

It got to the point where I didn't even want to talk to him, or ask him about anything, cause I never knew when something would set him off.

We would go for long periods where we lived in these big "silences". It was awful. I never even knew what to say to break it because I wasn't the one who lied in the first place.

[jessi_rubin]

When a person is on defesive then only weapon he has is lies. Lies often follow more lies till it becomes impossible to digest them. Eventually he knows that he will be caught still he lies for the purpose of extending the D-day. It does irritates when you know that he is lieing and you know the truth. But alas this is life and you better face it through the court room.

[titaniumhijau]

My ex could never seem to understand that the lying got to me more than the cheating itself. He would lie about everything under the sun and then when I caught him and he couldn't lie, he would just go quiet and stupid. We went through his cheating online twice in two years (twice in major relationships--not counting the other weird crap) and finally I told him to get out.
Hoho. Its depend on you. Everyone will lies at least once in their life. I don't think its too easy to find out anyone who lies to others people. But if you want to lies with me, i think its a big mistake girls. I know how you lie to me..

Ehm..actually, its up to you want to kick your ex from your life. If you think its a good move. Just do it :)